What's the point of happiness if I don't want it?

I remember a time when I was going thorugh a difficult patch, I was asked was I happy. I didn;t feel happy but at the same time I didn't feel unhappy. You don't have to feel happy all the time, I don't believe everyone does, but you do deserve to no feel unhappy or sad all the time. Maybe find a way to just be with yourself, no pressure to be or feel anything. At the end of the say it is your choice how you want to be in your life . Look after yourself and stay safe.

To remind yourself that theres bigger things then ourselves out there and being miserable makes our surroundings miserable and that isnt fair to do to everyone. Even if we arent personally happy in our day to dsy work, home, oersonal lives doesnt mean we shouldnt at least try to put a dmile on before we set out to face our day and the world. Smiles are contagious as are frowns and bad moods, always remember that. Our own bad mood or unhappiness is our own and should be a private matter, putting a smile on shows you how brave you are and that happy can be yours too.

That's the unfortunate thing, isn't it? You don't believe that you deserve happiness or any decent quality in life because of the bad in this world and the experiences that are placed upon you. Some people resist happiness because they've never experienced it or were given it properly and with that, it means it's harder to break their shells. Ask yourselves this: what's the point of the world if we didn't ask to be created or formed? Life stops for no one. The sun burns and the moon shines, and whether you're happy or not, you're still existing. With or without question, there are things that can make you happy. Happiness is not something that's a direct demand, it's not forced. It's just there and it happens naturally, without effort, when you least expect it.

Well, It's just a word after all. What does it mean to you? Or what does it mean to people around you? In my dictionary, happiness is a state of meaning, which involves sharp awareness, You are present there, observe very closely, and everything is balancing continuously, naturally. But to majority of people, this state is "boring" :D What people mean by happiness is usually dopamine release, excess of it. Basically that elation they feel when they use any drugs, or when they give into their addictions (food, sex, etc) Craving satisfied, basically it's mistaken for happiness. To my mind, both states are useful, state of elation, and state of depression. Also, their excess is bad, including excessive elation. To me it's about balance, that's the best state. But requires a deeper understanding, to find meaning in that state. This balanced state is the state where You as a Person have most control. Most creative. Easiest way to achieve any goals you might have. Elation and depression are just telling how you are doing, in achieving a goal. Even if the goal is to have 0 goals :D It's still a goal.

Because you were made for more. You are precious, and deserving or happiness. You may not realize or appreciate your worth in this season of your life, but there is goodness in store for you. There is happiness waiting for you - all you have to do is let it in. All it takes is that one “yes” and goodness and beauty and happiness will flood into your life. You are deserving of love and happiness. Never forget that. I’m here for you, and I believe in every fiber of my being that you are loved, just as you are. I want a better life for you, and I hope you do too. You deserve it.

If you find yourself not wanting "positive" things like happiness, peace, contentment, etc. then you are unable to accept something about your life or life itself. Seeking the positive things in life that other people seek would be a type of acceptance or conformity to a life which you find unacceptable. So in your current state, happiness doesn't seem appealing or even possible. While you may not want happiness right now, you still want some kind relief from your suffering. In your state, the first step to some kind of relief is a basic acceptance of your thoughts and feelings as they are. Acceptance can be difficult and scary but at least it isn't complicated. All that's needed is willingness. Acceptance happens through a gradual process of willingly or deliberately paying attention to your thoughts and emotions as they are right now. Writing about your feelings or talking to someone about them can help.

Happiness is a choice and we can choose to be happy with what we have or we can just be unhappy even if we don't have any thing. We only have one life, why not spend it with happiness and leave instead if dying grumpy? I don't think anyone deserves that. Holding grudges, crying over spilt milk, holding on to past bitter experiences is not a wise thing to do, because we are only hurting ourselves and no one else. No one knows are cares about these and you are not going to talk about them all the time so why hold it inside your heart? Just let it go and be happy.....

Everyone has a different version of happiness. Unfortunately, mass media and social networks tell people what happiness is (or rather should be) and that is where the confusion begins. Happiness to me is not going to the club and spending a lot of money to “make it rain” or show people I have money or flirt with 3 different girls who all have fake boobs and daddy issues. Nor is happiness going shopping and spending away all your troubles. These are versions of happiness being sold to vulnerable people for reasons of consumerism, among other factors, none of which have to do with actually being happy. My advice is to ignore what you think makes other people happy, because most people have no idea what makes them happy. Concentrate on the things in life that give you peace or comfort, even if it is something dark or might seem strange to other people. Happiness is being at peace within yourself, and should never have to do with anything from the outside world, especially material items. I disagree with your question that you don’t want happiness. Everyone searches for happiness, it just has to come from within and be your own version of it.

If you're happy, you'll likely smile a lot more often. Dopamine, endorphins and serotonin are released into your bloodstream when you smile, this makes you feel better within yourself, makes you more relaxed which can lower your heart rate and blood pressure, smiling is actually beneficial for you physical health too! Laughing can reduce levels of cortisol, the stress hormone and can give a quick burst of energy! The neurotransmitters which are released when you're happy are natural pain relievers, thus helping boost your immune system and helping you feel a lot more comfortable as it protects you from aches and pains. You will feel a lot better within yourself mentally but also physically, along with this, you'll likely feel more confident as well as having more energy and will be able to do more activities so you could make more friends too!

It's hard to label a specific point to happiness, because usually I'd think of happiness as being a part of the point of life. And sometimes though, you may not think you want it. And there can be various reasons for this. I know sometimes I don't think I want it, just because it seems like it'd be so much effort to get there, and I've become comfortable being sad, almost where I like it in a sense. And I'm just so tired, where there doesn't seem to be a point to anything. But then once I experience happiness, everything seems so much better and the bad feelings go for a little bit for something good, and in the moment, it's right. So even if you don't think you want it, I think the point is that it's part of what makes you live.

Jules Renard famously wrote in his Journal: "I have experienced happiness, but that's not what made me happiest". There are many paths to self accomplishment (however we choose to name it), each individual needs to find their own. "Happiness" can be heard in different ways. For some, it might sound selfish, and they wouldn't be willing to consider it as a goal, others might see it as a first step, required in order to help others and in order to spread around them positive energy. One may consider happiness to be a default setting when it comes to life goals: it is anything but that.

You may not want happiness because you have never felt it or because you are scared about having it and then losing it again. If you knew that you could always have happiness, would you want it? If you answered yes, than you should know that happiness is worth fighting for but that happiness doesn't mean you won't have troubles along the way. Happiness is a state of mind and has nothing to do with the conditions of our lives. Happiness will come as you find a "why" for living. When you put your whole heart into helping other people in any capacity, you will feel happiness start to creep into your life and it will be so wonderful that you will never want to look back!

When we are in a difficult place and maybe we have been sad or down for a long time, this place can begin to feel really comfortable. This place is something we know well, we know it inside and out. But when we think of happiness, it can feel so far off and maybe you are not comfortable with its unpredictability. Maybe you are afraid that if you allow yourself to truly be happy, then something bad will happen and you will go back to this familiar sad place, I don't know. But what I have learnt is that if you cannot be happy, that is okay, but I try to be joyful every day. You may question how different happiness and joy really are. Well, I feel like happiness is a state of joy, yes, but where you are not as pressured by life and an emotion to our situation. Joy on the other-hand, I feel is a choice. You can choose to be joyful even if you feel like your world is crumbling under your feet. You can choose to look at the day with a joyous and grateful heart, aware that bad things may happen, but choosing to enjoy every moment of good, and search for the good, even amidst the bad. So maybe today, don't aim for happiness (though is you can, do it) maybe find a contentment in life; learn to become neutral of your life. You cannot just wake up one day and be happy with everything and who you are, it is a progress. Before we can be happy we need to not be sad, or down, we need to become content. And may I ask that you keep a gratitude journey and enter into every day, even if what you are thankful feels small. And when a bad day hits, read over it and see everything in your life that is good and that does bring you happiness. You may find that happiness isn't as far away as you once thought. Never be afraid to reach out, I am here for you. Best of luck.

You do want it, but you're too stuck in your depression to see it. You still love your demons. You probably want something to complain about. You probably see no solution to anything. You probably don't want help. You probably don't want help so you can give up and give into your demons. You probably tend to see things as black and white. Consequently, these is known as all or nothing thinking. The world is a beautiful place if you choose to see it. Think positive thoughts instead of negative ones. See the world as a positive place. Good luck.

It's a very tough question and i have never seen something like this :O. I started thinking. I want to ask you this question so that may be you will think in these lines. What's the point of only being sad? Why don't you want both happiness and sadness? We all want to be content with what we have and it's important we feel peaceful with what we have and what we do. Mentally our brain releases certain hormones based on the feelings we get and it's important that you find some joy or life in things. So ask the same question in different way to see what stops you from not wanting to feel sadness and happiness? Or is there any-other emotion you want to feel?

You may feel you don’t want it, but you need it. Everyone needs happiness to go through life and thrive. The point of happiness is to feel like you belong, the point of happiness is to have a purpose in life and everyone deserves it. No body says they want happiness, but everyone deserves it. Happiness may be a feeling, a person or even a place but once you truly feel happiness, you won’t see that you want it, you will see that it makes your life better and that you were missing out all this time. You deserve happiness, whether you want it or not.

Happiness is a such a great feeling. Out of all the wide range of emotions this one brings joy. It is a feeling many people strive for all their life to achieve. Everyone has different ideas and concepts of what their happiness is. I think any thoughts of not wanting to feel such great things stems from the fear of it being taken away as life is uncertain. I think some people would rather avoid feeling happy because to have felt it and then suddenly be striped of it causes devastation. But I believe that it's best to accept to have felt happy and accept that feelings are fleeting and even fluctuate.

How do you define your happiness? Because happiness is an emotion arising from the happenings of life, something that you did, or someone else did for you. So is it the reasons that produce happiness that you don't want or is it still happiness for you? Maybe if you look at things this way, you might find that, it really isn't happiness that you don't want but something else that has you questioning the point of your happiness. Break down what makes happiness for you and what breaks it for you. A list would makes things easier. Or maybe even identifying the patterns that are making you question happiness.

Happiness is a very subjective matter. I for myself find the ultimate truth or knowledge of life more important in life. It is completely okay if you don't find a need for it yourself. Happiness is hard to seek for because you can't promise it to yourself from anything. Happiness could mean something different for you than the meaning of the presence of pleasure and the absence of pain for you. You could maybe get a sense of gratification from giving a "happiness" to others. You are entitled to seek what you want in life and if the idea of happiness isn't one you are welcome to focus on other things. You could apply yourself to the philosophy of deontology where you don't focus on the happiness as the outcome of situations but you just focus on your own sense of duty in life and your moral obligations for others.

Happiness and utter contentment (desire-lessness) is your natural state, the thing is most of us don't realise and experience this because of the belief and conviction in the idea we believe ourselves to be (ego). The ego is a mental construct derived from our past conditioning, strongly held beliefs, programming, experiences and reinforcement from others etc. The "I" you're referring to in this case is the idea you have of who you are, not what you truly are which is timeless and boundless awareness, untroubled by the mind, emotions or events/circumstances in the outer world. Only the idea of who we are "suffers", although it can feel very very real.

The most fascinating thing about happiness is that it will somehow reach you, even if you don't want it. Things around you, be it small or big, has the possibility of bringing a smile in your face. There can never be a person in this world who says that he doesn't want happiness. Even looking at the sun rising in the sky, or a bud blossoming may create a sense of satisfaction in you. This satisfaction is nothing but HAPPINESS. The point is nobody should go in search of happiness, when looking deep down inside yourself, you may find unconditioned happiness. But like all things in this world, happiness is not permanent. When one form of happiness departs, we have to patiently wait for another form of happiness, which may be bigger than the previous one. So, Fill your life with positivity and happiness.

Happiness is an emotion, not a state of being. It's not an emotion anyone should expect to feel at all times. We are humans. We feel sad sometimes. We feel scared sometimes. And we feel happy sometimes. Even if you don't want happiness right now, that's ok. Don't worry so much. It is not an "all or nothing", or a "now or never" situation, even if it might seem like it at times. If you allow yourself the possibility of feeling happiness, just like you can allow yourself the possibility of feeling other emotions, the more chances you get to find out how to deal with them in the most healthy way possible.

The most fascinating thing about happiness is that it will somehow reach you, even if you don't want it. Things around you, be it small or big, has the possibility of bringing a smile in your face. There can never be a person in this world who says that he doesn't want happiness. Even looking at the sun rising in the sky, or a bud blossoming may create a sense of satisfaction in you. This satisfaction is nothing but HAPPINESS. The point is nobody should go in search of happiness, when looking deep down inside yourself, you may find unconditioned happiness. But like all things in this world, happiness is not permanent. When one form of happiness departs, we have to patiently wait for another form of happiness, which may be bigger than the previous one. So, Fill your life with positivity and happiness.

Maybe it's a great thing to consider why you don't want happiness... Don't you think you deserve it?!! I believe everyone deserves happiness... If you don't want it I might suggest a blockage. This could be brought on by a traumatising youth or childhood where your parents or caregivers didn't mirror you that you're deserving of happiness... Maybe even that depression is the way live. It would be great to search with a therapist what's behind those blockages... I wish you good luck and hope that you consider if the fact that you say you don't want happiness... Might be a depression, you can talk with a therapist about it. With greetings and love, Sara

Everyone should want (and keep in mind DESERVES) happiness. I would describe it as something that holds us all together as a community, family, friends etc. If you really don't want to be happy, you have to ask yourself.. why? Why do you think you don't deserve it? Self forgivness can be crucial when you are at this low point in your life. Whatatever you think you did, you have to be able to forgive youself and move on, let go. Look towards a better future instead of the past. I think based on this question that you are keeping yourself trapped in a metaphorical box, when you have the key.

the emotions we feel and allow ourselves to feel make us unique. if we don't allow ourselves to experience all the emotions life brings, then we aren't living life to the fullest and this is something we should always strive for. live life like it was your last day to live. Because this is how we learn from our mistakes, how are we going to live life if we can't have the blessing of feeling happiness. We all have a certain memory we think of when we think of happiness and those memories are what shape us into the humans we are. we grow and adapt to our surroundings. we must grow. we must experience all the mysteries of life no matter how uncomfortable it may seem.

Happiness has been shown to predict positive outcomes in many different areas of life. Positive emotions increase satisfaction with life. Happiness helps people build stronger coping skills and emotional resources. when good things happen in a specific moment, or more broadly, as a positive evaluation of one's life and accomplishments overall—that is, subjective well-being. Happy people are healthier all around and more likely to be healthy in the future. Happy people live longer than those who are not as happy. Happy people are more productive and more creative, and this effect extends to all those experiencing positive emotions too.

I think the more interesting thing to consider here is why you don't want it. Do you feel like you don't deserve to be happy? Happiness, in general, is a state of mind which brings satisfaction and contentness to the person, maybe even some elation or joy. These are all considered to be good things, and feeling like you shouldn't have good things to the point of denying yourself happiness is a form of self-harm. You deserve to be happy just like you deserve food and water. A miserable existence may be just as bad as no existence at all. Even if you don't want it, happiness can bring you physical benefits such as a stronger immune system, social ones such as lending happiness to those around you, and practical ones, like increased productivity and perseverance and resilience.

Is it really true that you don't want happines or is it the things that you relate to happiness that's not giving you happiness. Perhaps, first you have to clear that, buddy. Then you will find your answer, because it's human nature to accept as much happiness as they can and if you don't want that happiness it means that thing is not making you happy or it is just infleuncing you someway. Just take a deep breath focus and think, what is it really happines for you? I hope u will find your hapiness and answer soon and if the things you don't want then there is no point of keeping it. I hope it helps

It is okay not to look for happiness. Some would say it is not a meaningful endeavor, since once you reach it, you only want more. Some would say that happiness begets stagnation and there is no point in trying to get it. Maybe there is a different way of looking at happiness. What about if happiness was just moving away from suffering, or easing your suffering. There is a lot to be said for accepting whatever is bringing us pain and working to move to a more pleasing or satisfying outcome. This allows our motivation to flourish, always moving toward bigger and better things. What is an interpretation of happiness you could find meaning in?