My boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of me. What should I do?

It is hard to know how to respond when we feel our loved ones are embarrassed of us. It can often feel like they are rejecting some part of who we are. Sometimes, the best course of action in these cases is to communicate our concerns with them. Ask them questions like, "Are you embarrassed of me?" and if they confirm that they are, perhaps ask "Why are you embarrassed of me?" Understanding (rather than assuming) their feelings will help you gain clarity on the issue. If they truly are embarrassed of you, and it's because of something you cannot or are not willing to change, perhaps this person is not the optimal partner for you. If it is something you want to change, consider your motives for doing so. Are you changing for yourself or for this person? Would you change this thing about you if they weren't in the picture? It's important to answer these questions so that you do not change yourself "for them" and end up resenting them because of it. If you truly want to change for yourself, then by all means, proceed with the change. However, sometimes it's best to be with people who accept us for who we are, rather than who they wish we were. Giving ourselves compassionate and accepting relationships and environments in which to grow can help us become more self-actualized, happy, and well-adjusted individuals.

2 years ago I was in a position similar to your boyfriend/girlfriend, and I was embarrassed of my family, and even of myself. It's a long winded process and whether you resolve this or not will likely determine the fate of your relationship. He/she may slowly grow out of their own embarrassment (like I did) or perhaps the relationship would end before they get over their embarrassment. Here are some things I would suggest you do : 1. Don't give up on the relationship, despite advice you get from others to do so. The moment you give up, the hope for the relationship to last is over it's time to really end it and move on. But when you're working on it, give it your shot, it may very well work out. 2. Realise that it has nothing to do with you. The sentence "My partner is embarrassed of me" involves 3 things. The embarrassment, your partner and you, in that particular order of their actual importance to this scenario. It's the embarrassment that's the issue, not him, and not *you*. It's nothing personal, people get hooked on to certain viewpoints that they really get stuck with, and they don't want to leave those viewpoints unless it causes them pain. I can't emphasize this enough : You are okay. Your partner is likely okay (only identified with whatever is making him/her embarrassed of you). 3. See if they want to work with their embarrassment. If they do, then help them with it, but this will require extreme patience from your side if you choose to help them (however it may be. I know this is vague) 4. Do something outside of your situation, so that the situation isn't running in your mind like a tape recorder and chip away at your self esteem. Meditation, exercising, yoga, going for a walk etc. are great for self care. 5. Repeat the above 4 to yourself, whenever you find yourself getting forgetting and going into some old patterns. It takes a tremendous amount of repetition for these to become habit.

My husband has stated that he is embarrassed with and ashamed of me. It was deeply painful to hear that. I decided to look inwards at the circumstances. I know that I am not embarrassing or shameful. Most likely, he was projecting his own feelings about himself or his behavior onto me. I love the quote "Other people's opinion of me is none of my business". It encompasses unconditional self love. To accept and love myself as I am and still be open to observing anythiing about myself I might want to change. This gives me the self confidence to not be concerned with anyone's thoughts about me.

First of all, in any relationship, you should talk to them. Communication is key in any relationship. Have a mature conversation about your situation with them and if they don't listen, it's not worth to be in a relationship like that. A relationship is not only to make your partner happy, but it has to be enjoyable for you too. And if you can't talk to your partner, talk to someone you trust about your relationship like a parent, guardian, close friend, or therapist to help get a second opinion on evaluating the relationship and learning that you have a voice.

Often we align ourselves and who we are with our partner. If they feel embarrassed, it’s because who you are doesn’t align with who they are. Sometimes this is a good opportunity to show that compatibility may not be there. How you both choose to move in your relationship it up to you, but unless there is respect and appreciation for one another as individuals, this is not a healthy relationship to continue. I was in a relationship with someone who embarrassed me, though I had tried breaking up because I made it known I did not feel we were compatible. I felt guilty and stayed but I still felt embarrassed about things he did and how he behaved. It wasn’t okay for me to stay and make him feel unsure of himself or who he was. If someone truly loves another, they will accept them.

I think there are a few things to break down in this, first of all is it something that your partner has said directly to you, or is it a gut feeling that you have through there actions? If its something they have told you, I think it would be worth talking with them and understanding what has made them say that, because the last thing you want to do is change your personality or the way you are for someone. You being you shouldn't be embarrassing to someone who loves you for who you are. I think careful consideration should be taken about how serious your partner is about if they are embarrassed of you and how that could affect you in the future. If its a gut feeling you have, again, speak with your partner, but maybe question their behavior or ask them how they feel about the matter, Its important to start a conversation with them. Especially as it could be nothing at all. You shouldn't have to worry or be worried about other people finding you embarrassing. Maybe you are jut more fun and interesting than they are. You do you.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of you then they're not for you, right? What can you do to fix this issue? The issue is probably with them or they are sensing some kind of insecurity from you. People tend to target others when they sense you're vulnerable or insecure. It isn't always the case, but sometimes it can be. Relatabley, You should find a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but that's your own choice since I'm not able to give advice. When you learn to love yourself and you understand and KNOW who you are, you will be able to accept certain things easier. It's a part of life and we're all on a growth path in life to learn more about ourselves and to love ourselves. Then what other people think won't bother you as much. But say, you were in public and other people witnessed something that Is unordinary, then I would understand why this would concern you. Best of luck to you!

if your s/o is embarrassed of you, then they simply dont deserve you! love is without judgement. you accept them for who they are and love every part of them. i say find someone who lifts you up, not brings you down. it can be difficult to know for sure how to handle this with the s/o. i would explain to them how that made you feel. nobody deserves to feel like they're embarrassing. especially if you're being yourself. never change for any one. we are all unique in our own ways and deserving of love. i hope anyone reading this knows they're special.

maybe talk to them.. if they tell you genuinely you can try to be the way they want or if they don't have a reason nd can't love you enough .. dear you need to understand. its your life make it count. no one should be embarrassed of having you around if they love you. just try to be yourself no-one should ever feel like changing if front of their loved ones. you are strong and you have the right to be happy. firstly talk to them tell them how you feel and then understand their perspective as well .

Discuss what it is they are embarrassed about. If its an easy fix and you are ok with changing it do so. If not, try to be understanding of her or his feelings. Explain why this is not something you are willing to change. See if there is a medium compromise. Or discuss what else can be done to address the issue. If the person is wanting you to change things that are unreasonable or are trying to make you someone you aren't...a change in partner may be the only answer. It is not good to change your entire self if you don't like the changes. That will only lead to resentment.

Talk. I cannot stress this enough. Talk to them. talk and talk until you can't talk anymore. Ask them if you guys could take some time to get down to the bottom of the situation. Find out what's causing this embarrassment. Get down to the bottom of the situation. Figuring out the why's are so important. Everything else comes easy after that. Communication is key in matters such as these. Hear your partner out, and then let them hear you out! After you understand where this embarrassment is coming from; dealing with it is so much easier.

First, assess why you think that. Did they say they were embarrassed by you? Did they give a funny expression? Did you hear it through gossip? If this was done one on one or in a group setting in an obvious way, ask them why they feel that way. Then, when they explain, say how that made you feel. If this is a case of reading non-verbal cues, bring it up in a casual conversation "the other day when we were watching TV you made me feel as though I embarrassed you when you said or did X". This should lead to an honest appraisal of the situation. Again, honest communication about touchy feelings can feel uncomfortable. Building trust through honest feedback is so important in any relationship. Lead with love and compassion, be honest, be authentic, be you!

I would sit them down just the two of you and explain how it makes you feel that they are embarrassed or you and calmly explain that everything about you is just part of who you are and that you can not change that and just explain your feelings whatever they may be, hurt, angry anything. A true relationship needs to have both partners able to express any emotion and be able to feel safe. Communication is very important and you should feel safe expressing your feelings in the relationship because without trust and communication no relationship will last.

Talk to them. Let them express what they're feeling. Make sure they understand that you feel unwanted, or like you're never enough. They shouldn't be embarrassed of you. Its wrong to feel such a way towards a partner. You should always feel accepted by them. I understand that you might feel let down, or like they let you down, and I'm sorry if you do. It's hard to go through relationships like this. If it develops into anything more, such as being embarrassed to be with you, or never taking you out in public the relationship can become toxic.

Can you explain the reason for the embarrassment? Also, if not then you must communicate what you feel because that might help. In any relationship only when you trust the other person and share what you feel openly can you build a strong bond and then only you both will stay happy for longer period of time. Otherwise you might feel frustrated and cramped up inside you whenever you might come in close proximity with that person. Also, then you might overthink even the smallest of things as you both find it difficult to communicate what you actually feel. I hope this helped you in anyway. Thank you for this question.

That sounds rather difficult. If you have a partner who you feel is embarrassed of you, have you talked to them about it? Have they told you and made you aware that they are? If they haven't, perhaps try talking to them and tell them what you are feeling. And have open dialog and conversation with one another. If they have actually already came out to you and told you verbally that they feel this way about you, you might want to take some time and evaluate if this is the type of relationship that you want to be in. And ask yourself if this is the type of person that you want in your life. Good luck to you!

Talk to them, there's nothing better than communication. Let him/her explain him/herself. Maybe it is not what you think or he/she has a reason, for example, family issues. In a relationship if there's something that you don't feel ok about, you should speak up your emotions. Also you can maybe talk to a friend about it and see what they think. Once you know what is going on, you'll be able to decide what to do. Sometimes relationships get really difficult to handle but talking to each other about how you feel really helps solve problems and reach out a solution between you two. I hope I've helped, you can write to me any time you want, good luck sweetheart

Them being embarrassed about you is definitely not a good sign of the relationship. It speaks to a level of "un-acceptance" they have towards you. You can speak to them first and try to get a sense of why they feel that way towards you. Again, them being embarrassed of you in the first place is already a bad sign and the reason might not matter. But maybe in some cases, the reason is resolvable. In other cases, you will have to make a decision. If they are unhappy with you and you cannot tolerate them being embarrassed of you, then it may be time to end the relationship.

Confront them about it. Tell them how you felt . if they apologise and accept their mistake then good otherwise move on and they might not the one for you. if they think you are overreacting then leaving is best options . Connecting with your partner and accepting them as they are and help them to overcome their insecurities should be main priority. Communicate with your partner and tell about insecurities and listen about their as well . If they embarrasses you accidently then talk things out but if you thing it's intentionally try to talk them otherwise you know what's best for you.

That must be really hurtful, I am sorry you have to feel this way. I cannot tell you what to do, only you have the power and the say so to decide what is best for you and your life. However, I want to ask you something. Why are they embarrassed of you? And what, if anything makes them feel that they are in the position to feel like you are beneath them or an embarrassment to them? Look deep within yourself and there you will find your solution. Do you feel valued in this relationship? Do you like the way it feels to be with this person? I truly hope that you can find the courage to place enough value on yourself and respect, that you can find the best solution. Good luck, you deserve to be happy and loved and whoever you are with should make you feel that way!

It can be extremely hurtful when somebody we care about expresses embarrassment of something we have done or said. You deserve to have people in your life who lift you up and encourage you! It's important to stay true to who we really are and what makes us happy, and the people in your life should align with that rather than tear us down. You should consider if he is embarrassed of you in public, or in private, or both- why does he feel comfortable telling you how you should act? Open communication is important, reach out gain some clarity on why he's feeling this way. Ultimately, it's important to stay true to you! :) Best of luck.

First, can this question include "significant others" more generally, including boyfriends and girlfriends too? I'd like to be inclusive with our language for our nonbinary peoples. To answer the question, if significant other is embarrassed, spend time reflecting on why. It's possible you're violating a boundary or might need to change a behavior. Be open to having a conversation together about it to understand what's going on better. Communication is important here. It's also possible significant other has unrealistic expectations or isn't respecting you. If that's the case, also be prepared to have a conversation together. Be willing to be honest and also know your own worth. Key is to take the embarrassment as a growing experience to understand and work on together if possible.

Then let them be embarrassed. Our lives are too short to be bothered by the evil around us. Nobody is perfect, so who do they think they are to feel they can judge, let alone be "embarrassed" of someone else? Do not allow it to get the best of you. Always remember that regardless of what some may say, you're an amazing person! no matter what someone else might think. Everyone deserves to be happy, so keep doing you and if they cant seem to understand that, then leave them. It's not fair to you to be bothered by their feelings about you. It's just like food, if you don't like it, don't eat it.

Maybe he/she is not the right one for you. To be with someone, is to accept them for who they are. If someone is embarrassed of you, most likely they are not accepting of you. It might also mean they want to change you. If you are happy with yourself, you should not change for anyone but yourself. I truly believe that if someone is changing you, they are not into you but is trying to change you to their liking at your expense, happiness and your individuality. be you! Reassess why you or they are in the relationship.

Ask your boyfriend or girlfriend what exactly they are embarrassed about. It is important to make your partner feel heard. Talk through the issue. See if there is something that can be done from both sides. Is the issue on hand something you can change? Is the issue something that would bother someone else? Is there a way to change the outlook on the issue? Is there a way for both of you to work on the issue together? Ask your partner how you can improve the situation. Make each other feel comfortable; it is important that you also feel wanted.

I would highly suggest to be transparent on how you feel towards one another. Ask pently questions and have things settled and clear with one another! It is important to keep things as calm and settling, it isnt good to argue with both parties being angry with each other. The future is bound to come up at some point. If they're not willing to plan it with you, it may be because they don't really see you as part of it. "Someone who doesn’t take you into consideration for the long-term wants to take each day as it comes rather than focus on a future with you, which is signaled by not following through on plans that are made"

You could try and find out why their embarrassed of you and figure out how that affects your relationship. And what emotions this makes you feel, then make a decision on what you want to do. Decide if being in this relationship is affecting your mental or physical health poorly if so, decide if your boyfriend is worth it. You can also try working this problem out with your significant other, see their side of the story and their reasoning, many times this can change your perspective as well. See if their reasoning is valid and then what you want to do based if his perspective.

I could see how this could make someone question their self worth if their partner is embarrassed of them. I would work towards finding self love instead. By teaching yourself that you are the most important person in your life and that you come first, you could over come the negative feeling of those close to you. Also if you find yourself unhappy in a relationship then it is time to let go and work towards loving yourself and taking care of yourself. Becoming more in touch with our emotions and dealing with them on our own is always good.

You may wish to first speak to your partner to understand if that is what they really thinks. If your partner does feel this way, have an open communication to see if it can be resolve it. An open communication will help you better understand your partner's needs and wants. At the same time, it can give your partner insights to how you feel as well. It's a win-win situation. Do remember to go in with an open mind. Bear in mind that we are working to resolve an issue and not cause one. It may be hard but its worth the shot.

Recognize your feelings and try to figure out why. Then try to stop the embarrassment. After that, find a suitable moment to talk about this, ask for the reasons, try to understand and discuss how it happened. It will help you to understand more about both of you. Find out what is acceptable and what if not for each of you. Review your beliefs. Discover more about both of you. See if there is any changes. Is that okay with you? How does your boyfriend or girlfriend feel? Any adjustments needed? Do you need to reconsider the relationship? Try to reach a consent.