Is it OK to show scars in public? Should I be concerned about people commenting or should I be self-confident?
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Anonymous
April 26th, 2015 7:56am
It's really hard to tell what others will do if they see your scars in public. Some people may not say anything, and others might comment. It's kind of like a 50/50 chance that someone could comment on your scars.
Be self-confident! Those scars show how strong you are and how much you have grown. Everyone struggles, and people should understand that you have as well. People who comment may be concerned about you or they may be insecure about themselves and want to put you down to feel better about themselves. Either way, you are not defined by your scars. Do not listen to others who comment. They don't know you and they don't know what you've been through. You should be confident that you have grown and you are strong enough to show the marks of your past. Go get 'em!
There's nobody who can tell you what you "should" do or what you "shouldn't" do. It's your skin, and it's your choice and nobody else's. I personally would say that you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. If that means that you go in the closet and choose what to wear without worrying about whether the outfit shows your scars or not, that's fine! If right now, you feel best when you are covering them, that's perfectly fine too! Nobody knows you or your story. That's all for you to decide what works best for you, and what you believe is most comfortable.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 1:41am
It depends. If seeing your scars is triggering to you, don't show them. If you're not triggered by seeing your scars, feel free to show them in public. Polite people might not mention it to you. If your friends judge you for it, they probably aren't good friends.
You should always be self-confident. Never let anybody make you feel like you can't be you. There will always be people who may say something, just don't take it to heart and move on.
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