Why do I feel so unappreciated?

From my experience, when I feel unappreciated, it's usually because I am expecting more. The thought that goes through my head is, "If someone were to do this for me, how would I react?" And, if you do that thing for someone and they don't react in the same way you would have, then you feel unappreciated. But that's just showing that everyone has different levels of showing emotions, and we all have different expectations. If, let's say, I were to show appreciation by buying the person something and my partner shows appreciation by cooking me something- I shouldn't feel unappreciated if they never buy me things or they feel unappreciated if I never cook them anything.

i feel u appreciated when my friends and family look down on me for things i struggle in instead on the things i’m good in. like i help my family out with food and groceries and all that stuff but if there’s one day i don’t help they get mad cause i’m being selfish but when my brothers help it’s no big deal so i feel like i’m unappreciated for all the things i do to help my family around the house even though i’m the one who helps a lot things always get better in the end thou so i just need to keep my head up and look on the bright side

It Is Not Okay to Feel Unappreciated Feeling unappreciated is one of the worst feelings because it is never a feeling that stems as a result of being around strange people. It is a feeling that stems from being around people you are familiar with, either family or work. I guess because you let yourself feel that way. You may not know the self-worth and unaccredited yourself which is not good. You feel that nobody appreciate your work but it is not needed unless you let someone else decide what good did you accomplish. You should learn to appreciate your work. whatever work you do is the best you did in our capability. You reward yourself for the work you did

I have personally experienced this throughout my life. I found that in my experience it was because I felt that I had to prove that I was worthy. Once I found that loving myself and accepting myself completely that it was enough- that I myself was enough. Once I accepted that, I found that I no longer needed the approval of others. You see the reason why I felt that way was because I felt that if I was appreciated that meant I had other people's approval of my own accomplishments or contributions. I learned that I had to be my biggest fan first for my own happiness.

You think; therefore, you feel. Or, as others say it: You feel the way you think. You "feel" unappreciated because you believe that people are not acknowledging you in some way. Ultimately, beliefs and thoughts are powerful things that influence how you feel. My question for you would be, "What makes you believe that you are unappreciated?" If you have some convincing reasons why you feel this way, then that's probably why you feel unappreciated. For example, if you're someone who gives, gives, and gives to others, but get walked all over, then there's no wonder you feel unappreciated. However, if people seem to acknowledge your efforts, then there's something more going on that's making this way.

I’m sorry you feel so unappreciated. A lot of people feel the same way, and that can be very hard for us, and can effect are mental health a lot. Sometimes people feel unappreciated, if they don’t get attention, or if they don’t feel seem, they may feel everything they have done, was for nothing. Even if they worked so hard for it. Again, feeling unappreciated can effect us, and sometimes are mental health can be the one causing you to feel that way, but I can tell you, I appreciate you, and everyone should be appreciated, everyone is special.

I had felt the exact same thing. When I analyze back I think it happened because I put in far more effort (let it be any effort, personal, professional, emotional...) than I possibly can or required. After that we feel exhausted but at that point no one will be there to hold us up right we will have to pick ourselves up. It can happen if actually we are not appreciated as well. Sometimes even when we are appreciated verbally we get the guy feeling that the appreciation is not coming from heart but rather than a social act... So in a nut shell it is a very valid point and we do emotional starved at times like this...

Are you expressing your situation clearly? Are you looking for validation from someone other than yourself? You should know that you are your own person and you should only focus on yourself and not what others think of you. If you have an issue with someone else, you should discuss it with that person. It is important to have open communication in order to fully fix a situation. Ask yourself why do you feel so unappreciated. If you are doing everything you possibly can, then maybe there's something else you're searching for. Try discussing it to yourself and then to others.

Sometimes feeling unappreciated comes from our expectations of other people. It can be really upsetting when someone does not treat us how we want to be treated. If we do something around the house or accomplish something, shouldn't we receive some type of acknowledgement? The problem is not everyone feels this way, and we have to learn that, also, not everyone knows that we want those compliments. Communication is also very important in these circumstances. I can completely relate to these unappreciated feelings, but have come to realize that if I am proud of myself sometimes I do not need validation from others. While this can take a long time, it can be a really freeing feeling!

Being appreciated by the ones in our lives is so important. Sometimes when we do something for someone and they do not recognize or acknowledge what we did, it makes it feel as if they didn't even notice. However, sometimes we are expecting things to be noticed and appreciated and we should tell the person. For instance, sometimes when I clean up after my husband, I want him to say thank you. Most of the time he doesn't notice. That can be so very frustrating. So, I have learned that sometimes I just need to point out that I cleaned up his mess. I say it in a nice way, but also in a way so that he knows I need him to acknowledge that I did something for him.

Sometimes you feel underappreciated because you may be the kind of person who gives it your all in everything that you do yet no one says a word of thanks. However if it also important to remember that appreciation is shown in different forms depending on the other person. It is sort of like how there are different love languages. One person may show appreciation by compliments and affectionate gestures and words. Another may quietly help you with something that they know you need help with without telling you, or by giving you something that will help you through the day, even if it's simple like making you your favourite drink or doing an errand for you. It may not seem like appreciation because they are doing it without saying "Hey, I am doing this to say thanks", but it is. That said if you truly are just giving and giving and not being appreciated at all, you need let them know because it can be very demoralizing and draining, and you may lose the drive and enthusiasm you have to continue helping out.

Sometime people take you for granted when they are used to you doing things for them. They can even grow to expect it without even realizing it. And sometimes people show appreciation in different ways. If someone isn't good at verbalizing appreciation, they might do sometime nice in return. When you feel under appreciated, it can be helpful to let the other person know and tell them what you need. This can be hard, but I encourage you to try it with a loved one that may be open to feedback. If that doesn't help you may consider doing less for them so you don't start to resent them.

When people around you do not see what you are doing or how hard you are working, it can often come off as they are not appreciating you. This can happen everywhere--school, college or even the workplace. The situation might be different for someone else where the work they do is unrightly attributed to someone else. For me, it was mostly my dependence on external validation before I realised that I don't have to seek it out to strengthen my self esteem or worth; my skills are enough for both. It is never easy to come to this level but with a good support system who give you enough validation to not sink too deep into it, a strong resolve and resources on the internet, anything is possible :)

Learn to take control: How do you take control when feeling unappreciated? Communication is key. Sometimes people are not aware of how you’re feeling, especially if you hide it well. Take that bold step and communicate your feelings in a kind and thoughtful way. Losing your temper won’t contribute anything positive to the conversation, and demanding thanks will hardly ever result in it being given. Gently and sincerely talk with the other person about the way you feel. Allow them the freedom to tell you that they do appreciate you and that their intention was not to make you feel otherwise.

A question all us ask ourselves at some point of our lives but if you study your mindset or thought pattern closely, you would realise you only ask this question when you feel down, emotionally drained, sad or very tired or physically drained. You might feel like a victim, your emotional needs are not met or validated or you yourself could be in playing martyr mindset. So it is always good to spent some time to reflect on, analyse your state on mind before you look outward at people who make you feel unappreciated. When you have reasoned out and identified your own weaknesses you would then find ways to strengthen yourself and look at the external world differently.

We feel appreciated when we do little and it is recognized. And it mainly happens because it is new for us or unexpected. It fires dopamine in our brains and that makes us feel good. So, our brain tries to do the same thing again to experience more dopamine. But with time, things change. Either our efforts become too much (due to dopamine greed), or the appreciation reduces (because the process is routine or repetitive and starts feeling empty) or both or none (means appreciation is still there, but our brain has gotten used to that amount of dopamine and it needs more than before) In either of these cases, our brain makes us feel unappreciated.

often times we help others and expect the same. it feels like giving a piece of us every time we help or do something it makes us feel drained but if people just notice what we did and tell us how we mattered our energy boosts back in. so when we feel that way it often helps to step back take break appreciate ur own work. u might or might not always get what u give but deep down u know what u did is really important and it finds comfort in ur heart. it is important to know that saying no is ok and being little selfish is ok. we are our first priority and we deserve to be appreciated for the good things we do just because one doesnt appreciate doesnt mean it is appreciable work.

Everyone desires recognition when they do a good job, or when they go out of their way to help someone else. Being appreciated isn't the same as 'taking credit' for doing something, but rather it is going that extra mile - especially when you weren't even asked to do it. There are different ways to show appreciation. One way is a raise in salary. An employer will routinely recognize a good worker. Another way and probably the best way (from my perspective) is simply a nice "Thank you!" So often, we fail to recognize hard work, and then, a person might ask, "Why do I even bother!?" Never be willing to go the extra mile .. even if you don't get recognition for it. In your heart, you know you did well and you'll feel better because of it!

Its natural to feel this way. It can lead us to feel unsatisfied and disappointed, also demotivated. Many times I have felt that way in my life as well. However, it is important to understand and value your own self. You could be feeling that people don't realise what you have done, but that doesn't mean what you do, or who you are is not important. Even your smallest effort can have an impact on someone's life, even if they don't acknowledge or appreciate it. Remember that someone's appreciation or the lack thereof cannot take away the importance of your work or of who you are. I find it fruitful when I appreciate and/ or reward myself with something after doing something for someone or myself.

It's common problem many people face these days, we always work to impress someone and seek appreciation from various other people. But we need to change this it always makes us feel unappreciated , to come out of this we need to focus on our work and how to do it better every time and appreciate to self with small gestures like eating chocolate or taking a break or whatever makes you appreciated by yourself. And if you appreciate others for their good work or anything good done by them makes their day and they do start appreciating others so let's make it chain reaction ✌😊

That is a feeling and have oft felt feelings are a sort of indicator of something a bit misplaced in our system or in our life. It maybe the fact that we are always trying to gain the approval of people and in turn leading to them living our life, rather than us enjoying being ourselves... It can also show that we are not putting our entire self and passion onto the stage called life, instead we are putting in the bare minimum then expecting praise for that... Maybe there are more reasons, but these are what I can think of at present. Just put in your entire life in what you do, how you express and how you love. Try being present at all times. And just tone down the need for approval because people change their idea of what's right and good like every second...it would be hard to keep with that!