I find myself thinking of people as useless and tedious. What's wrong with me?

Very often, the way we feel about others is a reflection of the way we feel about ourselves. Do you find that you think of yourself in similar terms, running an internal monologue that says you're useless and/or tedious? Or, as is also likely, you've internalized the voice of a parent or other primary caregiver, who repeatedly (whether intending to or not) made you feel that you had those undesirable attributes. One helpful practice, when we meet someone we find objectionable or somehow offputting, is to ask ourselves "Am I seeing a quality that I have (and dislike about myself) expressed in them? ". This helps to get beyond our projections and dig a little deeper into what riles us.

To assume there is something wrong with you would be to assume that what you're experiencing is unnatural, and I don't believe this is true at all. I think we all encounter individuals who may cause us to feel this way, and it can be especially challenging when you notice a trend. Personally, I try to maintain an objective point of view and remember that, just like me, each person is on their own journey. Developing compassion, for those whom we become frustrated by, can take time, commitment and patience. Most importantly, be kind to yourself - that's where it all starts!

Nothing is wrong with you. :) Those are automatic thoughts that we all experience. People are all different. Maybe they are useless to you. But there are people who may be depending on them. Everyone has got their own issues. It is possible that this person may be experiencing something internally and they are not showing it. Self-talk is a good way of reasoning with your thoughts. Sometimes, ask yourself if there is evidence for what you are thinking. It can also be true. It is possible that this has become your habit. And it has been passed on to you by your parents or where you grew up. It is good to be self-aware. But you don't need to beat yourself up.

why do you think that others are useless and tedious, what makes you think that there is something wrong with you. Lets concentrate on how we can place these words in the right perspective eg changing them from negative to positive. Can you think of any words that sound more positive than negative. Tell me have you ever heard anyone say anything bad to you, if so how did you feel. The people who you think are tedious and useless, are they close relations or just people in general. Describe what actions they are doing or what they are saying to make you feel this way. Has anyone made you feel like this in your past

Well, the truth is, people are tedious. It takes a lot of work to live socially. There's a lot you have to think about. And every person has their own lives with their own struggles. That's a lot to remember and a lot to have to service. A lot of work goes into maintaining friendships or even just getting through a single conversation. As for the 'useless' tag, I cannot agree with that label. However, that doesn't mean that the problem is with you. Maybe you have been putting too much effort into unrewarding relationships. People can be kind and selfless and far from useless, but you have to find those people, the ones who are willing to put in the work to make a relationship happen. I would encourage you to continue working hard on your relationships, but I would also encourage you to look for the ways in which others are doing the same. Find people who are willing to help you back.

I think you're just tired of your surroundings. There's nothing wrong with you. I have often found myself feeling like that too. In order to overcome that I take a break from it. Go out for a trip with some friends or family or out on your own. A change in the atmosphere is refreshing. Cut down all the connections temporarily. Focus on the areas that you think needs to be worked on. Allocate time for the activities that you like to do, for example, paint, read a book, watch an all-time favorite movie or tv show. You could also try meditating that can help you a lot too.

Honestly, it is just human nature because I feel the same way. Every day I feel like I'm discovering another dark secret about humanity itself. There nothing wrong with thinking that way because I believe it true. There are many people like that, that don't need to be in our lives. But remember 2 things. Firstly just like how people have shortcomings, they will have their strengths. Sometimes it's just hard to find them. Secondly, as long as there is one person that you can trust and live for, those other useless people don't matter. Just trust those few people that you can and live for yourself.

Receiving negative emotions sometimes is perfectly normal for everyone. Sometimes people disappoint others, which can lead to thinking of the general public as useless and/or tedious. Getting these feelings doesn't necessarily mean that you as a person are defected. Every person has a right to an opinion, and seeing as it's an opinion, it cannot be wrong nor right. I, myself, sometimes experience these feelings. They aren't always easy to deal with because you feel "weird", "stupid" or even "wrong". Just remember, negative emotions don't have to be in balance with positive ones. Just HAVING positive thoughts is a great start - negative emotions should never feel overpowering.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! It's normal to feel this kind of way, and it depends from person to person how they feel about different things. You might have a deeper reason for these thoughts tho? Maybe you have been out for some sort of trauma, and therefor you feel this way? I'm no one to solve your problem, or give you "the perfect answer", but I do know from personal experience that feeling that way have something to do with my personal trauma, in the past. However, what you feel is not wrong, you have every right to feel like you do.

There are many circumstances that I find other individuals to be "tedious and useless." For example, 1. When other individuals are incapable of fulfilling my wants or needs, 2. When I spend too much time socializing, so I begin to feel exhausted, or 3. When I see people on social media complaining or being hypocrites and contradicting. Therefore, when I begin to feel like this, I have now realized to take a step back and take a break. I feel like it's normal for people to feel like in certain circumstances that others can be "tedious and useless." It just really depends on the circumstances or if you're feeling other feelings. However, a lot of the times people are upset and annoyed from something, so ultimately, something is causing you to feel that way. You have to reflect on yourself and figure out what it could be. It's different for everyone.

It’s nothing wrong with you. There are times in our life where we don’t feel as friendly. Those are the times where we can self reflect and determine the areas in our life we wish to improve. There may be some underlying issues that have to be addressed that may have been hidden. Self reflection is a way to monitor our thoughts and feelings in hope to be in tune with our nature and ultimately determine what our happiness looks like. We may not know what the entire picture looks like but we can start with some elements in the scene.

It is totally okay and valid to be feeling this way, it does not mean that you are a bad person whatsoever! You may be feeling burnt out by social interaction, or by the people you are with! It is also possible that you are feeling the stress from other areas of your life such as work, school, family, etc. and that is detracting from the amount of energy you have to deal with other people! Everyone experiences this at least once in their lifetime, so you are not alone! Take note of how you feel the next time you are around a group of people. Do they make you feel frustrated, angry, exhausted, joyful, excited? Then think about what you were doing earlier in the day, or in the past week! Is there anything that may have contributed to the way you were feeling (good or bad)? Keep track of these experiences and the feelings that go along with them, and you may see a pattern! You deserve to be around people that make you feel uplifted, validated, and supported. It's also okay to withdraw for a while and take some time to yourself to reset and practice self-care. Either way, listen to yourself and what your body is telling you, there's no need to force yourself to do things that make you feel bad!

i believe if you personally think of other people, whether you know them or not, as useless and/or tedious, you might have a phobia of being socially adept. everyone in this world has a purpose, so no one is useless or tedious. this does not mean that something is wrong with you, but it can mean that you need to open up to the world and society by becoming social adept. taking a class or course online or at a local college can help. going to the library and participating in its resources and activities will help you to make friends with people who share the same opinions or hobbies that you have. no one is useless because everyone has a purpose. no one is tedious because no one is perfect, and difference is what makes people special.

I am smiling because I feel the same way at times. Sometimes we just do not feel in alignment with other peoples thoughts, feelings, and actions. For example, I do not like superficial friends and for me, personally, I find them useless. I do not want to waste my valuable time on that type of interaction. This took some time to explore my personality and what makes me happy. Now, I know that it is perfectly fine for me to focus on having a smaller set of quality friendships. Sometimes, we cannot avoid people that annoy us, such as at work. I suggest you explore why you are feeling that way, too. It will give you good insight about yourself and your likes and dislikes. I suggest finding coping tools to deal with difficult situations if you find yourself getting mad or upset in those situations.

Nothing is wrong with you. I deal with this problem as well. Sometimes humans can make no sense and make stupid decisions and I think they're just annoying and a waste of space. But those traits don't define people completely and people can be nice and worth living. Everyone has their own traits and how they act like in the world and nothing is invalid. Stress from other people can make us feel like they're only an obstacle and in our way and we can interpret that as people being useless and tedious. Just remember that there is more to people than just that.

You are possibly feeling depressed and dealing with your own inner problems. This means you have less energy to support yourself and to interact with those around you. You are also probably having a hard time living in the modern world as it has so many needs from us and so many things we have to live up to. By learning more about yourself, your wants and needs, and your hurts, you will feel more at peace. Chatting to someone here on 7Cups is good for that or talking to a parent or trusted friend. It might help you to talk to your doctor or finding a good counsellor too so you can ask lots of questions about who you are. Look to yourself first. When you feel more at ease in yourself and the world you will have energy to interact with others. You may want to help others who have gone through similar challenges and 7Cups is a great place to do that too.

There is nothing wrong with you. It is just normal to sometimes get overwhelmed by spending too much time around people. With no personal time. Its normal to feel this way, don't let anyone let you believe otherwise. There are few things you can try to make sure you avoid letting yourself from feeling this way. 1. You could try to make sure that you have some personal time set aside. Use this time to just seat around with yourself. And recharge for s while. this will really help you from feeling overwhelmed. 2. Identify circumstances that lead you to feeling this way. 3. Ensure that you spend time with people who do not make you feel triggered or they are unreliable.

Nothing is wrong with you. It's valid and completely okay to get frustrated with people. This feeling is completely okay and I've felt similarly as well! Life has a lot of challenges, and you're doing an amazing job navigating through them. To me it seems like sometimes you may have a short temper, and you get irritated quickly. I struggle with the same things a lot of the time, and I find that a lot of the time it's projection or just exhaustion from the day! Could this be accurate? Would you like to explain what bothers you or possibly triggers these thoughts?

It sounds like you haven't found people you are compatible with. I don't think there's anything wrong with you actually, it's quite normal to feel this way when you feel disconnected, at least that's been my experience. Perhaps you find their conversations dull or draining, or just don't see yourself as part of the group at all. I think finding new connections could be beneficial. The important thing to figure out is, what are your values as a person? Sometimes simply being around people of similar value is comforting. You might feel more connected and confident, knowing your values are shared. It's something to think about if nothing else. I can't tell you what to do with your life, but I understand where you're coming from. Take care.

Not to sound psychoanalytic, but personally, I've sometimes wondered whether these thoughts could be a reflection of how I've felt about myself. As a self-healer, I've always wanted to find the answers to my questions, and to feel them as lucidly as possible. For a very long time, I thought that my way towards these answers would in large part derive from my interactions with, and dealings with, others around me. I sought to gain my own direction through them, in a way. And when I discovered they didn't hold the exact answers I needed (the ones to unlock subsequent questions), I noticed myself feeling some irritability. At times, not receiving these answers was, in a word, extremely tedious. In this case, I needed to realize that part of my 'self-healing' would require time spent turning inwards. Once I learned this lesson, it became easier for me to appreciate others in ways that didn't give rise to feelings of tediousness or irritability. Among other things, I found a deeper and more sustainable appreciation for the people around me. Though I can't exactly answer the question, because I don't know your circumstance, I hope this story could possibly awaken some clues. :)

Thank you for reaching out! I can understand from your question that your negative perception of people is making you feel that you are unfair in thinking like this and that your perceptions are something you should fix. You may first of all ask yourself where are these negative perceptions coming from. In what ways has your childhood shaped how you perceived others? Has any childhood experience (bullying, abusive parents or family members) got anything to do with how you feel to the point your projecting this onto other people, thinking they too are not trustworthy and have ill intentions? People are often vulnerable to scrutinizing other people. What we can instead do is to create a sense of understanding amongst ourselves to realize the fact that each and every one of us is in a league of our own. This is a story not of comparison but of you as an individual. We can instill good habits in others but assuming that they are useless says what about ourselves? Do we have a deep insecurity inside of us? Are we overconfident or too picky or so we set our standards too high towards how others should be? You may want to ask yourself how you find giving people the benefit of the doubt. Are you considering their troubles or worries of life’s general before you form your perception of them? To explore your thoughts further you are welcome to communicate 1-1 with any of our amazing listeners or therapists on our site. There is a Relationship support community room open on our site 24/7 every Thursday if you want to share you experience in a group environment. The first step for self-improvement is being accepting what imperfection you have about yourself. It’s clear you want to be able to trust others more and learn to give them benefit of the doubt.

It is nothing wrong whit you, The first thing you need to do—expand the capacity of your awareness—is not at all obvious how to achieve it. Most people simply interpret it as simply getting experience in the world, learn more things about the world. But I’m referring to something very different. Something internal. It’s about WHAT you are—consciousness itself. Getting experience, learning about yourself and the world are all outwardly directed attention activities. I’m saying you need to develop your awareness in an inward direction as well, experience directly what you are at your core—your source of creativity and intelligence, your innermost SELF, your pure consciousness.

Nothing is wrong with you. You will find your people in life, you just need to keep an open mind. If you struggle to keep friends, that's just because you haven't met the right people yet! There's someone for everyone x You are not useless or tedious. I have felt that way in my life before, too, and I never expected to find the wonderful tribe of friends I have now. It was a long journey to get here, but it was so, so worth every step I had to take to get here. Have faith and know that you won't be alone forever x

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Any thought or feeling you have are valid. Doesn't mean they are right it just means that they always have a good reason to be here... Try to remember what made you hold this belief about people and try to get help to heal this deep wound. Maybe you were abandonned at a point in your life? maybe you were betrayed? Many things can happen to us that have a huge impact on our mindset... And that our loved one and closest friends are not able to see... Try to be kind to yourself. Best of luck in your journey!

Why do you think something is wrong with you? And is this something you occasionally catch yourself feeling, or do you feel it all the time? Your feelings are relatable, and I think everyone, or at least every introverted person, has at some point felt a similar feeling with regard to people. Sometimes, we can feel a frustration with those around us, or even grow irritated with their seemingly unnecessary presence or intrusions. If you find yourself feeling that way, it may be a sign that you need time alone to "recharge" away from people. If it is a more consistent feeling, that is, if it is something you feel all the time and it causes you concern, you may want to discuss the feeling with a mental health provider to analyze the cause of the feeling.

You are very numb and you do not know what to feel and you just want to be alone. You should talk to someone about that. It could lead to many thoughts and it could lead you to thinking that you are useless and tedious as well due to you being a human being. We are all here for a reason. If it weren't for every man made thing and basically everything in the whole world and possibly outside of earth.. it would not be what it would be. We are very unique beings on this earth that we know of.

Nothing's wrong with you - for all we know, it may even be accurate! But it may also be a symptom of a mindset you've slipped into. Either way, it sounds like some kind of slump you can take actions to get out of, or test. Perhaps life has become boring to you. Or perhaps you could focus more on the journey of collecting new ideas from other people. In the case that it's really 'them', you yourself could try to pick up a new hobby, for with new hobbies come new communities of inspiring people. Sharpening a skill would also help if life has indeed become boring to you.

Try to see the little things in life and be grateful because someone is always going to have it worse than you do. You could be disabled or poor or have any other amount of endless issues but what you focus on is what is going to be your reality. Take a moment to look at what is outside like the plants and the animals and try to think positively even if its only for like 10 minutes. You can start to change your way of thinking and make changes, but you have to be the one to do so. No one can do this for you.

Probably things are not going according to your way. Neither you nor other people are capable of solving the situation going around you. So you are developing this tendency to find them useless. Don't pass judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. ... Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. ... Accept. Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to accept. ... Love. In most cases, we judge others in order to feel better about ourselves, because we are lacking self-acceptance and self-love. ... If we could all learn to love ourselves, we would make our world a much more compassionate and much less judgmental place.

There's nothing wrong with you, but there is probably a root to where these thoughts are coming from. Trauma from abuse, depression, anxiety, a history of bullying, and just having your trust broken are all things that can make you believe that people are bad. Even if these thoughts come unintentionally, it might be your brain trying to protect yourself from getting hurt again. Look at your past experiences and maybe you can see a connection. As for the thoughts, perhaps try challenging them. Black-and-white thinking is a harmful thought process that can come after negative experiences with others. Challenge the negative thoughts that come to you. If you can't see others in a positive light, try towards seeing them in a neutral light: an imperfect human with both good and bad qualities. Don't hesitate to see a professional if you need one!