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Anonymous
November 13th, 2018 2:59pm
Talk to your mom or grandparents about it... your father may be suffering in some way and needs help that he is not getting. I never had this problem as a child, but 3 years ago I was the angry dad... I wish my kids understood the stresses that I was under and how I was suffering, but I learned that this is not their role or responsibility. Ultimately, I needed help... I needed support as I stopped drinking, I needed hope as I was facing the loss of my job, and I needed someone to reaffirm me that I am a good man despite my past mistakes... I needed to see that joy was possible and around me as I trained myself to find it again... I needed prayers and hope...
Anonymous
July 8th, 2019 3:22am
Family problems are a hard topic and most of the time they have a complex backstory, but on any type of relationship I think the most important thing is communication, meaby on this situation talking with your father to know what's going on could be a good thing, it is always good to try and understand what people are going through in order to find a solution as meaby there is something that makes him feel that way, so getting back to my point, I think communication is everything, and by talking, listening to him for a few minutes to know what's going could be the starting point to change that.
Try to understand that he may be under a lot of pressure, tell him how you really feel and ask him if anything is bothering him. Trust me a little bit of communication can go a long way.
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 2:57pm
Hey. I'm glad I can help you with this. I know it is difficult to deal with your parents sometimes. But its never impossible. May be you can try to find the reason behind his behaviour. And knowing his reason can give you some peace. Sometimes we just have to shift our focus from ourselves to others and we get our answers. I hope this may help you.
Truth is how your father acts isn't your fault and usually can't be something you can resolve. You may try to address your feelings. Adults tend to have a very stressful life and may forget that their kids can support them. Let him know you are there in case he needs anything!
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2016 1:27pm
go and give him a big hug and tell him you love him. and he is the best father in the world ........
you can tell him that you dont like him this way and it can create a long distance between u and him or if u dont have the ability ask a therapist
You should try to find out the reason behind his anger. There must be something which is bothering him, so you should try to find the reason.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 12:19am
First, figure out what things your father gets mad at most of the time. Then, try to steer clear of those pathways. Sometimes, you may find yourself walking towards those roads, but most of the time, be aware of what you say and do around him for some time. If you want to be more connected with your father, try asking him directly.
You could address the problem to another adult that you know. Your friend's parents, your mother, your older brother that has already moved out and started his own life, your school counselor, your actual counselor, your therapist, your psyciatrist, your doctor, your grandparents, your principal, your teacher that you trust, and if it gets really extreme you can call 911. It all depends on how he acts when he becomes angry. Letting an adult know might either have you taken away to a better place or have him go into some program or something like that, that will teach him skills to handle his anger and look at the world differently.
Talk to your motherAnd ask her to talk to your dad... So that Your Dad.. Will Realize that Your Already worried about him
There are two possibilities: either you are giving him the reason to be angry all the time or he is unfair to you and you do not deserve being treated like this. If you do, then change your behavior if not then tell him to change his. Talk to him. Like a son/daughter and father would do it.
This may not be the best thing to do, but stay calm no matter what. Kind words affect fragile people. It takes time to do so, but it's worth it when the person is precious to you. So, better take it easy than making it worse by acting the same way your angry dad does.
Your father's anger is no reflection on you. If he seems to be more irate than usual, I would go and find a safe place to hang out until he calms down.
If he ever gets too angry and you feel he may come to try and hurt you, I would call 911 immediately.
You should try see why's he is angry if it's for no reason try talk to him and ask why is he angry all the time. If that does not work and he is violent contact your local council service
Life can be Stressful and sometime we forget how stressful and hard it is for our parents. Try to understand what there going though and support them to your best ability. But don't forget to take care of yourself first!
Advice from me wont change anything, but my father is mad a lot too. All I try to do is stay on his good side and if he starts to yell or gat angrier, I just put some space between us so he can cool down. Whatever you think would help.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2016 6:42pm
Try to talk to him! Tell him you are worried that he is angry all the time and he might be able to calm down.
Well, YOU are the child in the family. I know at times it seems like you need to do something about some situations but you need to remember that issues your parents are having should not be your responsibility. This goes for anyone. In my case. My dads addiction to alcohol is not my problem to deal with and if I do try to do something about it, it does nothing but bring me down.
Have you considered talking to him about it? That is one solution. Also, you could talk to a trusted famly member about how you feel towards his anger. What's causing his anger? Could you help fix it? Hope this helps. :) You aren't alone.
Well, I cannot really give advice, but I relate to your situation. If you feel comfortable doing so, please try and talk to him at a time when he seems passive enough to approach. If you prefer going indirectly, I'd suggest leaving a note about how you feel for him to read and reflect upon. If things get worse, refer to the 7 Cups resource guide.
It really depends on whether your father is angry at your or at someone/something else. Is your father an alcoholic? If so, make him go to rehab so he can stop drinking so much. If he is not an alcoholic, he's just always angry, you should avoid contact with him. Give him space, stay in your room. However, if he is violent to you, or maybe to your siblings, mother... [etc] report him to the police for disciplinary actions and help on his anger. Violence can lead to many more problems and to someone getting seriously injured.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 1:42am
Try talking to him, maybe its some stress his bottling up. I have the same situation as you have. Its easy said than done.. im still making progress into getting closer with him.
It’s not easy living with angry people. Every other day, my family members can be heard shouting at or arguing with one another in our living room. My boyfriend, who is currently staying with me, got a taste of the angry environment I have been immersed in when my mom and brother erupted in anger at me over the protein-powder issue. I was in my room with him then when it unfolded; my mom violently knocked on my bedroom door and demanded that I get out right away to clarify on the issue while my brother shouted at me irately upon seeing me, his face filled with absolute rage. While I did not ask my boyfriend how he felt, he was definitely taken aback by how volatile and abrasive my family can be.
Honestly move out if your old enough if they are putting you down. If not set clear boundaries and sometime avoid them to prevent conflicts. get some family therapy to learn how to communicate in a better way
It is important to think of a situation from the other person's point of view. Try to look at the world through their shoes. Compare their behavior to their character. What do they value? What are you failing to do? What makes them angry? If they seem to always be angry, talk to them. Communication is key to solving problems, and it works magic!
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 4:35am
I'm so sorry to hear this :( I suggest talking to your father and telling him how you feel. if he knows you feel this way he will might try and change his behaviour. Hope everything gets better! :) message me anytime!
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 8:38am
Try to stay calm and figure out what helps to calm him down. It's a really unfortunate situation but perhaps you can try discussing the issue with him when he's not upset?
I think you are asking the wrong question here. I think you need some distance and healing before you can safely interact with this man, even if he means well.
Others will pop in to recommend books and other resources. I'm simply alerting you to the fact that there are red flags in your question that you are discounting. Your poor dad. He's been this way a long time, and unless he has expressed a desire to change, he'll likely always be as he is.
You need to take care of yourself and get some healing and perspective before you can safely interact with your father (repeated for emphasis. see? I'm a broken record on issues like this!)
Reframe your thinking on this first, then dealing with him will become much much easier.
try to figure out what are the things that makes him angry , and avoid doing them or making them happen , when your father see that all the things that makes him angry disappear he will be ok !
you just have to figure it out if it was a thought or an idea or an action that makes him so mad like that , after you figure it out , deal with the problem and it will make him calmer!
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