I hate my husband or wife. Why?

There is a fine line between love and hate. What does hate mean to you? It may be helpful for you to analyze what you mean by the word "hate." Perhaps making a pros and cons list may help you figure out what is bothering you about your husband or wife. Marriage is not always smooth sailing and you cannot be head over heels for that person all of the time. It is normal to be annoyed, frustrated, sad, or even happy with that person. All of your feelings are valid and normal. It is very normal to hate your husband or wifes guts but remember why you decided to marry them in the first place.

It probably because he/her had hurt you in some ways? It doesn't have to be done consciously or purposely. Well, probably we didn't really realize that we are/were hurt at the moment. That happened to me. I didn't realize when my husband said some things (or the way he talked) to me, but after a few moments later, I just realized that what he said/did hurt my feelings. Talking about how I feel about his actions/behaviors often help me to understand how I really feel about certain things. It doesn't have to be talking to him/her (if you aren't ready), talking to anyone I can trust does help. Hope this helps. Stay safe and healthy.

You might not like them because you've spend so much time around them, it could make you anxious. So take a break and if you still don't like them divorce honey. It will not be good for anyone in the future, they might hate you too. You could do therapy, but if you really really hate them is It going to work? Do you have kids too? Don't think about the kids, kids often prefer separate parent if the parents keep on fighting. A lot of people have said that, a house where the parents keep fighting is worse that two houses.

You may be hiding some trauma to your husband/wife from the far or near future. Perhaps you do not understand your "languages of love", which makes you feel misunderstood. I think it is worthwhile to talk calmly and if this does not work, go to therapy together. This should help, but you never know. Perhaps you will find out that the problem lies with you, maybe some old scars from the future. Perhaps you will find out that the problem lies with you, maybe some old scars from the future. Conversation and closeness will certainly help in this case.

Often times when there’s tension in the relationship, it mostly has to do with change in the relationship. Have you guys been arguing a lot recently? Is there tension constantly? Are you getting annoyed with them frequently over small things? This usually means you guys spend a lot of time together. You don’t get many breaks from one another and you begin to pin point the things you hate the most about them. Hate and annoyance are two completely different things though. Maybe you’re just annoyed by the tactics you see every day. Talk to them about it, and try to build from that situation.

Sometime we hit a rough patch in our marriages or relationships. I have found that in the past when I have animosity towards someone I care about it is because I dislike the situation we are in, not necessary the person. When I clarify what it is that I am really struggling with, I am also able to find possible solutions. If I do find that I am in a relationship that isn't working for me after examining my feelings, then I have to make some difficult choices. Sometimes a relationship has run its course. Other times, a relationship is worth doing the work to get it back to a good place. These are all important questions you need to ask yourself.

It isn't often really easy. When you hate someone, you have got really strong feelings. There had happened a lot.... ask not why you hate him, ask what you can to that things become better. Remember how you met him first time, your first hug with him, your first kiss, do you remember? He is someone very special in your life. Things are often not easy, sometimes it needs more space, it is better to stop thinkings who goes around and goes around and sometimes it helps to look at things from a completly different perspective or to telling the situation friends, who understanding you.

Everything can be broken down into two emotions - fear and love. Ask yourself - why did I close my heart and build a wall around it so I can´t even feel love for my spouse anymore? What is my fear when I show love and appreciation to my spouse? And if I really don´t have deep feelings for my partner anymore - why don´t I appreciate and love myself enough to walk out of this situation? Love is what we truly are - don´t let fear keep you away from experiencing the most amazing thing in the world. Trust.

Sorry to hear that. Can you give me more information as to why it is that you might feel hatred towards your husband or wife? What exactly is it that makes you hate your husband or wife? Do you often feel like this, if so, is it on a daily basis? Do you feel as though your life is in danger or are you being physically or emotionally abused? Would you like to set up a weekly meeting to talk about your feelings towards your husband or wife? Is there anything else that comes to mind that has an affect on your feelings towards your husband or wife?

Unfortunately, it is pretty much guaranteed that we will feel like we hate our husbands at some points in our marriage. It’s only natural because you are spending so much time with someone. Living with someone can be really tough anyway, then if you add on the pressure of being married to them, you can feel restricted and annoyed. This is understandably so. However, a lot of the time, the hate that you think you are experiencing is actually another emotion masking itself. If you really hated your husband, you wouldn’t be here reading this, you would have left him behind already and moved on. I am not trying to belittle the way you feel, but it can be something else other than hate, even if you might think it feels the same. Many emotions make us feel similar to hate, but they are not hate.

Hmm, we like people if they show traits and behaviours similar to us and on the contrary, we dislike people who exhibit actions opposite to ours. It could also mean that you expected few actions and did not receive them from your partner when you wanted them the most. Once we know what were we expecting from our spouse we can then think of it as was rational or not? If it was rational, then the most prudent idea is to convey it politely so it does not induce rage and if it was not a display of prudence from our end, we need to change our belief.

connections are never simple and indeed the most grounded relational unions can drop prey to misery. those butterflies in your stomach can turn into a never-ending pit of uneasiness, sullying each interaction you have got together with your husband/wife. some time recently you know it, you’re persuaded that this burning feeling you've got towards your husband/wife is now not adore but despise. most of the time, they don’t continuously get it how something so unadulterated can turn into something so derisive. but learning to abhor your husband/wife, much like falling in cherish, is established on past intelligent, deliberateness or otherwise. 1) there's nothing new in your lives anymore. 2) the relationship doesn't feel equal. 3) you've forgotten the meaning of compromise. 4) respect doesn't go both ways. 5) he/she stopped taking care of himself/herself. 6) you're a narcissist who prioritizes him/herself over everything else. 7) you have big differences you've never addressed. 8) you've been stressed over everything for way too long. 9) you have a dysfunctional idea of what a marriage should be. 10) he/she hurt you in a big way you just cannot forgive. 11) he/she hurts you in any ways without knowing it. 12) he/she's dealing w/ an addiction & doesn't know how to handle it or doesn't try to fix. 13) you feel like he/she's held back your true potential.

Being married can make us feel we see that person 24/7 we sometimes feel that we get into a routine which can become boring and feel like they don't do anything to make us feel special anymore that's why we sometimes feel that we hate the person we are married to because marriage is a bond which makes us stay together and makes walking away harder than just being in a relationship through the good and the bad we are still married and support each other thus it's not like a relationship where we can just leave when we feel like it isn't for us anymore it takes work, communication, patience and understanding but it's beautiful ❤️. We just need to find that happiness and beauty again and the hate will lessen as we do what made us happy and which made us choose our partner in the first place.

I think this is something that only you will be able to answer. If you hate them, then you probably have a good reason for hating them. I would suggest that you do a lot of self-reflection - journaling, working through your feelings, etc. Think about the entirety of your relationship, and ask yourself why you would be experiencing those feelings, without judgment. I think if you are honest with yourself, you should be able to get to the bottom of your feelings fairly quickly. I wish the best for you on your journey of self exploration into your feelings.

I used to hate my ex after we ended our relationship, however, as time flies, and I became more mature, I thought about all the good things that we accomplished together, sometimes, not only looking at the bad things but let's think about the positive thinks that we do to think more optimistically. Hatred will only bring us down, preventing us from being successful, but being optimistic will make us become the new person, think positively, and be more open-minded will make everything become easier. Let's think positive about life, invest in ourself, buying us new clothes, eating our favorite meals, it could make our day!

Just as it happens with any other person, the more you know them the more you see all their positive qualities, but you also see the negatives and their mistakes. If you have been married for a while you for sure have noticed the flaws of your partner, but since we all have flawns too we accept them. Sometimes when we are under stress, or we have a big disagreement with our partner we can tend to focus on all the flaws at the same time, that can increase the feeling of disliking someone. So if you are experiencing something like this, try to remember the good qualities that attracted you to that person, the good time you spent together. On the other hand try to decrease your levels of stress, maybe start something new like a hobby, or it could be just taking walks. It will allow you to relax and have some time away from your partner so you don't keep overthinking all these negative feelings.

That is a question best answered not by a stranger, but chances are, either they have disrespected your boundaries, or you did not set them. Whether they're safe to state boundaries with or not, it still falls under one of those categories. So much of the frustration in relationships lie in a mismatch of one person's needs and the other's deeds. Sometimes, the other person's deeds don't fulfill your needs because they don't know those are your needs. Not everyone needs your needs. That doesn't mean you don't deserve to have them met, just that that person might not know you need them or that anyone needs them. Do not assume such things are universal or common sense. On the other hand, if you have set your boundaries and they continue to violate them, the next step is to figure out why. Is it difficult for them to do whatever it is that means they respect those boundaries? If not, do they just not believe it's a need?

Sometimes feelings are complicated. Hate is a strong word so make sure you actually hate them. The signs of hate are "Feel envy or want what the other person has, they may consider it unfair that someone has what they lack, have contempt for another person or believe them to be inferior, learn hatred from parents, their community, or other social groups, are humiliated or mistreated by another person." If you for sure hate your partner then it could be from bast experiences or something that they did to you and you don't remember so you subconscious makes you hate them

You do not love them. Period. Or you have fallen out of love. Not liking your partner is okay in marriage from time to time. but hating them is a big NO. It is not okay at all. You are in a marriage. You shouldn't be in a (healthy) marriage if not for love. You should communicate and see what is the problem. There is couple's therapy. Journal. These are the basic things to do. Also there is a pretty fair chance that you could be disliking your partner. DISLIKE not hate. People interchange the words. We dislike the people we love from time to time. It is natural. We are humans. They are humans. We aren't flawless.

Sometimes we hate those closest to us. Sometimes we love them, sometimes we hate them. Sometimes we love and hate them, all at the same time. It is with love that there is hate, I believe. Maybe you have boundaries you did not set, and you felt your husband or wife did not meet your expectations, which they might or might not know of. I do not yet have a spouse, but I do have family. More often than not, I come to hate the person because of some misunderstandings, or because of a shared negative emotional experience based on blame or resentment.

I would do some self reflection and maybe consider what is going on around the relationship. Do you feel disconnected? Do you feel unheard? Do you feel disrespected? Do you not trust your partner? What is the reasoning behind the hate. Hate is a strong word and a strong emotion that means you still care for them. Are you able to discuss your feelings in a safe environment? Do you feel acknowledge when you express yourself? Do they not support your dreams, goals and aspirations? Are your values no longer aligned? These can all be factors that have led to the discourse between you. Take some time to figure out what is going on and allow yourself the ability to look at your relationship from their eyes. If your partner is threatening you, your life or your wellbeing, consider leaving the relationship, you are in an abusive environment. Your safety comes first. If your safety isn't in quuestion, maybe consider seeing a couples therapist or counselor if you can afford it.