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Conversation and leisure time with friends is always important. Never feel hesitant to talk about your feelings.
I think it's important to be aware of the fact that you will have to walk through the actual pain of quitting self-harm. But that the support of those around you is really key. By letting people know that you just need support, whether it's going out for a coffee or a quick phone call, it can be what you need in that moment to keep from harming yourself.
They can try and make you happy, try and take your mind off the problem in hand. If you're going to hurt yourself, think of it as someone else. Are you really prepared to hurt them too?
Do something with them that makes you all happy so you can stay happy, I know how you feel I've been there. But the best thing to do, like i've said before, is surround yourself with people who love you and will take care of you.
I have a lot of experience with this subject. I can't say that I'm all the way through it either. You don't constantly want friends leaning over you, but maybe let them know that you need them to check in on you. Just to ask you how you are, and to ask you how you really are. You just need to know that they are there for you no matter what.
Anonymous
October 25th, 2015 8:18am
Be honest with them - what triggers your self harm? The more they know the more they can be honest about the support they can offer you. Are they comfortable with you calling or messaging one of them as a distraction for example? Can they help you find alternatives and hobbies?
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 8:38am
thinking about of the feelings that hurting produce you, ¿are bad o are good? how you feel when you hurting ¿you feel good, really good?
By encouraging me to keep going to my therapist and talking to me when I need a friend. Being supportive and loving for who I am
Anonymous
March 21st, 2016 1:56pm
Reaching out to friends or family can be a helpful step toward recovery. Recognize when you're having urges to self harm or when you're in an emotional state that could lead to self harm and instead reach out to your network. They can help distract through activities and lend an ear until the urge or emotion passes. Having them check in and make sure you're taking care of yourself- eating right, sleeping enough, taking a shower, getting outside, light exercise; can help prevent future episodes of self harm.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2016 10:39pm
They can be used as a distraction mechanism by talking about things that make you happy such as memories with them or things you enjoy. It's a real distraction to erase the thoughts of you hurting yourself.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2016 10:59pm
They can by supporting your other, safe behaviors, and by listening to you. Most importantly, you must be your own best help.
They can be the people you call when you feel you want to self-harm. They can't judge you, just be there for you when you need them, no matter what.
The best thing they can do is be what they already are-your friend. If they can support and listen to you through your situation, that can really help more than you’d think.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2021 6:14pm
Friends are the light to your tunnel of darkness. Not all though, some might be the cold air that blows out the only flame of hope that has kept you going on for ever. But those aren't friends those are misleading souls trying to make them selves feel better by drowning others to help themselves survive. Real friends find that needle in the hay stack for you. Friends are going to help you see the real you, the you that your eyes have been blinded to see. They will show you that you matter that they can not funtion with out you and thus you can not function with out them. You will feel the small light turning brighter and brighter making your world full of joy. They will give you a purpose to live for and that will stop yo ufrom harming your self
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