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Anonymous
April 16th, 2020 6:31am
Our true happiness define by our peace of mind.
when our mind is not wondering here and there finding solution of our problems ,making pre amsumptions.
Making mind away from any kind of stress bring peace inside and thats thing make you truely happy. Other thing is our desires, Our actual happiness is not about desires but the fulfillment of needs in life. When as a person u have learned what is difference between your needs and wants .Automatically you have learned your way to Happiness.
Not seeking materialistic world and money as your priority but small happiness in life.Be happy .
There are no guidelines of being happy. And I believe that one can experience multiple emotions at once. You can be happy while you are feeling sad or anxious because we are not robots. We are humans. Also, even at your darkest moments, there is always a little something that would make you happy. You are happy, if you love yourself and capable of saying to yourself that “This is only temporary, just like everything else in life and I have the power to cope with it.†Most of the time, you are much more happier than you think you are.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2020 5:38pm
Happy people are not immune to life's hardships. They go through rough waters like everyone else. However, happy people know when to reach out and ask for help. There are just few moments where you wish for time to freeze, the times where you wish to relive a moment again and again, for a moment just not to end. If there was a mirror right in front of you it would feel honored to see the most extravagant curve on your face. At the end of the day, it all sums up to how one perceives itself. And one holds the strength to be happy.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2021 9:07am
I think the important part of being happy is to know that it is permanent contentness and not just temporary - not a fleeting feeling of happiness.
When you’re truly happy you feel confidence in yourself. You believe without a doubt that you can make it through anything life could throw at you. Your mind is clear and your heart is light. The world seems brightly colored. You have energy and you have the drive to get things done. You feel loved and give love to the people around you. You smile more than you cry, you laugh everyday sometimes more than once. You feel complete and satisfied with yourself and your situation. You try and spread the feeing to others just bc you want to
When it feels like there's nothing else you could possibly ask for, it is then that you're truly happy. Happiness satisfaction in self and one's life, and what it has to offer.
If you're productive, you're happy because feeling accomplished comes with a sense of happiness and satisfaction. We need the feeling of being productive to be able to feel hopeful about ourselves and our future.
Loving yourself is happiness. You come first and foremost and you're the only one who is to stay with you forever. Cherish yourself and try to attain satisfaction and accomplishments during your journey so you could reach the hyggelige :]
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2022 7:07am
How do we know when we are truly happy? When we are grateful and passionate about life everyday, and when problems only seem like challenges, that we can triumph over. And you will know when you are truly happy is when you feel love for yourself and others, and by just you choosing to put a smile on your face even when things are not going your way. Whether its paying someone a compliment or performing a random act of love kindness, when you're really happy, in fact you appreciate the little things, there is nothing greater than hearing your favorite song come on the radio or being outside and hearing a few birds chirp.
when you can show emotional attachment and good vibes with other people's success and well being, when you can plan your future , have friendship with your past, accepting the present and feel contented, when you have enough energy to switch between creative and logical tasks, when presence of logical ranters dont bother you, when you can halt your thinking just to listen to others, when you can show empathy towards others, when you feel emotionally present for someone in need , when you know your mind is ready to do other tasks rather than thinking of passing time in bed
Anonymous
February 6th, 2022 6:02am
I believe that it is possible to know if you're truly happy by how you feel when others aren't around. This ensures that you aren't putting on a fake persona for those around you, and you can tell whether you're happy and at peace as yourself, even without others cheering you up. Being true to yourself, loving yourself, just as who you are is incredibly important! Sometimes people won't be around to encourage you, and I hope people can learn to be self-sufficient and thrive, even without people surrounding them. The support others give is important! But try to not put on a happy face for them, they care about how you truly are. We can't be happy all the time, but taking steps towards being truly happy with yourself lifts a weight off your shoulders!
Anonymous
January 6th, 2022 10:50am
I know I am truly happy on how I am able to be confident in my own skin. I am taking care of myself holistically: body, mind, spiritually. I am aware of my triggers and urge surf to where I want and need to go. I keep an open mind. I prioritize what I need before helping others. I "Place my own oxygen mask on first". I help others. I exercise. I enjoy my hobbies. I get out in nature and feel alive. I operated my whole system with grace and ease. I tell myself positive affirmations. I believe the affirmation. I feel free to be me. That is how I now I am truly happy.
Happiness is defined by the individual. For me, being happy is relaxing with a few people I trust and feel comfortable around. Someone else could be a lot happier around more people or doing more extroverted activities. Everyone has their own "happy place". Happiness isn't just an end game, it can be found in the little things and moments that pass by all too soon.
Personally, I find the most happiness in any moment that makes me smile. It's not always easy to see, especially if you have a lot on your mind and a lot going on in your life. So don't be down on yourself if you just can't see those little moments of happiness. It just takes a little reaching out. Need new friends? Check out some discord servers with people who have the same interests as you! Or even look through a subreddit or two and you can make a connection with people. Want some freedom from family or alone time? Go to a Starbucks nearby and people watch with some tea. It can be incredibly rewarding to simply exist. You don't need to justify your existence.
The only times I feel and genuinely believe I am truly happy are when I want to share that joy with my loved ones. I would find myself going up to them, calling them up, and telling them that which is making me elated. My fingers shiver a little, I also end up stuttering (a personal reaction haha, might not be the same for all) and I think, people around you, if they have good instincts, will easily see a spark in your eyes when you are swimming in the lake of joy. Real joy is only felt when you have experienced real sorrow and vice-versa. It is only YOU who can sense the wave of exhilaration inside you and no one else.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2021 10:55pm
I think happiness for everyone is able to be different and there is no right answer. Happiness for one can be completely different for someone else. What one person may like to do can help them, but it may not help someone else. There music as an example, some people are ok with listening to classical music to help them relax or get them to a calmer place and others are unable to relax with that music. It can be said with many things that are able to make some happy, feel joy, or even relax. Not everything that works for one will always work for someone else.
You find yourself smiling and laughing often. You treat people well (including yourself), expecting nothing in return. Not seeking out happiness in other people. Happy people make others feel better. They light up the world around them with their happiness! It's being excited to wake up every day and live your day to day life. You have compassion to listen to others when you're truly happy. You prioritize your own needs when you're truly happy. You don't take anything too personally or seriously. Your mindset is focused on growth! Failures only seem the teach you how to get better. It's apparent the world is ultimately good, as long as you get out there and try at what you love.
Happiness is very much related to satisfaction. If you have been feeling content with the lifestyle in front of you, the chances are that you are happy! Sure, life is not a linear plane. We face ups and downs, but amidst the challenging moments of life, you would feel hopeful and determined to see yourself through it. Having said that, it's not possible to be happy 24/7. Allow yourself to be real with how you feel and hold on to hope. A truly happy person is true to themselves and is filled with contentment regarding the opportunities life has given them.
Happiness is different for everybody. Everybody might feel like they are living their life ot its fullest by doing different things, so there's no set of requirements or goals that you need to achieve to be happy. it doesn't even have to mean that ou feel happy and positive the whole time. But real happiness usually comes from the fact that you feel comfortable in your own skin, have set some healthy boundaries for yourself and others and feel safe and heard in your environment. There's no real check list that you can cross points off of to know that you are happy, because everybody might need something different.
Quite honestly, you can't. If you have to ask yourself that question, odds are you are not as happy with your life as you would probably like to be. The bittersweet thing about that though, is happiness can't really be neatly quantified. The best thing to do is not question it. Happiness isn't something you logically know, it's something you feel. Questioning it will lead you to thinking about potentially why you're not happy, why you shouldn't be, etc. It's rumination essentially. At the end of the day, happiness like all things is temporary. Don't think, just feel :)
I think this is a difficult but really cool question to ask. There are many different ways to define being happy and what is meaningful to one person might not feel the same to another. I would like to say that for me, being able to surround myself with supportive people, food I like, and activities that challenge me make me feel really good. When I feel connected to something important it makes me happy. I am curious about your use of the word "truly", I think there are many ways to feel and if you feel happy that is enough. Whatever you are feeling is valid and if you would like to talk more, please reach out for support.
Although happiness can't have one particular definition, it is dynamic. It depends from person to person for a child happiness would be getting his favorite toy. For a adult finding a good job or finding a partner would be a happiness. For a parent, success of their children brings happiness. But there are certain parameters, like:
1)Feeling of gratitude towards others
2)finding beauty in small thing like in seeing a plant or flower.
3) When you wish to share your happiness and smile with others.
These are some of the parameters. And as it is said that happiness is a "state of mind". If your mind is listening to you and in your control. You are Absolutely Happy
That is a very good question. Many people battle with that question day in and day out. True happiness needs to come from inside, from deep down within you. Happiness that comes from luxury or from physical gain, will not provide a concrete or permanent sense of joy. In order to achieve true happiness, you need to challenge yourself and accomplish and do good deeds for another. This fills you inside with a sense of glowing pleasure and satisfaction, and that, I believe, is the ultimate way or path to achieving true joy and fulfillment through self-discovery and growth.
Anonymous
May 12th, 2021 11:45am
Maybe once you reach a point where you no longer constantly have to ask yourself that? Maybe, it'll just sneak up on you and you will realise that you have reached that point. Some do say that true happiness is also a conscious choice that we have to make (instead of waiting around for it to come to us). So, maybe at a time where you feel peaceful or good, decide in that moment to try to allow yourself to feel truly happy? If that makes sense? Then, you can slowly practice that until it becomes a reality, and you are a happier person :).
I would know that I'm truly happy when several factors in my life are stress free or accomplished. Firstly, I will need a job that makes decent money to make me money and a job that obviously makes me happy. Secondly, I will not have tension with my close ones such as family and friends. Tension in relationships is one of the main things that have disrupt my happiness. Lastly, I will need to be doing something that is helps the community which can be through my job or on my spare time to make a difference to the society we live in.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2021 10:11am
Happiness is a journey and contentment is a marker I use to constantly gauge this. If I can honestly say I wholeheartedly accept who I am and the situation I am in even if I would like to make it different in some ways depending on the impact I would like to make, I believe that is happiness. Impact to me is measured by the positive influence I have on others based on my choices or my input into their lives. The human condition is one of constant striving and often we forget the importance of being content even as we seek to make changes
When I am completely connected with the present moment and I am conscious and aware of everything and everyone around me. When I begin to feel and act grateful for everything I have, for all the people in my life, the lessons I have learned and the world around me. When I appreciate nature in its purest form and I show respect for it. I know I’m truly happy when I can be happy for someone else. When I am constructive towards myself and towards others. When I am genuinely happy for other people’s happiness. When I surrender myself to loving and receiving love from others.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2021 7:02pm
hmm.. I think it would be when you stop comparing or having other people’s meaning of happiness interfere with yours. Because, I think sometimes we get too engaged or into with other people’s happiness to the point that we unconsciously set that as a standard for our own happiness too. For example, if someone defines happiness as having someone with you like a boyfriend/girlfriend, money, fame, power, or whatever it may be and just because that’s what you see or observe from them, you also think that yours should also be like it. To put it easier, you will know if you have your own definition and means of happiness, like it’s not just something that you have set to yourself based on what you see from your friends, family or whoever the fvck that is. Also, it’s when the inside you feels light, and of course when you’re not just faking it.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2021 8:25am
I feel it, your belly feel it. It's a strange sensation, but you know happiness reached you when you can feel it inhabit your body: simple actions become easier, the chest feels less heavy, less tight, thoughts stop running and give you some peace. Suddenly, the world starts to exist under a different light - and it's not the world which changed - but you are the one who see every object under a different view, under a light of curiosity and hope. You start accepting and condoning what the world did to you, you start to forgive yourself, knowing that how you acted was, at that harsh time, the best way possible.
I think happy can be used in different ways. I can instantly know I'm happy when I'm laughing with my friends or when I watch comedy, no ambiguity there...
Happy can also mean "I am happy with the way things are" - which means I am content with current status of things. I know I'm content when I don't feel compelled to make changes in life; in other word, I don't feel like that I need to make alteration to somethings just to be content with life - things are fine the way they are.
Happy can also mean happiness, which is a really complex topic. I think it has to do with having meaning or a purpose in life, feeling that what I do matters, perhaps can contribute to other people's wellbeing or help them in some other manner. When life feels meaningful - and I say feel because it is something ineffable, not a particular meaning OF life. It is meaning IN life, it's something that I can just feel. When life feels meaningful, I am truly happy.
I know that I am truly happy when I stop to think just about myself. And when I stop to take everything such as something personal. I know that I am truly happy when I live life completely it doesn't matter if I am upset with something. To me, happiness has nothing to do with excitement it is not the absence of sadness. It is always there in the background. If you pay close attention you will see. Your very nature is happiness. you are the happiness itself. You don't need to get rid of anything in order to be happy. Happiness is all-inclusive.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2020 7:41am
When the things around you don't feel like a chore. When you look at someone you care about and still feel that same love toward them. When you can look at yourself in the mirror, smile and mean it. When you know you are worth it, when you allow yourself to understand you deserve the best in the world. When motivating yourself to do anything doesn't feel like the hardest thing in the world to do. When you can tell someone or tell yourself that you love them and really mean what you say. When the things that made you happy, don't make you feel like you're drowning.
When I am happy, it's usually when I am feeling really present in the moment. It doesn't mean that there aren't stressors in my life or things that aren't great, but rather, I am able to appreciate the things I do have. Showing gratitude for the small things helps me avoid the feeling that I am without or missing out. When I do need to face those stressors, it's okay to feel other things other than happy, but I am able to process those feelings and return to a more positive outlook afterward. Being truly happy isn't a permanent state but rather just a temperament that we can all work towards.
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