I'm cheating on my husband or wife. Am I a bad person?
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Maybe not a bad person but I would make up my mind if I wanted to be married or not. Love doesn't cheat or lie.
If you have a trusting spouse back home, you're certainly not a very reliable partner. Nor very bright.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 1:52pm
You're not necessarily a bad person, but what you're doing is not giving consideration to how they might feel. Even good people can do bad things.
Anonymous
November 14th, 2015 4:33pm
Cheating does not make you a bad person. Cheating make you a cheater. Think about it. You married your husband and/or wife with the intent to be with your spouse for the rest of your life. Your vows says it all. Running away from your problems by cheating won't benefit you or your spouse in any way. Sitting down with your spouse and have a heart to heart conversation on what is bothering you about and in your relationship might solve many problems. Always remember that before you cheat on your partner try to come to a solution for a better relationship. Communication is key. If that fails maybe you can go to the next step.
No you are not a bad person, just a bad mistake.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You're cheating? You should confess to him/her. You and your husband/wife should seek professional marriage counseling.
Sorta, but not really. Don't continue this.........................................................
It's betraying the trust of your spouse to be cheating on them. Imagine how they would feel if they were to find out that you are cheating. Always put yourself in their shoes, what if they were cheating with someone on you.
Not a good person, but not a bad one. If you are cheatting on someone, why are you still with that person? If you are cheatting is because you are bored, tired or whatever of that person.
Cheating doesn't mean you are a bad person. I am not saying that it is a good thing to do though. It's fair to say that something isn't right with the current relationship so instead of cheating, openly talk to your partner and try to resolve any issues that may be present. If that cannot be done it may be best to end the relationship amicably.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 2:38pm
Whether you're a bad person or not is irrelevant. You are, even if your partner isn't aware of your infidelity, hurting your relationship, yourself, and your partner. Being in this situation isn't easy, and it doesn't actually matter if you're to be blamed or not. This is an unstable situation which will most likely end badly, the only thing to do is to put it to an end, one way or another. Think it through, think about what you really want, why you're looking elsewhere. This is how you control the damage, to yourself, and to others.
I don't personally believe that something that someone does defines them as a person. So, something that you do maybe bad, but it does not mean that you are a bad person.
In my opinion, cheating is a sign that something is missing in the relationship. It is a sign something is amiss. It could also signify something is missing that has nothing to do with a spouse. It is a solution that usually does not solve the whatever is missing and oftentimes results in unwanted consequences. It is not a definition of a bad person, although it is a signal of being confused about what's needed to bring contentment or maintaing the health of the marriage.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2015 5:53am
Cheating on your spouse does not automatically bad you a bad person, but there is a lot to consider and you should take the responsibility if you're hurting other people (spourse, children, family, friends, etc.)
Depende. Crees que lo eres? . lo que crees creas. Lo que importa es tu realidad subjetiva, lo que tu interpretes y como te aceptes tú.
What we do is not who we are; it is an action that is part of our path, a decision that makes sense at the time for whatever reason. Our frame of mind influences how we act or react, so sometimes looking at the frame of mind that influenced a decision we regret for example can help in adjusting the behavior if that is what we want to do. So every experience is useful, "good" or "bad". It's what we do with what we learn from that experience that determines our future and how we choose to influence it and therefore how we feel about ourselves. I believe there is no good or bad, just useful information that gives us the power to choose differently or not next time.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2015 11:22am
You're not a bad person but cheating is clearly not a good thing. Why did you do that? If you still have a feeling for your wife/husband, you wouldn't do that
Anonymous
November 18th, 2015 10:44pm
No one can pass judgment, but marriage is based on trust. Maybe you should reevaluate your marriage.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2015 3:39pm
The anwser to this question cant be anwserd by any one else this is on your personl belifes and if you belie it is immoral
Yes,literally but practically no until your husband finds out. It will also depend on the situation you are in.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 7:12pm
No, its just not a good thing to do, what if your significant other was cheeting on you, how would you feel?
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2015 11:52am
No, you are not a bad person. You just need to think about what the husband/wife is feeling. It's important to like at both sides of the issue.
Your individual actions do not define who you are. Cheating is a very serious thing that comes with severe negative consequences. Though it may not impact you, it can strong impact your husband's/wife's psychological self, giving them very bad trust issues.
While the act of cheating is bad that does not mean you are bad.
It may help you to talk with your wife about this because most likely she will find out and communication will resolve any issues you may have in your marriage.
As long as the communication is done in a nonjudgmental, nonconfrontational and respectful manner, things should be able to improve so long as both of you are willing to own up to any mistakes you have made and take ownership of what needs to occur to help improve your marriage.
Too many people believe that they need to drop their marriage because they (or their partner) has cheated but in reality things can be improved with the right help.
Hope all improves for you!!
Anonymous
November 26th, 2015 7:18am
No but if truly unhappy, it's time to think about what you want. To stay and work on things with your husband or wife? Or to leave the marriage and be single to freely be with other people
Anonymous
November 27th, 2015 5:00am
Hello; I just want to make sure I understand; you are cheating on your husband or wife and you are wondering if this makes you a bad person?
No you aren't a bad person. How has your relationship with your significant other been up until this point?
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 5:56pm
I don't think you're a bad person. But you will hurt them if they ever find out. And before you get badly hurt from it i think you should figure out what you want to do, and who you want to be with before things get really bad.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 6:46pm
It doesnt make you a bad person. It just means there are some serious issues in your relationship that need to be worked on.
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