Why do I want bad things to happen to me?

It's really weird to think that someone would want to have something bad happen to them, yes. I often feel the same way and it seems illogical. For me, I think that I would like to be hurt, for example in an accident, in order to get attention, to avoid responsibillities and have an excuse, and from feeling guilty because many people have bad things happen to them everyday. Why should they get hurt instead of me? Maybe also because of self destructive or suicidal like reasons. Like you would like to die, but don't want to do it yourself.

Because I believe I deserve them. Because I have failed myself and others and I am unworthy of goodness. Because others are worth more than me and they should be happy. Misery is to be expected for me.

Wanting bad things to happen to yourself can be thought of a form of self-punishment. Often times people with these thoughts or feelings have something on their mind they feel uneasy about; it could be anything from a fight with a loved one, to feeling inadequate, to something they feel they have done wrong. If you are having feelings you want something bad to happen to you, I encourage you to consider what has brought you to that place in your mind. If you want something bad to happen try to work out why you want something to happen; what is the purpose of this thing happening to you, and how will you feel afterward? Do you feel as if you deserve it, if so, why? If something bad happens to you what positive changes will come out of it? As you work through these thoughts and feelings you may begin to realize that by wanting something bad to happen to yourself it gives you a sense of 'fairness' toward an event or situation you have dealt with in the past. By having something bad happen to you your 'negative scales' are balanced (i.e., 'One bad thing for them, one bad thing for me'). As you begin to work through these thoughts and feelings hopefully you realize this is not a healthy or productive way to manage your feelings or emotions. Two wrongs do not make a right, and by having something bad happen to yourself it does not restore any form of karmic balance. With thoughts and feelings like this, often times it is something you are carrying with you which you have not resolved and worked through. Forgiveness is not just for other people, it is for ourselves too.

I have experienced the same feelings. I'll wish that I would get cancer or crash my car or get mugged. I know why I feel that way at times: it would be something else to worry about, something concrete and right in front of me, not something abstract like school, money, depression, etc. Perhaps that is why you feel that way, or maybe it's another reason. Maybe you feel like you deserve to be punished. Regardless of the reasoning, you should reflect on these feelings and get to the root of them so you can address the stemming issue.

Maybe because you think you deserve it, maybe because you just need something, a reason to be sad because sadness is so addicting, you want a cause because simply being sad when nothing has happened seems pointless and pathetic

Sometimes the path to happiness is a very bumpy road. When bad things happen, we tend to get more support and attention from loved ones, have some leeway to relax and treat ourselves more than usual. It also gives us a thrill - yes, even the really bad things - and events naturally add to our life story, making us interesting and shaping us as people. Sometimes we can overindulge on that attention and can find it difficult to get back to the strict routine that is normal, daily life. On the other hand, you could have a problem with self-worth and self-confidence and professional therapy is the best way to go for that.

Wanting bad things to happen to you could be because you're in pain, you're hurt, sad or angry. You might want the people closest to you to notice, show they care and they're concerned, it could be a cry for help. It sounds like you could be experiencing depression. It's best to get professional help before something bad happens. Stay well!

A lot of reasons. Do you feel more alive when you're feeling down? Do you obtain awareness/inspiration from it? Do you like the stories you can tell others?

That can be a self destructive thought process, a form of self harming. You don't feel you have much self worth and that you deserve only bad things. I would recommend seeing someone for help.

I have the same issue that I'm currently trying to work out. I sometimes hope for bad things like a car accident or maybe I'll break a bone. Personally, I think for me it's about gaining attention and having people put my needs first. Regardless of whether this is true or not, I feel like I always put others before myself, and I never get the same reception. That in turn makes me dream up ways in which I would be a priority to people in my life: aka getting seriously sick or injured. I wish I knew a better way of dealing with it or how to help you, but I'm stuck with these thoughts too and it's a vicious cycle

I wanted bad things to happen to me because I felt bad for the people who had it worse than me, I just wanted to feel how the other people in the world were feeling I guess.

When want bad things to happen to you it becomes a connection to others. The loneliness in today's world of technology has created a void within humanity. Regular people in our society aren't noticed. Usually most unnoticed humans are comfortable not having the spotlight because they have a family/friends that are involved in their lives. We are pack animals and if isolated we desire attention. When you realize that it is not that you want bad things to happen, it is just that you require attention to create meaning in life. People come together in a crisis.

Maybe because you feel like you deserve it? Or maybe you feel like your life is boring and nothing interesting ever happens?

Interesting... There are some reasons for that. But first, I wonder what do you get from having bad things in your life? Second, when was the last time a good thing happened to you? How did you react? A lot of time we want bad things to happen to us since we are used to the bad things (probably we experienced bad things repeatedly as we grow up). So when bad things did not happen, we tend to seek it, since we don't know how to respond / live without them. It is the challenge, though, to learn to live and find meaning beside the bad things that happen.

Maybe you're too scared to do bad things to yourself, so you wish them upon you. I really hope things get better for you, whatever is going on.

Wanting bad things to happen to you is something I experience daily. It sometimes plagues my mind as I end up fantasizing about all the bad things that could happen at any given moment. This is something that I believe ties into a guilt complex or low self esteem. Having low self esteem can cause people to think they aren't worth anything, and having a guilt complex causes them to believe events are their fault when they aren't. This can in turn result in these types of thoughts.

When it comes to me, I felt like this a lot in my depressed state! I used to feel like this, like someone beating me up or firing at me continuously, and me doing nothing but just lying there and taking those beatings! It was that part of my life when I gave up, when I decided that I wouldn't fight my situations and give up!

I know what it's like to want bad things to happen to you. It can be confusing. You know it's not good to want bad things to happen, but you also crave it. For myself, I was craving the love and attention that came with those bad things. I wanted the pain I was feeling to be validated, and I wanted people to see it. I can't say if this is your experience, but if it is, you can get through this. You won't always feel that ache in your chest and crave bad things to happen to you. It's good that you're asking why, because then you can work to heal yourself. Wishing you all the best.

It depends on the person - sometimes it is a way of subconsciously punishing yourself because you think you deserve the bad things. Other times people are tired of being ignored and not cared about and they're just so tired they want the attention. And I'm not saying attention like it's a bad thing because it happens to me too - I'm tired of being alone and ignored. Sometimes attention isn't a bad thing because everybody needs to be cared for.

You seem to have low self-esteem. Start believing that you deserve the good things, and you may begin to want them.

There's no singular answer to this question. Of course, why you want bad things to happen to you, could depend on various circumstances. It is quite unclear in your question exactly how you feel. However, I could give you a few possible reasons which hopefully can give you an idea. Having suicidal ideation could play a major part in believing that you deserve something disastrous to happen to you. However, just wanting bad things to happen to you doesn't make you suicidal. There are multiple other symptoms that ultimately help identify a suicidal individual. It's better to be diagnosed first. Nevertheless, this strong desire could be an underlying symptom of suicidal tendencies. I can sense that you're sincerely suffering and a big part of your focus seems to wishing yourself harm. It is psychologically unhealthy to wish such occurrences for yourself. I would recommend seeing both a therapist and psychiatrist since therapist could help you examine why you are having thoughts of self-harm whereas a psychiatrist could prescribe you medicine to help decrease your unwanted thoughts. I am in no way a licensed therapist, but I've noticed that individuals with anxiety disorders often describe having these intrusive thoughts. You might want to get diagnosed so you can take necessary steps for proper treatment. People with schizophrenia often describe having similar thoughts. The voices in their head are quite intrusive and intent on self-harm. Lastly, I want to remind you that I'm not a trained therapist. These are just mere suggestions to assist you understand your situation better. I would suggest seeing a therapist so you can get professional help and generally, a therapist can refer you to a psychiatrist. Hopefully, this brief discussion helped you identify the issue clearly! ~Zahra💕

We except the pain we think we deserve. I know this is always the answer I use but it's true. The sooner you realize that you don't deserve it, the sooner it will get better

In most cases, wanting bad things to happen to you is a learned behavior. Perhaps you grew up in an environment where discord is normal and good things happening isn't 'normal' for you. It can be part of a chain of events that repeat from how you grew up. Please try to break that chain and not pass it on to your children. Seek help to understand that good things happening to you is a good motivator and you want to pass that along to future generations.

Because you don't want to befriend yourself. Talk to yourself, befriend yourself and everything will flow from there.

Well according to some psychologists, when someone wants bad things to happen to them it's because they feel some kind of guilt, and therefore by feeling pain the subconsciously feel relived, because "they've gotten what they deserve". The problem is that guilt is generally "irrational" and it's not actually caused because someone did something wrong unpurpose, so it isn't actually their fault.

Because you feel like you deserve to be hurt or bad things to happen to you. Even though you deserve to be happy. I felt this way for a long time before I realized I just wanted to feel something instead of the constant numbness.

It depends on you. For example the reason I did, is because I was subconsciously punishing myself. It takes some soul searching, but it will become clear if you desire it to be.

Most likely, you feel guilt and as if you deserve pain. This is not true, but is just a part of depression

Form my experience it is usually either because you feel you deserve it, possibly cause you don't like yourself or because your not getting something out of life. For example I knew someone who always thought about being kidnapped or wanted to be kidnapped. They didn't actually want to be kidnapped, they just wanted someone to care about them and think of them as someone important in their lives.

I blame myself for every bad thing that happens around me. To wish for bad things to happen is kind of a punishment for all the hassle I think I created. There's this feeling inside of me which represents my thoughts that good will never happen to me, I believe it never had and never will. When bad things happen it feels like it is real, my life is smooth and it's going as it should be, good things leads me to a fantasy world where I think every aspect of life and sunshine and butterflies. But of course nothing lasts for long, and life plays a joke on you throwing you to the ground from the highest cliff you reached, back to nothing. I want bad things to happen to save myself from the heartbreak that will be followed by a nightmare after a bright life.