How can I deal with someone that is acting like a 'diva'?
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What kind of relationship do you have with the "diva"? I would recommend setting boundaries with the person. First, identify what kind of interaction you want/are comfortable having with the individual and go from there.
I think it's important when dealing with anyone we're having trouble getting along with to try to remember that everyone has a reason for their manner. Try to see things from a different perspective. It might be frustrating, or difficult to deal with someone acting this way, but that doesn't mean we can't do it. If it's getting really out of hand, it might be worth it to pull them aside and talk to them about it. They may not realize they're acting this way. Try to be understanding, and polite, There's no need to call them out and embarrass them in front of others. If that doesn't work, at least you know you made an attempt. If it's more than you can handle, there's no shame in backing yourself away from the situation that makes you uncomfortable.
You can distance yourself from them. If you don't like the way someone is acting, you have the right to choose to separate yourself from them. If you don't want to deal with them, don't. If it's someone you care about and you aren't willing to cut them off, then kindly confront them on the issue you are having with them and explain to them how they could change.
Validate any accurate or adaptive perceptions they may have about themselves, and lightly challenge any possible delusions of grandeur by gently asking them to think about the behavior that seems diva-esque. Ideally, with some introspection, they will come to realize that some of their behavior and self-expectations are a bit unrealistic, without you having to directly shut them down on anything.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2016 7:54pm
Gently try to help them with their problems no matter what they seem to be acting like, because labeling them would be an assumption
Anonymous
November 6th, 2016 6:54pm
Make sure that you don't let them walk all over you, just because they are full of themselves. It's so important that you maintain your perception of yourself and not let their ego make you think worse of yourself.
Try and keep your distance if they are irritating you. You can't change people, but you can change your response to them.
Keep treating them nicely no matter how much they bother you. Let them know you're a strong caring person! Don't be rude though !!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 12:28am
well, there simply isn't a legal way to just drop everything and not deal with them, and kick them out. but everyone has something that will intrigue them to stop their actions, just fascinate them.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2016 5:36am
don't mind his or her business and don't approach him/her about it because it may bring more problems ,let he/her be his/her self.
If you do not particularly like this person, I think it would be best to just avoid them rather then potentially hurt their feelings by saying something they may not want to hear.
Maybe you should speak to this person and ask them why they are acting in that particular way. However, if after your conversation they refuse to change in anyway, the best thing you could do is avoid them.
Sometimes the best you can do is ignore them if it's a coworker, classmate, etc. If it's someone you know then, maybe you should talk to them about it. If they refuse to listen to you, then may be it's best to cut them out of your life.
When I have had to deal with people like this, I've usually found that the best thing to do is to gently tell them that they're overreacting or being rude.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2016 1:33am
Simply ignore them. They are not worth your time. Giving them your time is pointless because you can not change someone who doesn't want to change.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 11:19am
Give them the 'pity' look! Just kidding, but if it really bothers you, just avoid interacting with them.
if your looking to fit in with their crowd then you have to go along with it. If you don't like it and want to not deal with it, stay away from them
In my opinion I suggest you respond to that person's words and actions in a neutral way as possible. What do I mean by neutral? I mean by not expressing any feelings in your words and actions. Don't try to fight that person because that person will be more of a diva than ever. Don't accept it and submit under that person's diva personality. What I mean by that is don't treat her like she's the center of the world. That will only add fuel to the fire. If that person says something or does something that indicates a diva then just interact with it by treating that person like a normal person. I know it would be hard to ignore that person. It's gonna be hard putting up with a diva. Don't give up try to be neutral as possible.
I can deal with someone who is acting like a diva by not being responsive to the behavior which is usually aimed at intimidating the other person.
Just ignore them. They aren't worth your time or effort. If they want to continue to be a child for your attention , then just leave it alone.
The first suggestion i could say to be the best way to deal with this is to try your absolute best to accept every individual for who they are. You may not like to be around this 'kind' of person or character and there is nothing wrong with that but, it would be totally unfair to treat them any different from anyone else. If you find yourself getting annoyed or uncomfortable to be around someone whom is acting like a diva, the next best thing to do is to walk away.
Confront them about it and ask them why they are acting this way. Maybe the person is trying to hide their real feelings by putting up an act. Tell them that it’s bothering you and talk it out.
When someone acts as though they are a "diva", they are deflecting off of themselves and onto you. :) When someone acts like this, the best thing (imo) to do is to humor them or to express to them how it makes you feel. If they do not respect your feelings, they are being very toxic towards you.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 4:36am
There are a few definitions of a Diva, But I assume you're using it in a disparaging manner and to refer to those who act entitled, Narcissistic.
Whether it is in the workplace, or at home, you have to settle a Diva down by telling them EXACTLY what is distasteful about their behavior, and then set some boundaries for them.
This will make it extremely clear to them about what they're doing and now you have a clear line in which they should not cross.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:36pm
Understand it. By using the word 'diva', it's clear to see you feel negatively about it. Try to understand why you do feel this way, and what you need to do about it.
indifference is your answer. you don t want to lose your chance because someone's behavior affects you. in the end, no one really cares about you, than the family. so let her make her own show.
From the wording of your question I feel as though we are similar and I think the same about some important people in my life. However, you have to understand that everyone reacts differently to situations and effects them to different extremities. Do your best to leave judgement behind and maybe by offering genuine support or trying to figure out why they’re acting this way you may find they calm down. Acting like a diva may be a form of subconscious attention seeking. However, at the same time if the person is being a “diva†do not let yourself be treated badly, and do not deal with toxicity.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2018 4:01pm
I need my personal experience the best way Tom deal with a diva is to either walk away. Failing that. Try to make them see the bigger picture. Show them that there is more to it than just what they are seeing.
Minimal and unemotional responses seem to work best with somebody who is acting overly dramatic. Typically a diva wants to stir up drama. When you don't give them that, they don't have much to work with.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2018 4:27pm
If someone is acting in this way, try to talk to them about how you feel in a non-confrontational way. Could you tell me more about how you are feeling?
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