How do I let go of my past?

We cannot change our past but what we can do is to try to work together to change the way we look at the past. In doing so we actually take the locus of control back to ourselves. No more external locus of control. We can look back at a particular event in the past and see it from our present time and get insights as to how we would want to believe about ourselves now with regards to that event. In doing so we come to understand that memories about past events can be looked at from a different perspective. When our perspectives change, the way we view a similar event in the future too changes. With us exercising greater control from within to experience and interpret and gain new insights towards that event. With positive insights and beliefs, we condition ourselves to a new positive belief about ourselves which then becomes a positive habit

Letting go of the past can be an incredibly difficult thing to do, and a long journey to take. It may feel like no matter what you do, memories and feelings from the past keep resurfacing, and this can seriously affect your mental health and prevent you from living life to the fullest. Here are a few ideas, but different things work for different people, and I really hope you can find something that works well for you. One idea may be to reflect on and validate your feelings - it may be, that deep down there are emotions and feelings you have bottled up, and by reflecting on your emotions you can learn to process them and embrace them as you grow, even though this will be a difficult journey. Linking on from that, it may also help for some people to try to compartmentalize their thoughts as 'from the past', and actively make an effort to leave the negative emotions and feelings as part of the past, and not something that affects you now. Another idea, is if you are feeling a lot of negative emotions as a result of your past, try some new things to release those emotions - for example playing the drums to release those feelings. Another option you may also be able to try is to identify the root of what's making it difficult to move on - perhaps by identifying this you can begin to make steps to reduce the effect is having on your life. Another thing you could consider is talking to someone about it - whether it's a trusted family member/ friend or a professional, being able to vent can be so beneficial, even if it's hard to open up sometimes. Also, gaining a new perspective, or advice from a professional may help you to see new things about the situation which can help in your journey to moving on, and give you the tools you need to process and let go of your past. I really hope some of these ideas are useful to you, and that you're able to let go of what happened in your past eventually. There will be dark days when you're reminded of what happened, but I hope overall you can begin to move forwards towards a freer future.

The most difficult thing about letting go could be the void that the past leaves behind. the best trick is to fill that gap with something you love and bring joy to your soul and those around you! you can go back to a hobby you used to love, and to activity, you stopped doing for a long time because you don't have time for it. This beside you can dedicate the time you earned when the past " left" in learning new skills or doing something you wished you could do one day. You also can dedicate it to the higher good of the community by volunteering or educating or being there for those who are going through the same circumstances. Choose what you love to do when you want, and just do it. Believe that you are your own best friend and best supporter. Support yourself and love it and make yourself happy as long as that won't hurt anyone else. Take good care of yourself do some changes try new things and enjoy the company of everyone because you have no commitment! You can be with anyone you want as you want. Just educate yourself about relationship red flags and consider them in a serious manner when they appear because you don't want to fall into that trap once again. Peace and love for you and best wishes!

In order to let go of your past you must first acknowledge what has happened rather than try to suppress those events to the fullest extent. This would include being able to point out emotions you feel whenever you associate that past, expressions, and thoughts as well. It would also help if you can talk to a professional whenever those emotions get to the best of you where you cannot function after trying to think about the past. It is also important to reconginze that the past is the past and that you are here to move forward from the past and to gain a new perspective.

For me, it has really helped to talk about it or journal. I think artwork or other forms of self expression about your past experiences can also help you let go of them.Sometimes, the reason we can't let go of our past is because we haven't been given the chance to process it and sometimes processing it means talking about it with others. I have found that opening up about my experiences to my loved ones (close family and friends) has been really helpful for me. Journaling can also be another way to do this without having to talk about it with others. I really hope this is helpful!

To let go of your past you need to understand first what the memories / reasons that are not allowing you to move on . You can either choose to accept them and it will literally heal with time. Or you could just do a sort of an activity to change your memory . Just write down/type the past i incident and then find the triggering points that triggers your past memory. After that you need to give twist to the story as you like it such that it makes sense any number of times . After changing story several times you would reach a question as to what was the original story. AND Thats your cue to set your new memory. In confused state , whatever you will write will be captured foreever in your memory.

It sounds like you are wanting to move forward and let the past go. But you are looking for direction. ultimately you are the decision maker, and the one best equip to know when it time. Is there anything particular that you are having issues letting go of? Do you mind telling me what. It is hard to let go of things sometimes that we can not explain or we just don’t have the why answer, but definitely being able to talk about it is a huge step in the process, don’t you think? Moving forward what are some future goals?

Something that I try to live by is the notion that the past is gone and there is nothing I can do to change it. What I can do, however, is learn from it and use it to make myself a better person in the present and future. After all, the only person you are ever truly competing with is the person you were yesterday. Remember that your past does not define you and it does not dictate the person that you are today or the person that you can become tomorrow. You have the power to be a completely different person than who you were in your past, and you are always one decision away from making that change. And most importantly, always remember that "there are far better things ahead than any we leave behind".

A strong person is not one who doesn’t fall but rather the one who falls and gets up and starts fighting again. After all, life is a battle alright? Focus on your strengths. Cause while you all are busy doubting yourself, there are so many intimidated by your potential. Focus on taking care of yourself. And also Believe you can do it. Because even when the world says no, hope whispers one more time, and it changes the entire world for you :) Rivers flow one way, and not the other way. Live like a river. Forget your past and what happened today and then focus on your next day and the future, because what you decide will be what that decides your future. Stop living the past a hundred times, rewind repeat, you still have other things to shine in. Don’t be a prisoner to it, it was a lesson not a life sentence. Be positive! And remember these tiny setbacks are because too much light blind you, you need a little darkness for a balance. And what you really want will never come easy, so fight, battle, do what you need to! You deserve to reach your goals. Believe that you do and you will. These setbacks aren’t permanent. This too shall pass. Be strong now, because things will get better. It might be stormy now, but it cant rain forever. Don’t stress yourself too much because no matter how bad the situation is, it will change. So focus on the lesson you learn from it because then you will grow. Cause if you focus on how it hurts you, you will continue to suffer. When you focus on problems, you have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you will have more opportunities. BE A WARRIOR NOT A WORRIER.

1. Acceptance/Forgiveness 2. A Full & Focussed “Present” 3. Practise! It’s natural - and sometimes enjoyable - to think about the past but if your thoughts about the past are uncontrollable or unhelpful, then it’s time for some new habits and intentions. 1. Acceptance and forgiveness: The first step to moving on from the past is accepting it, and finding ways to reconcile any difficult feelings about it. It might be time to ask yourself some questions about why you are stuck on a particular part of your past. What does this period of your life mean to you? What can you learn from it? What feels “unresolved”? Journal work or the help of a good friend or therapist could be useful. Forgiveness is a challenging concept for some and it can be difficult if traumatic things happened to you, or if you feel regret. No one can tell you how to heal or how to forgive. You have to find this for yourself. Know that the most important person to forgive is YOU for your previous actions, behaviours and decisions. Remember - whatever happened in the past, you did the best you could at the time with the knowledge and resources available to you. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and ask yourself what you need to move forward. 2: A full and focussed “present”. Often thoughts about the past creep up on us when there is a lack of substance or focus in our current life. Sometimes, even though the thoughts about the past are unwanted, we can “hide” in them. We can inadvertently feed these unhelpful thoughts - especially if there are other challenges in our present that we’d rather not face. The trick here is to plan some good activities and goals for yourself, to do right now or in the not too distance future, and to fill your life now with positivity, squeezing out the room for thoughts about a past you can’t change. 3. Practise! If you are having intrusive thoughts about the past, be prepared to put in some work to rewire your thinking patterns. After you’ve made the intention to think about or do other things, you may need to take some time to embed new patterns. Mindfulness practise or CBT can be helpful here - or therapy if you have unresolved past issues that trouble you. If there are particular times or places where these thoughts come up the most for you, think about ways you can break the cycle. For example, by listening to a podcast, going for a walk, or doing something gets you out of your head and back into your body and senses, such as some exercise or a shower. Lastly, please keep going and be kind to yourself if you do not stop thinking about the past immediately. Just by be aware more of your thinking patterns and taking small steps to change them, you can and will see a difference over time. I hope this makes sense to someone! Good luck!