I find myself thinking of people as useless and tedious. What's wrong with me?
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Maybe because you have been upset by people one too many times that you feel its a waste of time to entertain them because it will just end up the same way at the end.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 1:59pm
Nothing's wrong with you. You probably just need some time off from people. You know, sometimes, it's best to be away from people.
Probably things are not going according to your way. Neither you nor other people are capable of solving the situation going around you. So you are a developing this tendency to find them useless.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 8:09am
It maybe because no one understands you, It also maybe because people have hurt you, maybe badly hurt you, It also maybe that you are stubborn and dont give value to what others say. It also maybe that people around you are stubborn, expect many things from you and dont listen to what you have to say,
Nothing's wrong with you. As an introvert myself, I tend to think along those same lines when people get on my nerves but that's just because of the way introverts are wired, being around people is a tedious and stressful process and most times, we just label them as useless and annoying because we can't understand or handle them.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2016 6:05am
Someone's getting cyncial! People are tedious, it's true - but statistically, not all of them can be! Maybe the people you associate with most are super tedious - maybe it's time to find people who you can actually have a good conversation with!
If you think that of others, how do you think of yourself? Perhaps you feel like you are never doing enough. This is known as projection.
I don't think people treat you the way you deserve to be treated like. Nothing is wrong with you. I think you have to think of stenghts you have.
Anything negative that one thinks towards another comes from one's own inner pain. If you feel others are useless and tedious, then it is likely that you yourself have been made to feel that way in the past, perhaps by parents, and you harbour an inner resentment and pain because of this. You then reflect it out onto others as a way to cope; but the real way to cope is letting go of the past wounding.
You have a desire to widen your horizons, it makes you frustrated that those around you may not understand. Your approach is a little off, modify it. People are different, that's what makes us unique. Stay focused on your life and work to make it better. Smile in the process.
I'm sorry you're feeling that way, I can relate. Maybe consider practicing some exercises that will help with thoughts that make you feel something is wrong with you. We have great resources here, let me check with my mentor for guides that you can read if you'd like. Then, we can discuss what you learned 😊 let me know!
People tend to feel like this when they're not productive often. But don't worry it's not just you. Society puts pressure on everyone to reach some standards. Though if you cannot handle it then try doing something that will make you feel useful. Exercise is a common thing to start with.
nothing is wrong with you. you are human. humans have different, out of the blue thoughts like that all the time.. what drives those thoughts is what matters
Anonymous
August 20th, 2016 12:43am
Nothing is wrong with you. It seems you are a bit frustrated with people. Why do you think people are doing to make you feel this way? Do you share the same interests?
Anonymous
April 21st, 2017 7:58am
There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes other people can be frustrating as we can't know what they're thinking or what their intentions are. Try to keep an open mind and put yourself in their situation, but don't feel like you have to be around other people all the time. It's perfectly normal to want to be alone sometimes as dealing with just yourself can be easier than dealing with other people.
Nothings wrong with you, we all go through these phases and sometimes we might just not have the right friendship group at that specific time.
It may be because you feel useless and see that condition in other people. Or maybe you're feeling depressed. It's normal to think people is tedious and uselsess when you're depressed.
Ask yourself what expectations you have from people and try to adjust them as you learn more about each and everyone's situation. Such thoughts can also be influenced by your current mood.
Nothing is wrong with you, you are not required to get along or look up to everyone you meet. A lot of people find people boring, And if they are boring to you they are not going to be a source or stimulation or amusement. But it doesn't mean everyone is like that :)
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 6:29pm
Such feelings of unworthiness are often a result of certain thought patterns and situations you experienced. Try to focus on things you are able to do and things you have done well :)
Anonymous
October 6th, 2016 1:33pm
I think, to some extent, we all do it. For me, I know that when I feel that way, it's because life is becoming the same old and I am bored with myself so I bring others down so I can feel better. Other times, I feel like my life is moving and everyone is just dragging in comparison. It could just be a distraction from thinking about yourself and your worth, perhaps...?
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 10:44pm
Nothing's wrong with you, Maybe people haven't been treating you right. You just need someone to show you that they can be of use and no bother you a lot.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2020 9:54pm
This is a really good question! From my experience, i've found that sometimes that is because of the way you've grown up. If you see the people around you valuing productivity and efficiency, you're going to pick that up. You may also feel the need to be productive and efficient with your work out of what was expected of you in your environment. This may evolve into a source of pain or insecurity or even anger for you. You may start to push this insecurity onto others without realizing. However, what matters is that you've recognized this is a problem and have reflected on yourself
Anonymous
May 6th, 2020 10:55pm
Very often, the way we feel about others is a reflection of the way we feel about ourselves. Do you find that you think of yourself in similar terms, running an internal monologue that says you're useless and/or tedious? Or, as is also likely, you've internalized the voice of a parent or other primary caregiver, who repeatedly (whether intending to or not) made you feel that you had those undesirable attributes. One helpful practice, when we meet someone we find objectionable or somehow offputting, is to ask ourselves "Am I seeing a quality that I have (and dislike about myself) expressed in them? ". This helps to get beyond our projections and dig a little deeper into what riles us.
It sounds like you're under a lot of stress and frustration as you would like it to be. Therefore, this pent up feeling of being stuck becomes the lens through which you view the world, which makes it seem like people around are very annoying. I would need more information as to what has happened, but am inclined to think that you would have to give yourself a break. Learn to relax a little, engage in your favourite hobby and take a break from social interaction. After you feel like you're rested, it's time to get working again. :) Hope this answer is helpful.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2022 2:56pm
There is nothing wrong with you, let's get that straight. Nothing is wrong with you, you should know that. You are an important person and special. Love yourself!!
Next, finding people useless and tedious could be a sign of not being impressed with them or not knowing how to respond to them. I get it-we all have people we don't necessarily like. That's not a big deal, as having enemies is natural-but finding some people boring is natural, too.
In elementary, middle, and high school, you may have found that some teachers could be boring, or that someone in your class could have been boring-no big deal.
Finding someone boring is just a fact of life. There is nothing wrong with that. ☺
Take care!!!
It happens, you're not the only one. Sometimes, people can be very protective of themselves and in turn, become very picky about who they want to spend time with. It might be the fact that people are not proving you wrong and are in fact, "useless and tedious." But, a very helpful habit to adopt is to try not to let that get in the way of making friendships and connections. You can spend more time by yourself as much as you want, but still we are humans and we are in need of human interaction. Even if some people are an exercise to spend time with, having a bit of change from your own company will be fun and a breath of air, not necessarily fresh air, but air in general. And you never know, you might find somebody whose company doesn't make you feel fully aware of it, that you would be completely at ease having them around.
I too have felt this way about people. I have often felt bad about it or blamed myself for being rude and/or mean. I am a person of high intelligence, and I feel that that has something to do with it. I have always understood things at a deeper level than many of the people around me, and in doing so I often disregarded what others would say as wrong, I still do so! I do not think there is anything wrong with you, I believe that you just have a better understanding or perhaps a different mindset than those that surround you! I think that it all depends on the way you deal with these thoughts :)
A lot of people are useless and tedious. Nothing is wrong with you. You should worry if you find EVERYONE useless and tedious. Are you telling these people that they are useless and tedious? If so, that may mean that there is something wrong with you and that you're not adhering to societal norms. Maybe you should spend time with a variety of people to see if there are some who don't bother you as much? If it's still bothering you, write your feelings down in a journal so the thoughts are no longer swimming around in your head.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 9:48am
How do we see other people is actually a reflection of our inner thoughts. Do you feel angry when you found yourself useless and tedious? These feelings are so painful to deal with so we tend to blame someone else in order to avoid self-blaming. Trying to recall if someone in your life has called you useless or tedious or you have witnessed someone in your family blaming each other, maybe your judgement comes from your parents/family's influence and you have experienced these comments growing up. They are not really your belief but come from the environment you grew up with.
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