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How do I tell my parents I'm depressed?

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How do I tell my parents I'm depressed?
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Daniela27
August 13th, 2020 3:31am
Telling your parents you're depressed can be difficult or even impossible, because they may feel shocked or upset that their child is going through something serious. First, tell them that you would like to talk about your mental health when you have their attention. Make sure you stay calm and patient, as the news can be shocking to them at first. Then, explain to them how you've felt for the past few weeks or months. Provide examples or details. Be as open as possible. Remember, you are brave enough to talk about your mental health. Your mental health is just as important as physical health, and your parents would want the best for you.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2020 4:13pm
This may be a really hard thing to do depending on your parents, bt it is important to know that no matter what, talking and searching help is always the bst option. Onc you've done it, though as I said it may seem hard, you will feel much better and relieved. Talking about how we feel is always valid, and much more if we can tell it to our parents, or whomever it might be that lives with us. When we open ourselves to others we automatically allow them to help us and give us a hand. Therefore, saying it to them is an extreme personal decision, but always making sure that opening up is the right decision.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2020 12:10pm
There is no need to hurry this process. Opening up to the people you care about can be extremely challenging, and scary. But always remember, your parents are there to love and support you no matter what. I am sure they will understand what you are going through, and support you every step of the way. An easy way to bring it up would be to find a time where you can both sit down comfortably, and talk with no interruptions. Explain how you're feeling, and make them see this is bothering you. Be honest and direct, your parents are there to cherish you and love you no matter what. So don't be afraid.
naturalSong6926
July 25th, 2020 10:17pm
Talking out with your parents about your depression would be a good idea. They are your immediate help and a important support support system. Your parents would be able to give you emotional support and help you deal or reduce the symptoms of depression. Communication is also important rather than keeping to yourself and not looking to reach out to get help. You would not only worsen your depressive state but it may progress to chronic illness, which you don't want. Your parents will help you find a way to improve your symptoms and how to deal with your illness
Anonymous
July 25th, 2020 1:07am
I am not one to give advice as I don't have depression, but I have told my parents about my anxiety. Try explaining it to them, telling them how you feel during depressed times. Explaining to them when it started and how they could maybe help. It is best if they understand what you are going through before they decide to help. I am not an expert, so I don't know how your parents could possibly react. But just remember that there are people who understand you everywhere around the world. But yes, explaining it to them seems like the best option.
peacefulPraval
July 24th, 2020 8:26pm
Telling your parents you're depressed in one of the most important steps to take during this stage. The first thing you should know is that your parents will always love you, but they may not understand the concept of depression because he or she may not have experienced it themself. The first step is to sit your parents down and tell them how your feeling and how it has been affecting you on a daily basis. This will slowly lead to them asking how they can help, and you can suggest them to a therapist, etc. If your parents don't understand then your next best option is to talk to another trusted adult who your parents are close with.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2020 9:02am
Telling your parents you are depressed can be a hard and challenging thing to do. Though, it takes strength to express wanting to tell your parents, which is something to be proud of. Telling your parents may be hard, so, it may be best if you let them know you have something serious to talk about. Taking them to a private space to be able to discuss your current mental health would be a great start. You can always come to 7 cups after speaking to your parents, and speak to a listener on how you feel the conversation with your parents went.
Anonymous
June 20th, 2020 5:36am
This can be a difficult thing to do, especially if you’re afraid your parents won’t validate your feelings. The best thing you can do is let your parents know how you feel in others words than just saying “I’m depressed”, let them know that you feel tired, sad, frustrated etc. and you feel like you don’t have control over it. Some may be afraid that their parents won’t understand and why explaining these feelings in detail may help your parent understand. If you are not close with your parent this could be extremely difficult but my biggest advice is to take a deep breath and try not to over think the situation.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 3:06pm
Honestly, there is no correct way to go up to your parents and tell them that you are depressed, but it is important to communicate with them if you need support, love, and help. Parents do not always understand why their child is depressed and sometimes would rather tell their child that they are not depressed. Do not worry nor stress, they are struggling to know or understand how this happened. Once your voice is heard and you let them know, whether you write a letter, send a text, tell them face to face, or however you want to express it, they will listen. Your parents will hear you.
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 1:50pm
Tell them how it feels to be depressed, how dark and cold it it. And how much you want to feel warm again. You can tell them that everything is dark and you can't figure out how to make it better. Tell them you know you love them and you know they love you, but you can't feel anything but sorrow. Ask them to help you find your way back home with them. Tell them how hard it was to open up about this because you know they gave you everything they can and you don't want to be ungrateful, you just want to feel better.
BrofessorPsychNerd
May 8th, 2020 5:25am
I have been in this situation before, and I understand your struggle. There is no one right way to go about this. The best thing to do is approach your parents in a way that you know they’d be receptive to. Can you think of another time you’ve had a serious conversation with them that went well? Using similar techniques may help you. You are very brave for taking this step. No matter how you choose to go about it, the fact that you’re doing it shows that you are brave and capable of handling tough situations. Good luck!
Anonymous
April 30th, 2020 12:14pm
Let them know that you have been feeling really down recently, and maybe mention some of your symptoms. Take it slow, it may take a few conversations and it can be a little bit scary on both sides. Sometimes it will be hard to hear on your parents behalf as no one wants their child to be depressed, but even if they don't fully understand or accept it at first. When they see how it is affecting you and see the signs now they know what they are looking at they will start to understand. Just take it as slow or as fast as you need and listeners are always here to support you if you need to chat afterwards
AlissaRose
April 22nd, 2020 9:40pm
Hello. You are very courageous that you want to share your depression with your family. It is very brave, and most people never are able to do it. However, it is crucial to have a robust support system. Multiple studies have shown that family and social support plays an important role in treatment outcome. I have a hunch that since you are confident that your family will support you have a trusting relationship; therefore, you know the best way to talk to them. If you are interested, you can practice here, and we can support you and listen. People usually gain confidence when they practice with the therapist or peers.
ingeniousPeace79
January 16th, 2019 11:29am
I'm not there's a parent that doesn't recognize the state of her own child. Especially the mother. They might not start the conversation, yeah. But they know it, somehow, some way. Not all of them maybe, but that's the quality of a parent after all, they know the emotions and normal level of actions about their own children. what they choose to do afterwards, that's another discussion :D So, i don't see any problem with full honesty. it's not like you go to your boss, to announce your depression :P Now, more about depression, I feel to add to it. I see depression as a very natural state (When it's not exaggerated by us) As i see it, there are always 2 stages in life, even life itself goes the same. 1. find the goal, or a goal. 2. achieve the goal (or give it up) transition from 2, back to 1, is always interpreted as depression, but it's actually a release. You are released from the goal. and it's great, now you can choose another goal. (and "i choose zero goals" is also a goal :P) so basically we cannot choose to not have a goal, and we cannot choose to not give attention. one way or the other we will always work with and for a goal, and we will always give attention to something. what we choose though, what we can control, is the combination: goal + attention. what we choose to focus more on.
EchoBox
June 26th, 2019 5:36pm
Family is your biggest strength and it makes your healing process faster. I am sure your family has been noticing you and it will be help to them that you give them a reason. But most importantly listen to your heart if you are not ready for their reaction then don't. Take you time. Share with your siblings first. Parents can be over protective sometimes. So take your time. One idea is that you casually discuss topic of depression with them see how they reacts and slightly share your situation with them. Be ready to give some answers and listen to them.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2019 3:48pm
You can’t start by asking them to have a serious talk with you. Tell them that you have been feeling (feelings) for a while. You can tell them that you think you are depressed and would like to seek help. If they think you are just sad just tell them more about why you think your depressed. Don’t be afraid to be 100% real with them. If they acknowledge you’re feelings then you can ask for help in whatever way you think you need. They could be in denial if they don’t believe you which is why it’s important to be 100% with them.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2019 9:01am
From my personal experience and i think most schools have therapists where you can go anonymously saying that if they do think your in danger they have obligation to make sure your safe. When you go there you should have a opportunity to them and explain the thoughts your having and why your feeling depressed, they should be able to guide you to a way to be able to tell your parents. Telling your parents about a mental disorder is not a bad thing its a good thing so they can understand what your going through and help you if more support is needed.
Laks1
May 10th, 2019 9:27am
You first need to observe your parents, you know them better and you know their opinions and reactions to things especially mental health. This will guide you and help you whether to make them understand what depression is or whether you need to go straight to the point or have someone help you tell you You also need to pick the right time, tell them when they’re free, in a good mood and ready to listen Be open and extremely honest about how you feel and most importantly, let them know what triggers you so that they know what to do to make you better and also know which actions and words to avoid in order not trigger you
musicalEnergy94
May 1st, 2019 4:34pm
if you have problems telling your parents you are depressed then you need to decide if you want to tell them how you are feeling. i agree it is difficult to tell parents because you don't wand them to worry. if you tell them the truth, they may respond in a way that makes you feel less stress. depression is so common that there is not as much stigma compared to other conditions or diseases. Parents can help if they know how you feel by getting you to a doctor and maybe medication too. if you don't feel comfortable telling your parents you may need to tell a friend and ask what you should do. living with depression can be scary if you don't know ways of managing it. education about depression is important to your health.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2019 11:06am
Sit down together, gather the courage and tell them how you feel. They're your parents, they love you and I think they will support you as much as they are capable. I don't know what kind of people your parents are but even if they react unexpectedly, I am sure at the end it will be better than keeping quiet. My sister had depression and mother found out in an unpleasant way and the thing she was most sad about is that my sister didn't tell her directly. It can be difficult indeed, but it is worth it, I believe in you
Ashes2Ashes1984
January 23rd, 2019 10:55am
I thinking telling your parents that you are depressed is a real challenge and never easy. First, I would asked myself, what are my biggest fears of telling them and address that issue and maybe even approach a close friend that can give you another way of looking at it. The best advice I can give is truly treat it is taking off a band aid and do it quickly and honest as possible and allow them to asked question and say what come to their minds. Some time parent will take it as they fail and that they have to cope with the notion that they fail. And if anything else address outside help to deal with the conversation.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2019 6:05am
Tell them how you're feeling and why you're feeling that way and that you need their help and support to get over this. Don't be shy to open up to them and give them chance to hear you out and help you, your parents love you more than anything in the world and would never judge you but you need to be honest with them about your feelings and why you re feeling this way so that they can help you and take what you say into consideration but you also need not to scare them as they will worry about you
supportiveStrawberry81
October 26th, 2018 9:26pm
I know some parents will deny that a child of theirs is depressed but I believe in general most parents would want to know and would try to help. I also believe many parents don’t know how to help the depressed individual. So, if you are apprehensive about talking to your parents start with a trusted adult and talk about it. An adult often has insight into issues and can help. If there is not a trusted adult find a time you can talk to your parents and have their undivided attention, no tv, electronic devices, etc. and talk to them. Be honest. I’m not thrilled with this last option but sometimes it’s easier to tell someone with a text. If you do this please don’t solely use this method. It’s important to talk face to face about such issues.
awesomePudding82
September 30th, 2018 7:35am
Parents are amazingly knowledgeable about our emotions whether we share them our stories or not. most parents can analyse a child's mood based on the activities he/she do before their eyes. But some parents are needed to be told as they can't share enough time with their offspring. When you want to share or tell that you are depressed, there is no need for second thought. Just approach them right away. They will care for you for sure. It is also the best way during such time. A shoulder to cry and a soul to hug are no more than the heaven itself in such tough time. So, please do share anything that make you feel depressed with your parents straight away.
Anonymous
October 10th, 2018 11:11pm
Be patient with them. It can be hard to hear. Start of by explaining you've been having a tough time recently. Tell them what's been going on. Explain the situation that you're in. Let them know you're feeling depressed, and ask them if there's anything they want to know. Give them time to process everything. Don't panic they'll love you regardless. Let them ask questions, even if you're not sure how to answer them, just try your best to help them understand. After all explaining to someone else might help you understand it better yourself. Discuss your options with them for getting help, such as going to the doctor or seeing a counsellor or therapist, and that might relieve some of their worry.
NeverLetGoXXVIII
October 11th, 2018 6:22am
Rather than telling them you're depressed, try showing them. Basically, describe to them your symptoms. Depression can vary from person to person, so if they know how it is affecting you, they can hopefully better help you then. And maybe they won't know how to help with depression, but maybe they can help address your symptoms. And by describing symptoms, they will hopefully be more likely to believe you, since unfortunately not all parents are understanding. And if they believe, hopefully they can help direct you to professional help that can make a difference in your life for the better.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2018 3:19am
You talk to them and you tell them that your not doing well and that you have a lot of things on your mind. For starters talking is the most important part of this journey with your parents and take the time to show your feelings what is troubling you and make sure that they listen to everything your saying here about what you are feeling I mean this is the best approach for you when it comes to talking to your parents about depression and that is the best thing I can come up with and hope this helps you out.
Shatteredastrodug
January 12th, 2019 8:56am
Usually we find it easier to talk to one of our parents over the other. Maybe they are a good listener or it’s just more natural. Imagine your telling one of them how you feel. What one made the most sense to you ? Remember they are your parents and love you. If you had a child dealing with depression you would do anything to help them. So let’s say you have picked one and your ready to talk. I would start by telling them that you want advice and need their guidance. Naturally they will be concerned and ask you what’s wrong. At this point I would come straight out and say” i have worried about telling you this, but I want you to know I’ve been dealing with depression” Once you have opened the door, the rest will follow naturally. After speaking to them. They will likely inform your other parental figure in a clear way how you are feeling. Unless you don’t want the other to know. You should make it clear. I hope this helped.
15Kenzi
June 30th, 2019 2:58am
I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling with your health. Have you been to see a doctor? Have you had a diagnosis? Sounds like you may be under lots of stress and pressure that your parents are not aware of. They have a righ to know what is bothering you yet they may not fully understand the impact depression has on you. However, tell them anyway and start with your emotions. Your emotions are yours and they deserve to be acknowledged. Your health comes first over how your parents shall respond with your current health issue. So go and see a doctor and get help. Ask for all the help you are entitled to from your doctor. As for therapy, ask your parents that you need their support to get therapy in order to make a full recovery. There is a lot of misunderstandings about how depression is caused and what support one needs when one has been diagnosed with it. So let me tell you that your parents may not be able to support you the way you want them to. My parents were unsupportive when I told them I was diagnosed with depression as they had no knowledge of how to support me with such diagnosis. They have been taught that it is shameful to have such health issue. They chose to ignore my condition and dismissed it which was very painful. If you really do need the support from your parents then ask them directly. Never leave this important issue unspoken as it shall have a huge impact on your recovery and healing. They may not know how to, yet when you ask them to support you, they shall do their best to support you. Get them to read up on depression (preferably from books and not from the Internet) so that they have some knowledge of the condition and how to support you. Without some sound knowledge of depression, it is rather difficult to support you as they do not know what to look out for, what struggles is up ahead for them and what to do that is constructive to your recovery. Meanwhile, I suggest that you eat a healthy balanced diet, stay away from negative and toxic people. Get fresh air each day for 30 minutes and do some sort of exercise each day. Be sure to get a sound night’s sleep each night which is vital for your recovery.
rainbowmirage33
November 24th, 2018 6:52pm
They will want to know. They will want to help and console you. Telling anyone something like this may seem daunting and may be embarrassing but I know for sure if this is someone that loves you they will be happy you told them. They will want to help you and be there for you in any way they can. If they cant help you with what is going on they will help you find someone who is able to. Depression is a real and serious thing it's important you tell someone in your life that cares about you what is going on.