I have never felt so sad in my life. Why do I feel this way?
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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 6:43pm
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Tracy-Kate Teleke, PsyD, M.A., LMFT
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This could be happening for a number of reasons. The best way to find out is to sit down and do a mental check-in with yourself. Take the time to focus all of your attention on how you are truly feeling, maybe even write it down. Ask yourself a few of the following questions: How do I feel right now? What has happened in my life to make me feel this way? Have I ever felt this way before? What can I do to become happier?
Another good way to find out why you feel a certain way is to start journaling. Take 5-15 minutes every day and write down whatever is on your mind. It can be as simple as how you feel, or it can be something a little more in-depth, such as a summary of your day. You could even take a different approach and write down exactly what you're thinking at that moment in time. You can write whatever you want to write during this time. Over time, you can often find out the cause of your feelings and realize what makes you feel better.
Just understand that your feelings are valid. It's okay to feel this way, everyone becomes sad at some time or another. You don't always have to feel your best.
If this problem persists, it might be best to talk to your doctor or a mental health professional, as there's a possibility that you may be struggling with undiagnosed depression, bipolar, anxiety, etc.
Good luck with this, and I truly hope that you start to feel better soon! :)
It may be you are going through something emotionally challenging. When we are faced with something that is very personal and emotinal, it is natural to react by feelings of deep sadness. These feelings really exist in order to inform us something important And difficult is going on, without these feelings we wouldn't ve able to know that something is happening to us. It could help to just sit down to think and reflect on what it is that makes us feel that way. That helps with dealing with And feeling through those feelings, even though it is often hard and painful. Try to give yourself time to heal and accept the feelings as they come to you. They will eventually pass and become more manageable. If youe find yourself struggling, do not hesitate to reach out for help.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2021 9:08pm
One reason you could possibly be feeling this way is because as your growing older, your hormones are changing which could mean your thoughts and feelings are all over the place and are having an impact on the way your feeling.
Another reason is simply because of stress! You could be possibly be dealing with a lot right now and its all piled on top of eachother and has resulted in you feeling more upset than usual, which is totally understandable! if this is the case you can always try doing some things to take your mind off of things ( eg., going on a walk, reading a book, listening to music , journalling etc). Also please try your best to remember theres always somebody available to talk at 7 cups no matter what your issue is.
sometimes there isn't always a direct reason for why you feel the way you do, depression and sadness is always there- it can't be gotten rid of but it can be fought, and managed. you might be feeling this way because of a recent, huge change in your life, or perhaps no change at all- things just might be dragging on and you feel as if there's no purpose to them anymore- or perhaps you're just discouraged. the best thing you can do is to pick yourself up, and force yourself to focus on something- anything- and get moving, because once you do (you can be stopped, there will be setbacks) but you'll get better and better at picking yourself back up. good luck, and remember, you are loved.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2021 8:42pm
When something negative happens in your life—a breakup, a death, the loss of a job, for example—it can seem like your world is ending, so it’s natural to feel awful. “All emotions are important to experience and have valuable information for us about our lives,†says Dr. Lori Rockmore, Psy.D. Consider this an opportunity to learn, grow and find true healing, says Briana Borten, CEO of the wellness organization Dragontree.
First figure out why you're sad.
Sometimes it's easy to pinpoint the reason you feel upset―like if you just can't get over your ex. Other times you may be sad for no discernible reason. When this is the case, try getting out a pen and paper and “write without stopping for five minutes,†suggests life coach, radio host and author Sunny Joy McMillan. She calls this brain dumping. You can also try journaling, meditating, yoga or any other practice that will help you focus on your inner self.
Everyone is different, that's a basic fact of life. What makes one person sad may not make someone else sad. When trying to understand your emotions, or the "why" behind them, it may be more beneficial to try to identify the direct source. For example, is something triggering a past trauma? What new changes have you experienced in your life recently? Do others' actions cause you to feel this way? By answering questions like this you will be able to more easily find a source behind your emotions. After finding the source, it is important to identify other things that can combat the sadness. What brings you joy in your life? It's easier said than done, but focusing on the positive is the healthiest thing you can do for yourself.
Based on my own experience, I have felt very similiar to this in the sense that I had experienced a really low point. Nothing seemed to have mattered and I had absolutely no energy to have done the things I wanted. I felt like nothing was going to succeed and I was at a falling point. This was because of my drug addiction and my past abuse. I have met numerous people who have gone through the same thing but had different causes for it. No matter what, depression is similiar in the way that it eats up the people who deal with it.
Anonymous
April 9th, 2021 1:36am
I dont know why you feel that way. You know you the best. I know its hard to hear that and you might not want to. But some times taking the time to reflect about your past will help you know why you feel that way.
It took me a long time to know why I felt that way. I went to therapy, it wasn't cheep, I journal a lot, and talked to people on 7 cups. All that really helped me to get to the place I am right now. It wasn't easy and lots of the times I wanted to give up, but I dint. Im now in a place that Im little bet hepper and have a long ways to go.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2021 9:35am
In life there are circumstances when one feels down and sad. These episodes may last a few seconds, days, weeks, months and sometimes years. It is important to identify why this sadness is there and to seek help from others if one is not able to resolve this situation by oneself. The good news is that there is always a solution which can help. You can reach out to friends and family, to 7 cups where there are trained listeners and therapists if you need professional advise. There are many other opportunities to deal with sadness and the great news is that there are always people to help you get through this challenging time.
Anonymous
June 9th, 2021 5:01pm
Our life is full of ups and downs, like that roller coaster that everyone seems to like comparing life to. There are going to be moments when we are really, really happy. Those moments we tend to treasure and look back upon with fondness. However, there are going to be moments when we are feeling the lowest of our lows. These are completely normal. We cannot always be one emotion. In fact, we are not necessarily our emotions. Are emotions are fleeting and do not have to define who we are. So whether your are feeling very sad now, whether you have experienced intense sadness in the past or will the future, it is a normal emotion that, with time, will pass.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2021 3:31pm
I am sorry to hear you’re so sad and know that life can be difficult. Sadness can be a very lonely and confusing emotion. You’re not alone. What is going on in your life currently or in the past perhaps, that may be causing you to feel sad? Only you know what makes you feel a certain way and sometimes that can be hard to pinpoint. I’d love to listen and help you however I can. We also have fabulous resources available for you if I may direct you there after we’re finished talking today. I appreciate your openness and for sharing with me.
Anonymous
June 16th, 2021 6:11pm
If you have never felt so sad in your life, and are feeling particularly sad now, you may benefit from talking to a therapist or a doctor to see if there is an emotional or physiological cause to the sadness. Professionals such as these are often helpful with identifying the cause and helping alleviate the feelings of such a sadness. If you are feeling sad, there may be multiple potential reasons. You may have a situational sadness, like a particular circumstance that feels weighty, overwhelming, or hopeless, or you may have a condition that predisposes you to sadness, like a chemical imbalance or other health-related concern, or a combination of multiple causes. If you are unable to determine the cause of your sadness, a mental health provider or other healthcare professional may be able to help.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2021 3:45am
People often feel sad in reaction to events in their life. Too much all at once often leaves us in shock and causes us to sink in despair. This pit of despair often leads us to feel like it is the saddest we have ever been or will be in the future. Some people have higher tolerances for dealing with their troubles than others, but that doesn't mean that other's troubles are insignificant in comparison to ours. We feel so sad because we feel alone in the magnitude of our sorrow and it seems like there is no hope of getting rid of it.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2021 12:32am
Well there are many different things that can make you feel this way, but if it happens often, you probably will want to seek professional help. If it happens out of nowhere without explanation, thats no good. But if there is a reason to it, for example, you might have failed a test! Or maybe you broke up, but just know that if this happens frequently, thats not ok. You will really need to seek somebody to actually help you. And help is ok! Dont ever be ashamed for getting help! Just know that so many people love you and want to see you feel better!
Believe in yourself and understand: everything that happens to you - you can change. You can please yourself with something, bring new emotions and impressions into your life. You can radically change your life.
In fact, the main choice is always yours. Whatever you do: this choice will affect to you. There are no mistakes, there is simply a different, new vector of development.
Therefore, if you are in a situation of difficult choice, in a situation where you blame yourself for mistakes and what you have done, know that this is just another turn in your destiny. How many more will there be ...
I just want to remind you that everything that happens to you will lead you to yourself, will ultimately lead to the decision that will turn out to be the most successful for you. Everything that worries you now will soon be remembered with a smile, as another obstacle that you have overcome.
Everything will be as you want. Let not immediately. Even with failures and mistakes.
There is no single instruction. But maybe that's the trick.
What do you think?
Good luck!
These low periods are stepping stones we all go through and they're really painful, some more than others but others leave lasting damage on us.
I like to think every stepping stone I move past I take something from it, most of the time it a lesson or I learn to avoid other stones like that.
Sometimes though they just cause great pain that stays with you forever sometimes you'll keep skipping across that pond but you'll carry that painful stone with you.
All you can do is learn to let go of it, acknowledge the damage its done and move forward. There is also something else just around the corner.
With all the stones you've stepped on you'll be more resilient for what comes next.
Keep going x
Anonymous
January 26th, 2022 4:11am
This is a difficult question. There really isn't one answer to it. Sadness is a strange thing, it comes when we least expect it, and often we don't know why we are feeling sad. Sometimes I struggle too, to identify why I am upset. And sometimes, I'm upset just because. I think you may benefit from a counselor if you have never felt this way before, especially if you are going through something tough, somebody to help and guide you through - it can be very beneficial. This is your decision, but I have faith in you that you will feel better.
Sadness can often stem from situations or events in our lives that come from either internal or external forces. Sometimes, sadness cannot be better explained by any of these and those emotions just pop up out of nowhere. Regardless of the situation, feeling sad isn't an easy feeling to cope with and it can often result in additional feelings of anxiety and hopelessness. Acknowledging that sadness is the first step toward understanding it better as it allows you to take a look inside that emotion to figure out the root of it. Suppressing that sadness because you think you don't have a good enough reason to be sad can be worse in the long run, so trying your best to understand that sadness and acknowledge those feelings is the best step in the right direction toward being able to help yourself feel better.
Thank you for sharing with me how you feel today. I want to say it is very brave of your to speak out to me today and it shows how brave you truly are. I am sorry to hear that you're not feeling your best today. I have felt this way myself from time to time and it feels like it will never end. Sadness is a very real part of being human, we have so many emotions that show up in order to be felt. Sadness is one that is very difficult to process and only the strong (such as yourself) are being given an opportunity to face it. Just you identifying the emotion is a huge step to moving past it. I would say that this will pass, if you can sit with it and not reject the emotion, you will feel better about it.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2022 12:13pm
Sadness is just a feeling, but extreme sadness could lead to depression. Depression isn't a terrible thing, and it is somewhat common for people. You feel this way because of the influence people have on you and others views of the world. It's very sad sometimes, to see people getting bullied, and it's sad to the person getting bullied. There are many views of the world. Many people think that there are certain problems in the world, and views of them can be influenced on you, which isn't good. Sadness is a lot like this. People are enforcing things on you, or troubling things happen.
Sometimes sadness can be overwhelming. First you should have a look and try and figure out what made you feel this way. Sometimes it can be a build up of multiple situations causing you to feel so much sadness all at once. By understanding why you feel this sadness can then help you move forwards. Sadness is a natural emotion to difficult situations. However some people may feel sadness and not know why or understand why they feel the way they do. This is also natural. It could be due to a person repressing emotions or from a person being so overwhelmed it turns to sadness. No one can tell you why you feel the way you do. Dealing with overwhelming feelings of sadness can be difficult but it is all about finding coping strategies and distractions so that you can manage these emotions. Identifying things you enjoy doing is a good start!
Maybe you are going through something, or even something you went through some time ago is just coming to the surface. There are many reasons for sadness. Whatever the reason, you are entitled to feel what you feel. Just do your best to process your emotions and if you ever need to talk, 7cups is an amazing place to do so. Also, if you ever feel you could benefit from professional help, we can help you with that as well. I hope it all gets better for you!
Anonymous
June 11th, 2022 2:33pm
You should go and reflect on the things in your life that could be causing this problem. Maybe it has something to do with school or work. Try going through them all and if you have found one you can start beginning to think of different solutions. I personally have been in this position and by going through all the possible negative factors which could be responsible I eventually found it and worked together with my relatives and people around me to resolve the problem and to think on how we can prevent it. I hope you will find out why you feel this way and work it out!
Anonymous
June 11th, 2022 6:43pm
You may feel really sad because something bad has happened that you are really affected by. It is also possible that there is a chemical imbalance and that you need to see a therapist or you could be experiencing something else that masks itself as sadness. You may be struggling or experiencing a big obstacle in your life that you have no idea how to handle or you could also be lonely. Sadness may also result from feelings of inadequacy or low self-worth. You could be missing somebody that you really care about. Sometimes sadness just comes out of nowhere and we have to ride the waves until it passes.
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