Is it normal for me to have recurring dreams about my rapist (even though the incident happened years ago)?

vanna
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Apr 15, 2015
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I personally had recurring dreams for 4 years now, or maybe nightmares is more the word, from my rape when I was younger. They have definitely become less frequent, and I have realized that I have triggers that I can trace (certain laundry baskets, people who look like him on the train, guns) and connect to it, so when I encounter those things during the day, I try to spend an hour or two thinking calmly and bringing myself out of hte past and into the present, where I am safe and happy. It doesn't work all the time but it works enough that it has really helped me overcome the pain that came with having those dreams a few times a week sometimes. So yes dear, it's normal and it is an awful thing to keep experiencing so I am sorry. *hugs*
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Anonymous
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May 23, 2015
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Yes. Unfortunately, it is horrible and unfair. I sought counselling and practised meditation to help
Anonymous
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Jul 27, 2015
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Yes. Rape is a traumatic event for anyone at any age or at any time. Stay strong. This too shall pass.

W8inglibra
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Aug 24, 2015
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Yes. You cannot control your dreams and having this one might mean you are just working through a tragic event.

dreamVoice41
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Sep 14, 2015
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yes. It is absolutely normal. But do seek professional help if this dream persist and/or disturbs your sleeping experience.
Anonymous
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Sep 28, 2015
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Dreams are often your minds way of trying to process events that are confusing or painful. They can be really horrible to experience and if there are distressing talk about them with someone you trust, is there something you haven't dealt with?
Anonymous
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Apr 6, 2016
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It's completely normal, you're not alone, i was raped 3 years ago and still having nightmares.

PoliteOcean
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Sep 21, 2015
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If you are having difficulties with a past traumatic event perhaps you should seek the advice of a healthcare professional like a therapist or counselor to help.
Anonymous
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May 13, 2015
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Yes, because it will still be traumatic, you could also get a doctor or talk to a friend. If you need any more help, contct a listener
Anonymous
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Jun 7, 2016
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Absolutely. It's common amongst victims of severe trauma to relive those moments. As terrifying as it can be, it's always going to be a subconscious experience.
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2015
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Its probably normal x When you have experienced something serious like that, it might be hard to forget though how hard you try x

softNutella25
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Dec 26, 2016
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Rape is an extremely traumatic event and yes, having recurring dreams, even years later, is common. If these dreams are causing you grief, please seek help from a professional who specializes in PTSD.

Caringheart23
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Apr 10, 2018
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It's absolutely okay. Sometimes these things comes much later after the incident happened. It's a way howyour mind try to protect itself. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Did you try to talk about it with someone?
horse2014
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Jun 3, 2022
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Yes, I still have nightmares about my abusers. They might not get better but try thinking of something else or watching tv before bed or go on a walk, go for a drive, hangout with friends. It's not easy to get rid of nightmares but distracting yourself helps. I found out listening to music or talking to someone helps. You are in control of what you do in life. Your abuser can't control you forever. It will get better as time goes on but life is never easy but you have to live each day as you want to.

Aayla
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Jul 29, 2024
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It is absolutely normal, it's a kind of trauma that can affect people for a long time and it doesn't mean you haven't done a good job recovering from it. Don't hesitate to seek for support if this is taking a toll on you. You can talk about it with people you trust, or seek therapeutic support, remember that you're not a burden to people around you and you have every right to seek support.
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