I have very rapid mood swings, what's the best way to manage them so no one gets hurt?
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Anonymous
June 8th, 2022 5:43am
If you feel that you have mood swings that not only change rapidly, but also could or might cause harm to others, perhaps you might want to ask yourself if its time to talk to a professional healthcare provider. Whether its a counselor, a therapist, a psychiatrist or psychologist, or even your own physician. But getting properly treated and ruling out the cause of your rapid mood swings could be very beneficial to both yourself and to others! The best way to avoid possible harm to yourself or others is to be seen and possibly treated. There could various reasons or causes to your mood swings. The best thing to do is get to the cause of them. Good luck to you!
Mood swings can be scary for everyone involved. A good way to manage them would be to first determine what sort of "trigger" may be causing these mood swings. If you know what may lead to one, you can better prepare in advance for it to occur. Once you have an idea on the trigger, think of ways to calm yourself down should that trigger appear. Perhaps counting slowly, removing yourself from the situation, or a mental exercise to not focus so much on whatever may be causing the mood swing. It would also be great to confirm with those in your life that you do not want these mood swings to hurt them, so that they know you are aware and working on preventing that. They may also be able to contribute helpful ideas to address them.
Go into a room where you can be alone and try meditation and things that you can do to calm Down , explain to the people that you may be upsetting that you are having a bad day and most people will be understanding. You could try other methods to that could make you overcome the mood swings and also if it get to much for yourself you could try medication. Not all medications is right but a lot can help.
You could try relaxation videos online or outta a book there’s many ways to reduce your stress levels
The fact that you have acknowledged this is a wonderful start. Apologising always helps. Not "I'm sorry I said that, but..". A real apology. "Im really sorry I did that. I wasn't in my right mind for a second, and it wasn't your fault."
Letting people know beforehand that you're not feeling very personable or you're feeling a bit irritable is wonderful too. There is no shame in admitting that you're having a "funny five minutes". We all get them.
I suffer from BPD. My mood swings are immense. When I feel like I am having a bad turn, I let my husband know before hand. He's wonderful about it, granted. Once it has passed, I apologise and he simply states that he understands, and is grateful that I let him know beforehand.
HI,
mood swings can have various reasons. on thing you can start doing to manage it effectively is Meditation.
Start sitting quite for 20min each day and have positive visualization or only breathing exercises . It will make you feel more calmer and your reaction will have more control.
Also developing self control is important..work on anger management skills..meet therapist to find out trigger points.Also you can make a note of incidents where you feel you are having mood swings or you could have reacted in different way.
I always feel seeking help from expert mental health practitioner is one of the important step in self love.
I hope this helps.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2022 7:03pm
STOP. BREATHE. THINK. ACT. I learnt it in primary school. Our principal used to tell us to stop and think before we act.
Practice mindfulness, I would say. Be aware of what you do, your surroundings and not letting your mind go into auto-pilot. If you think your mood swings are affecting people around you then reflect on your actions as much as possible. Every action and thought has its consequence on you and the people around you. So think about those consequences, imagine what they could for each action and thought that you enable. This should do the job. Hope this helps.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2019 8:19am
I've always managed my own mood swings by taking the time to sit by myself and sort it out; whether that be by writing what I'm feeling down or introspecting.
Breathe.
It's alright to feel the way you do, and it doesn't make you a bad person. What matters is that you have taken the time to sort yourself out. Your true friends and family will understand that you need to be alone. If you want to make it less likely for people to approach you while you're calming down, I'd suggest plugging in your earphones but not actually playing any music; that way most people will be deterred, and you'll be able to avoid hurting anyone.
That sounds highly stressful. Coping with mood swings especially when they change so quickly is not an easy task. There is hope though.
Something that has helped me is to try and slow things down. When I am heading towards a panic or doing something I'll regret, forcing myself to take things slow can help. I do this by stopping what I'm doing and taking a deep breath. Once my breathing has calmed, I try to look at what upset me with clearer eyes. Only then do I proceed.
Overall, stopping myself in that moment and slowing things down has been helpful to me.
I used to struggle with this a lot. And many times, some people did end up getting emotionally hurt by me. But over time, I learned to manage them to some extent. What I do in those situations is label my emotions as accurately as I can. To label something automatically means to rationalize it in a way. And it’s much easier to cope with something that’s labeled, logical, rational, that isn’t just an undefined feeling anymore, with something that has finally been given some description and a meaning. I found this to be very helpful for managing my own mood swings.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2022 9:03pm
Firstly, identify what behaviour of yours is risking someone’s safety. Then, focus on what’s causing that behaviour, and now, alter the way you think, and break that habit of behaviour, to form a better pattern of behaviour. That’s the long term. Short term: when you’re in a situation where you’re worried your behaviour may hurt someone, then leave the situation in any way you can. Let the person know, if you think they need to, that you need some time to cool off. Proceed by walking away and cooling off. If not I’m a position to do that, let the person know how you’re feeling so they can decide what to do with it. In the moment if you need to calm down quickly, breath in for 4, hold for 7, and exhale for 8 seconds. Continue until you’ve calmed down, and proceed.
I would say, meditation (guided or putting on some meditative music and just observe what you observe about where your thoughts and feelings are heading e.g fear, emotional pain, a sense of grief or confusion) can really assist in centering and grounding a person. It really helps with self-acceptance, which is necessary in understanding what's going on within, discovering what triggers those rapid mood swings and facing the situation with a positive constructive manner, that promotes self-growth. Be open and gentle with yourself, show the compassion you would show to your best friend or a person you deeply care about. Always remember, it's okay where you are right now, and with the intention of improving your position, create a 15-30 self-care routine, in your everyday life. You'll see after a while you'll understand yourself more and your mood swings are going to be majorly improved!
I used to experience this a lot few years back. Looking back, the main and most effective way I dealt with rapid mood swings is by taking a step back from situations and remembering to breathe. This is because taking the time to focus on your breath helps lower your heart rate, which leads to your body feeling more calm and less likely to act on impulse. It will feel hard at first to do so, but with practice, you will improve and have better control with your mood swings.
A good way to practice by yourself is through meditation. Doing a short, 5 minute breathing meditation daily where you concentrate solely on your breathing helps make it easier to get yourself back into this calm state through focusing on breaths when you face these situations in the future.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2020 10:45pm
Thanks for acknowledging an area that you are working to improve within yourself. It is admirable when people want to grow beyond their challenges. Meditation is huge. There are many formats for meditation so just because you tried it once, does not mean that it is not for you. By tapping into your inner self you are more aware of when you are more likely to react in a harmful way toward yourself, or others, and so by learning to meditate you can also learn to respond, instead of react. Additionally, evaluating your diet, exercise and supplements and adjusting accordingly will also assist you in preventing some of those extremes that could cause injury. Being aware of what foods trigger your moods and making sure to exercise in a way to help naturally moderate your mood will all be helpful courses of action. Thank you for working to create more peace and harmony in your life while reducing the number of harmful instances to yourself and others.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2022 5:25am
The best way to manage them is to distant yourself from people for a while. Go to an empty room, sit down on your bed and listen to music. Go to where you are most comfortable, and try to collect your thoughts there. Rapid mood swings ca be harmless at most times, if not a bit jarring, but to other people, it might be seen as dangerous and something that's bound to get someone hurt. If you know you are in a particularly explosive mood, excuse yourselves to chill out for a while. You can also use a coping method--very cliche, I know, but it works! Try counting to ten slowly, or reciting the titles of all your favorite books and movies. I hope this helps!!
Anonymous
March 25th, 2020 2:37am
when I have very rapid mood swings I have to separate myself from the situation and the people I care about. For everyone it’s different, but for me I try to distract myself with coping mechanisms. If I’m angry I’ll take a walk, if I’m lonely I’ll call my friend, if I’m depressed I’ll try to do art. The best way for me when my bipolar gets the best of me is to physically distance myself and take a few moments to breathe and think about what I’m doing. I often get very angry and then I feel very guilty for feeling so angry in the first place so I take a long walk with loud music or I’ll try to take a nap and think myself through before socializing so that I don’t mess up the few social connections that I have.
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Anonymous
April 4th, 2020 11:26pm
If mood swings get severe as to wanting to hurt someone or destroy property, it is best to seek counseling or therapy services. I have had to and still to seek therapy services for some problems I'm having. Mood swings could be caused by a variety of issues, such as imbalance, stress with family, friends, relationships, work, school, or a traumatic event, whether or not it was recent. In my experience, I've had many things come up in my life, such as issues with abusive family member, and social anxiety in school. I have overcome a lot of these by seeking therapy services, practicing healthy habits such as eating well, sleeping and lots of exercising.
So, you feel that your rapid mood swings can get people hurt? Has anyone indicated that they were hurt because of your mood swings or is it something you feel yourself? What are your feeling when you go from one type of mood to another? Is there anything that triggers a mood swing or is it something that comes out of the blue. Rapid mood swings may or may not generate physiological responses like excessive sweating, fast heart beat, and even headaches. Sometimes, those physiological changes can give us some clues as to the imminence of a raid mood swing.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2020 7:24pm
I definitely relate to this. I find it helpful to reflect on how I’m feeling and take deep breaths and come to terms with how I’m feeling. Look back and see how your body reacts to certain situations and learn what makes you feel better, whether that be breathing, exercise, fresh air. Try and understand how you react to certain things and how you can help yourself relax. Eventually, you may find it easier to figure out when you might have a mood swing and use your way of relaxing (exercise, breathing etc) before you upset someone. It’s very thoughtful of you to think about how others feel in these situations. I hope this helped. Make sure you listen to your body :)
I can relate to this because I have been having rapid mood swings too recently. For me, what I do is whenever I dont feel social and feel moody, I isolate myself from the world and do things that I like. For example I love to go on pintrest when I feel stressed or sad, so I take time off to calm myself down by going on Pinterest. Similiarly I would say, do the things you love and isolate yourself from others because self care is really important.
I think being aware of the face you have rapid mood swings is a great starting point. For me, it would be important to recognise the signs that a mood swing may be coming. This could be done through some self reflection, try to work out what your triggers are or what kind of situations or people make this happen more. Once you know and are comfortable with your triggers, when you experience one of them you need to get yourself out of that situation. Whether that be letting the others know that you need to leave a conversation but you'll return to it when you feel you can better handle it or have had time to think it over. It also may help to share your thoughts with your close friends and family, let them know what your triggers are so they can help avoid these and be understanding should a rapid mood swing happen.
Keep a mood journal. Keep a track of the activities that you're doing over the course of the day and how your mood is fluctuating. One such app that I've used personally is Daylio. It has a fairly intuitive design and it takes less than a minute to log your activity and mood. Data can help you find out what triggers you. And therefore you could be more informed about how to deal with the situation. At the same time, tell the people you spend most time with what you're going through and ask them to treat you with compassion. At the same time, you should also treat them with empathy. That way, you're also ensuring that the people closest to you don't get hurt.
Take a moment away from anyone or the situation and count to 10 once you feel calm you can return to what you are doing. If you feel you cant control your mood then you need to remove yourself completely and focus your mind onto something else. Breathing deeply can physically calm you down. Thinking about what you are about to say can also help to calm you down as you can see how it will effect the other person and set off something in your head to calm you down. Also take time for yourself it will help prevent mood swings.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2020 11:17pm
Before you feel like you're emotions are getting out of control, take yourself out of the situation and try your best to calm yourself down by doing some deep breathing exercises. Try and weigh out the pros and cons of engaging in your emotional behaviour and if it doesn't seem like you'll benefit from doing this then repeat the steps mentioned earlier. If you still find that your rapid mood swings bother you, maybe go seek a professional about them and hopefully they will be able to help you. It can be difficult to control your mood swings, but learning to separate your logical mind from your emotions is a good way to help them be controlled.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2021 8:01pm
Learn to recognise when those mood swings may happen: Do you suddenly get annoyed at the small things that happen? Do you suddenly find yourself thinking rude remarks about the people you care about?
Alert the people around you, let them know what you are experiencing so they can understand if you are behaving differently.
Then think about what you could do to alleviate the situation in that moment. Could you take time out and gather your thoughts? Could you perform a breathing exercise to calm down? What could you do in that moment to keep you grounded?
After your mood swing, reflect on what happened. What was helpful during the situation? Do you think you handled that successfully? What did you want during that situation that might help you next time? Keep a journal or a diary to help you keep track on the processes that help you during your mood swings, and ask those around you how they felt during the situation.
Focus on the reasons behind your mood swings and also the emotions that are associated with your mood swings. Maybe you notice a feeling/emotion before you have a mood swing, try to think about both sides. What would happen if I have a mood swing? Will this be a positive or negative experience for myself and others? Maybe trying some sort of relaxation techniques to help you remain calm and manage your mood swings. Also explaining to others why you have mood swings, what could be the triggers to your mood swings and understanding how your mood swings make others feel.
I experience this quite often too- I tried using other methods to control it like drawing, but I found that when I couldn't draw what I wanted I would get more agitated. So in the end, I told my family about my behavior and how to intepret it better (like, if I close my door fast when angry, i'm not trying to throw a tantrum but rather I feel like I would not be able to hold a conversation properly so I closed the door to signify that) while of course I would apologise once I am feeling more stable. So essentially, if you want to manage them better, it's good to tell your close friends and family on how to properly interpret mood swings so they can help you manage them too- mood swings are hard to control by yourself, especially if you are in a foul mood. It is always good to have a helping hand outside.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2021 1:29am
Take 15 minutes each day to yourself meditate and focus on yourself. Focus on your feelings and try to identify what affects your mood. This way in time you will calm your mind and find the best way for you to deal with any and all problems you are facing. You will by doing this work towards a better you and identyfy what brings on your mood swings. The first step in any situation is confronting the problem and step by step work through the issue, step by step. By taking time for yourselfe you will get to know yourselfe on a deeper level wich is s great way to improve and overcome struggels
I can really hear you are concerned about how your mood will impact other people and that you want to work on managing your emotions. From my own personal experience I tried to track of those feelings of irritability or sadness once I was feeling stable enough. It is really important to check what the potential recurrent triggers are before your mood swing and to record these triggers in the format of a journal. Once you are able to notice some patterns forming you have a better idea of how to mentally prepare myself should you have to face a potentially triggering event and this enables yourself to be more likely to be in a positive headspace before facing that trigger. For further support you can communicate with one of our listeners or online therapists anonymously who may have personal experience or specialize in managing emotions. Self-help guides and mindfulness exercises are also available on our site. To obtain knowledge and understanding surrounding the management with mood swings can be referring to exercises involving assertiveness skills available on the Positive Psychology site or look into modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).
I have found that tearing paper up into pieces really helps. Often when we are having rapid mood swings we want to hurt people or break things, so tearing paper or punching a pillow are good options to let some anger out. I have also found that if my mind is racing I write down all my thoughts onto a piece of paper and tear it up and throw it away, as this calms you down. I have heard an ice cube helps too, as by holding an ice cube in your hand, you brain focuses on that because the cube is so cold, and then you calm down. Never tried myself, but give it a shot!
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