I am married, so why am I attracted to other men?

You're married - not dead. Being in a monogamous relationship does not mean your romantic/sexual orientation shuts off. It is ok to feel attractions to others even if they are not your committed partner. We can't really help too much who we are attracted to. Feelings can be so inconvenient but we can influence or control how we respond. But if it is something which is really bothering you, you might want to consider talking to a professional or a relationship counselor about what is drawing you to other men who are not your partner. It could mean you feel your partner is not meeting your needs. Having an open dialogue with your partner is also important, withholding certain information can create communication barriers that can cause people to inadvertently drift apart.

Just because you marry someone or commit to be with someone does not mean your basic sexuality automatically shuts off to anyone other than your spouse. Feeling attraction is natural, even if it is to the same sex. It does not mean you need to act on those attractions or desires, nor does it mean that any new desires will replace your existing desires.

Who you're attracted to can't be controlled. Nor can any feelings or thoughts in general. Despite common misconceptions, it's actually pretty common to think (even fantasize) about others when you're dating or even married to someone. However, it isn't abnormal nor is it wrong. It happens. Don't feel guilt for whatever you feel or think. It's best to erase that shame through thinking about the situation and the nature of it. What matters is whether you want to act on your attraction. Cheating would be wrong towards your partner, because you'd break their trust. Some people want to experiment with others, or have an open relationship, polyamory or something similar. Which is okay too, if it's discussed and agreed about. If you feel like something is missing in your relationship, it's important to talk about that to keep communication good. Whatever the case, your attraction for others isn't a bad thing in itself. If it told anything about how much you love your partner, that'd mean that sexuality and love are the same thing. But they aren't really. Love is about trust, affection, empathy and such things.

Did you think getting married would automatically blind you to other men's attractiveness? It's normal (and okay) to notice and be attracted to other men. What is important is not to act on it unless you're in an open relationship.

I am not married nor have I ever been in a relationship, this is just what I've heard from other people. Being attracted to other men isn't the problem per se, it's your willingness to stick to your commitment to your husband that matters. In other words, just because you're married doesn't mean you'll find other guys attractive sometimes, but what matters is how you act (or don't act) on it.

i’m 15 so I can’t really answer that properly but I THINK that it’s normal to like other men physically but not emotionally? it’s natural for us humans to feel attracted to people sexually or physically because that’s how our hormones work. emotionally on the other hand, is a bit more complicated. if it’s platonic then you’re good but if you are having romantic feelings for another men… well i’m not entirely sure but I do know for sure that you should not act on that attraction while you are attached because that isn’t gonna end well for anyone in the situation