What do I say to people that ask about my scars without making them uncomfortable?

Honestly, if they are asking about something personal like that, they shouldn't be uncomfortable with your answer. If they are, they have no business asking

Well I think your answer should vary based on the age of people asking. If a child asks you I often tell them they're from a hard time where bad things happened and it's hard to talk about. They usually don't pry too much after that. If it's teenagers they probably know what they're from and are just wondering how open you are about it. This can be because they are looking to be cruel or because they are going through the same thing and want to know if you'll talk about it, so there you sort of have to make a judgement call on how kind you think this person is. For adults just explain vaguely saying something like "I was going through a hard time". If they ask more questions keep answers short. They will be able to only ask as much as they're comfortable hearing. I hope this helps :)

Scars are something that people without them will never understand. For this reason it is hard to explain to these people what they mean to us and what they stand for. Personally I answer like this "these scars are something that show how strong of a person I am. They show how hard i've fought to get where I am now; and even though I may not have gotten to the light at the end of the tunnel, these scars are proof that I am trying"

If people ask about your scars it can be hard to explain as a lot of people judge. If you think the person is a genuine, down to earth and you trust them you could just tell them. But if it is someone who isn't so down to earth you could just say you have had a hard time and don't want to talk.

I say that I fell down when I was taking a walk in the forest and the twigs scratched my wrist, or I say that my cat scratched me.

Truly, there isn’t any one way to say it. I respond differently depending on who I’m speaking to. I’ve had kids I nanny say “Owwie? You got hurt?” This breaks my heart, but I say “Yes, but I’m okay now. So don’t worry.” Most adults won’t ask. Very few might. If they’re asking, it depends on how close to them I am. Are they someone I work with? Is this a close friend? Is this a potential partner or someone I’m dating already? Then, it comes down to- what are YOU comfortable with? Personally, unless I am in a low space and need to vent, I usually keep it neutral. I speak about it without emotion, and then switch the subject if necessary. But truly, there are definitely approaches for everyone. Trust that, you’ll always say what you’re meant to in each moment- regardless of the reaction. But remember that- your scars don’t make you any less lovely, or worth knowing. You have to feel that in your whole heart because it’s the truth. ♡

you could tell them that you had issues with yourself in the past and that you have changed. just because you have scars doesnt mean you should be afraid to answer someones question. it was thier choice to ask and you should answer honestly :)

It depends if you are comfortable with telling them or not, if you think it's private just simply say "It's a bit private, I'd prefer not to tell anyone, I'm sorry". Feeling awkward typically isn't your fault so don't worry about it.

You could tell them that it's personal and that you'd rather not talk about it, or if you feel that you trust them tell them the truth. You may find that they want to help and support you.

The important thing is to not make yourself uncomfortable. If telling them how you got the scars would make you uncomfortable then politely say that it is personal and ask to move on. If you feel comfortable talking about it and are ready for a conversation on it, then go ahead and tell them. It is really your decision.

What I say, is that it was an accident from something, and a realistic answer! Make sure you tell everyone the same thing. If lying is uncomfortable for you, you can just say I had a rough phase, etc. Sometimes being honest with your past is necessary if it's a friend! If it's just some random person, no need to tell them something you don't want to.

Tell them they are your battle scars and how they convey how strong you are for pushing past your dark times

What is said all depends on whether you feel comfortable telling them or not. Forget if it makes them uncomfortable, focus on yourself, and how it makes you feel. If they're prepared to ask a personal question, they really shouldn't feel uncomfortable with the answer- generally only people close to you ask personal questions such as this.

Answer their question with the understanding that what you are doing to yourself is not normal behavior. They have a right to be curious about it especially if you are displaying it openly. And so long as the query is done in a respectful way, just answer them and maybe enlighten them to your condition. Cutting is difficult for lay people to wrap their arms around and some face cringing is to be expected.

I have scars myself so I know how uncomfortable and awkward this situation can be at times. I've had my younger cousins and brothers ask the question, to some friends who don't know a lot about self-harm. What I usually do, depending on the relationship with the person, is to just tell them. I have only told some of my friends when they have asked and not my cousins or brothers as they're too young, or were at the time of asking, to hear things like that. Your scars are nothing to be ashamed of, if someone asks about them and you don't want to talk about it or tell them, just say "it's personal". People tend to leave their questioning from there, if not and they ask something like "why", you can just say you don't want to talk about it. I hope this helps :)

You can say what you want, you should not have to change who you are because someone feels uncomfortable, you are you, and they are not you, they dont have your body, and the scars you have left make you well you and they should understand that, I am always here for you x

I think you should tell them . " I had a rough past and im still recovering from it," I think that should know something happened before.

You could tell them that each scar is a mark of the problems you have faced and conquered! :) Be proud of your scars!

Tell them that you were in a car accident or something like that you don’t have to tell them what they are really from

It depends on who the person is, some people could have gone through the same thing! Or maybe not. It may feel uncomfortable but being honest is the best way to go. After you explain where the scars are from, you can explain how you got help or how you don't do it anymore.

Sometimes, humor is a good way to downplay an uncomfortable situation. You owe no one a serious explanation, as your body, and your scars, are your own. Make a joke, make up a silly story, you have no need to feed into prying eyes. When I'm questioned about my own scars, I often bring out the joke, "I was attacked by a unicorn." The silliness of your explanation can switch the subject without scaring anyone off, while simultaneously letting people know that the story of your scars is your own, and not anyone else's. Remember that you only owe things to yourself, and no one needs an explanation out of you.

Well that sounds incredibly rude on their part. I'd just say that I'd rather not talk about it, and if they press the issue, just keep saying you'd rather not talk about it or you're not comfortable talking about it. It's really none of their business to comment on or ask about, so it's not like you have to tell them anything. You could also brush it off like, "That's in the past now," and then quickly change the subject. If they seem concerned you might tell them you're better now, but if they're just being rude tell them you don't like to talk about it and move on. Either way that's pretty rude on their part, I'm sorry that happens.

If it is a family member or friend, you could say you're not comfortable talking about it then change topics or would like to speak to them in private about it. If it is a stranger, tell them you do not feel comfortable in telling them and change topics

There are several things that you can say when someone asks you about your scars depending on their age. For a child, you can make up any type of story, and they are normally satisfied with it. You can say the truth with someone who would be understanding and nonjudgmental. You also have the choice of politely telling them that you would rather not talk about it. How do these ideas sound to you?

Just be honest with people, they brought it apon themselves to ask you about them therefore you should be real, if it makes them uncomfortable next t ime they will remember not to ask questions to things they shouldn't be asking..

Never answer questions you feel uncomfortable answering your scars are private and you should only tell people you know you can one hundred percent trust as you do not want that you have been self harming being spread around. So just say to them I prefer not to talk about it or steer away from the situation as if they will feel uncomfortable. To be totally honest they do not really need to know maybe also seek some professional help as that is always usefull but remember you are not ever obliged to tell someone where your scars are from.

If you feel they would feel comfortable, tell them the story. If you feel it would make them feel uncomfortable, you can just tell them a general truth, like "Oh, it's nothing. I got it when I was a kid."

A person's scars are never an easy thing to talk about. Be it from an accident or self-inflicted yet there are times people would notice them and ask you about it. At this point, it is completely your decision as to how you wanna deal with the conversation. Either you can be direct with them and tell them what happened (only if you are comfortable with that) or you can simply tell them it happened due to something in the past, which you don't like to talk about anymore and move on from the conversation. If you do decide to tell people about your scars, be open and comfortable with them, only share as many details as you are okay with. Remember they are your scars and your past, you decide who gets to know about them!

People are worried about you, be honest and open. If you try to hide it it will only lead them to wondering what it is or thinking badly of you or your situation.

For me personally, whenever asked about my scars, I call them battle scars or my victory scars. I don't quit go into detail but more so just mention that I had a rough time but I came out of it stronger and I'm a fighter and these are the scars that I endured during the tough battle. People have normally just accepted it and told me to talk to them if I ever feel that way again. I have gotten negative responses, but mainly from jerks so I cut them out from my life completely. I hope this helps :)