Why do kids call their parents by their first name?
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I am not 100% sure as I am sure it is different for each person but I DO know that one of my close friends calls her parents by their first name at times because she was adopted and does not feel comfortable calling her "mom" sometimes. Especially when stress is heightened within the family at the time.
Maybe because they don't feel like they can call them mom or dad. Or they don't feel like that is their mom or dad because of the way they are treated.
It's something new which is happening, we should ask the real reason of that form Sociologist, but i think its happening because parents don't teach their children how they should call them! so when child is growing up, will call her mother/father with the same names that hear form other(or themselves!), so i think if we don't want that our child call us with firstNames, we should teach them how they should call us!
There can be many reasons why kids do this and it varies greatly across different cultures. Many cultures would find it very disrespectful for children to address their parents/elders by first name. Especially in some western cultures, parents allow their kids to address them by their first name after a certain age. It may be seen as some sort of minor rite of passage. Once a child is of teenage years, they may prefer to address their parent by name rather than mum/mummy etc. Providing the parents are comfortable with this arrangement as well. Additionally, it is fair to say that on some occasions the use of 1st name to a parent can also be a deliberate act of disrespect if parent and child are not comfortable with the form of address,
Anonymous
February 17th, 2016 7:27am
When the kids call their parents by their first name, it's mean the kids trying to be friend with their parents.
I think this depends on culture. Like in some countries if the child calls their parents by their names it is considered rude/ disrespectful.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 1:06pm
well it depends like if they call their mother by their first name because their father must be calling their mother by her first name so habits come from that.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2016 1:46am
Some kids do it because their parents didnt raise them to call them mom or dad or the kids dont care and rather call them by that. Sometimes youll be surprise the parent taught them to call them by their first name
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 9:13am
Usually kids call their parents by their first name because they are in close relationship. Years ago they called mr and mrs but it's something normal to call your mom/dad by the first name.
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 9:02am
Most don't, but if they do it might be for something related to respect or preference, it all depends on the family and how they were raised really
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 11:47am
I believe that it is their personal choice and until they're not your kids you shouldn't be actually worried about it if they're alright with it.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 5:06pm
It can depend, some parents allow their kids to call them by their first name, and sometimes it's the kid disrespecting their parents.
When a child first utters a parent's name, in lieu of "mom" or "dad," he/she is taking the first unchartered steps toward independence.
Kids tend to call their parents by their first names when feeling like they aren't close enough anymore to call them parental nicknames, or when they feel like they are getting to old to do so. It could be from a comfort stance or from a perspective age stance.
I sometimes call my parents by their first name because they are more responsive to that then just 'mom' or 'dad'. Especially if I need to get their attention immediately.
I only know of one person that calls his parents by their first names, and that is because he gets along with them very well and he respects them. However, I can see how for many parents it may be seen as a sign of disrespect and rebellion, a way to undermine their authority.
cause kids cant understand the difference between a big guy or a kid so they jut call their first name
It could be because it's easier for them. Sometimes it's to insult them. Maybe it's for clarification in a situation with multiple parents of same gender.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 5:21am
I think kids that call their parents by their first name probably think of them more as friends or equals than parents.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 5:43pm
Cause some kids don't have enough respect for their parents and they parents don't care what they kids call them so that's why the kids call their parents by their first name.
i actually dont know, i think it is because they want the parent to feel like a friend and not like a figure
Anonymous - Expert in Family Stress
February 9th, 2016 10:14pm
This may be due to cultural differences or differences between families. Some families feel comfortable with children calling their parents by their first name. Other times children want to lay down a barrier to let the parent know where they stand in the relationship (usually occurs with step parents) or some may do this as a sign of disrespect.
When they are feeling fed up or confused or struggling with peer pressure calling patent by name is made to distance themselves from you
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 9:48pm
Kids see people call them by their first name, so they start doing it. Or maybe just to show anger.
is can be a parenting choice or some kids do it out of disrespect to there parents as if to tell there parents that they don't see them as parental figures it really depends on the person
I believe that it's out of disrespect sometimes or they just don't realize it's disrespectful to call their parents by their first name.
Sometimes it's mainly because, they did not grow up with their parents, they tend to feel uncomfortable
Some do it because it feels better, like they don't feel comfortable with mom or dad. While some say it just to get on their nerves. It all depends on the child
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