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Why does nobody believe I'm depressed?

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Top Rated Answers
Crest
January 14th, 2016 3:37am
Because you're hiding it. Have you told them about it? If so, then are you sure those are the right people?
Dontletyourthoughtshurtyou
January 14th, 2016 12:44pm
Well there could be a number of reasons, when I was in eighth grade I had this friend who I told everything and she never believed me for some reason, it made me mad and really confused but when I ask her about it now she tells me that she was in denial and she didn't want to believe her best friend wasnt happy, you just need to explain that you need to seek help and they may believe you..
Erby
January 15th, 2016 10:28am
Sometimes, people don't understand why a person would become depressed. There isn't a simple answer for why depression exists, but there's many different causes of it. What might push you into a depressed state, might be something another person can shrug off. Sometimes it's hard to see why a person would be depressed when, from an outside perspective, they seem to have a good life.
bruisedbutnotbroken
January 17th, 2016 6:14pm
Depression is an invisible disease. Suffering from it myself, I find that often times, the ones around us fail to see it because it's so inconspicuous.
dancingnutella
January 20th, 2016 3:51pm
Struggles that arent visibly harming you can be perceived as false, since most people believe that depression isn't as mentally harming as it truly is.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 6:13am
My personal opinion on this is that nobody wants you to be depressed and feel that if they say you aren't often enough you won't be.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 7:52pm
It could be because depression isn't necessarily a constant state in which you're feeling depressed, and sometimes when around people, people tend to put up a facade. Whether or not it's intentional or you're unaware of it, sometimes it's hard for people who aren't sharing your thoughts to process the thought that you've been depressed if some days you may not seem like it or try to act as if nothing is wrong.
tshgo
January 24th, 2016 1:06pm
Because they don't know enough about it or they just don't understand it. People won't always understand or know how to help us, but giving them a chance to, is an opportunity to teach them what we need.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 6:45am
People who have never experienced depression absolutely cannot understand it. They buy into society's image of depression: a pretty girl looking at the sunset. They don't understand that that's not what depression is
thereshope0303
January 28th, 2016 5:11am
Everyone was told you make your own happiness. But sometimes, we are chemically different. We don't work as like others believe everyone does. We have to try harder, that is why in the end. We are stronger.
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
January 29th, 2016 8:46am
Perhaps you are talking to the wrong people. I highly recommend seeking an opinion from a professional - they have the skills to properly diagnose you
blanket7
January 30th, 2016 6:12pm
A lot of people don't believe that depression is a real thing, the probably just think you are sad and will get over it or they think that others have it worse and that you don't have it that bad. I'm sorry nobody believes you:(
AverageDakoda
January 31st, 2016 5:32am
Sometimes, people won't believe you if you seem to be acting. Try to just be natural. Also, if you're going around and saying it, people may not believe you.
Ambs07
January 31st, 2016 3:13pm
Often people struggle to accept that the people they love are ill or in a bad place; this is because they want what is best for you. However, this can manifest in strange ways, and sometimes it seems like they don't care, when really they are just confused or scared for your welfare. However, accepting it is half the battle won. It is always best to talk it out with someone you trust, and seek a doctor's help.
Hodgey
February 3rd, 2016 7:43am
Often individuals with little/no experience dealing with mental health issues can be unaware or uneducated on the topic, leading to confusion or lack of belief. In these situations, it is best to seek out professional assistance to aid you in any problems you face.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 4:37pm
From my experience it is very hard for other people to imagine how you feel, as they have not felt the same way. So they are pushed by the incredulity to think you are making it up.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 12:30pm
Sometimes people think depression means just being bummed out or sad when there's actually so much more happening. This is why educating people on mental illnesses is important.
CaringJoy
February 6th, 2016 3:35am
They probably don't understand the symptoms and nature of depression so you'll have to educate them to help them understand and support you.
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 4:11am
Maybe because no one saw the signs. Maybe you were acting totally natural and fine when everything wasn't
Kuvira14
February 10th, 2016 11:23am
Because it is a mental illness and mental illnesses are swept under the rug because others cannot see them as they often are in our minds
Anonymous
March 21st, 2016 2:29am
You probably smile a lot to cover your pain, but to others, it just seems that you're happy. Talk to a professional or us, we will help you with your depression.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2016 5:49pm
Many people don't know what is actually classified as depression. Sometimes they think you have to be severely depressed to be depressed. Which is not the usually the case. It may be wise to seek professional help if you are feeling depressed.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2016 2:05am
Maybe you are really good at hiding your feelings and never shared about your true feelings to anyone so when you really get depressed nobody believes on it.
EmmaListens
November 1st, 2016 8:37am
Being depressed is like having a bruise, unless you've felt it yourself - it's hard to describe therfore for some people to understand.
SophiaPortendorfer
December 20th, 2016 7:09pm
People should not influence whether you think you are depressed or not. Some people are just opinionated and will not believe you even if you provide evidence. It is important that you seek help from a mental health professional not a friend, neighbor or acquaintance. Depression has symptoms and indicators that must be considered before diagnose.
wonderouspaint
September 19th, 2017 12:46am
Although we've begun talking about mental health, it is still a taboo topic sometimes. Sometimes your friends think that by disagree with you they are actually helping. Try seeking help from a qualified therapist.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2018 6:56pm
sometimes illnesses like depression are seen as "invisible illnesses" because no one can see how much its affecting you (the only outward symptoms you might be expressing might be that you dont have motivation to do stuff, and most people tend to unfortunately write that off as the person being lazy). because depression doesnt have many outward symptoms, some people think that because you dont show signs of being depressed, your not really depressed. that's just from my experience tho, yours may be very different from mine
Anonymous
August 10th, 2020 11:24pm
A while back, I tried to tell friends that I was depressed, but nobody believed me. For me, depression was the thing I hid, from my family and friends, and they didn't understand that I trusted them enough to tell them that. I wish they knew the pain depression puts on you, on anyone. This made me really reconsider my trust for them. They don't understand that just because you can't see something, doesn't mean it isn't there. I'm not sure if they'll ever understand what it's like to constantly have a voice telling you that you don't even deserve to live.