what does it mean when he says he doesn't want to break up but he is not sure if he loves you anymore?
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Ask him to very clear with what the feeling is by giving him some time.By that time, i would like to tell you to be very strong and you should be ready to accept whatever he comes up with
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 8:44pm
because he might be interested into something else or is too busy to think about it. you will have to keep talking to him no matter what
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 1:02pm
Ahh well he is scared he will be alone.. So he is just tryna keep you there. It's a common issue in relationships. If he says he doesn't love you just leave him. There's no reason to force a relationship cause he is just staying with you.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 9:18am
It means for you to go on a break , you both need to see how much you cannot live without eachother
It means that he is unsure of his feeling for you, but there are still some there. He still has friendly feelings, but maybe not romantic feelings. If he doesn't want to break up with you but doesn't feel like he loves you anymore, it could also mean that he really cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you.
It may mean that he is trying to take some time with you to make sure that he is not really in love with you or maybe, he may think that his feeling of uncertainty for you is just temporary.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 7:04pm
Only he can truly understand what he means. But if he doesn't love you, why stay in a relationship with him? It seems pointless.
He probably just needs some time to think things through. He could be quite unsure about his own feelings, but he is sure that he still wants you in his life.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 11:02pm
It means that he is confused about the fact that he doesn't know if he loves you but doesn't want to loose you.
Well, it sounds like he's confused if he still has feelings of love towards you, but he still either cares about you, sees value in your relationship, or is afraid of the upheaval that comes with a breakup. How do you feel? Does this relationship have value for you? Do you feel love for him?
It means that he doesn't know what he wants and his feelings are unclear at the moment. He wants to keep you around, but he needs time to figure out if he still loves you so he is giving it a chance before he calls it quits to make sure that he is doing the right thing.
He's confused. He wants to be with you but is unsure on how he feels so he needs to think about it. Give him time and space, he'll figure it out
It's probably him saying that he wants to be friends at the least and doesn't want to ruin anything between you two.
In my opinion, it means he's comfortable with you and cares for you, but isn't sure if that necessarily translates to romantic love. it's the kind of thing you should speak to him about.
This can be a difficult situation to discuss, however, communication is key to understanding why it is their feeling have changed. Feeling misunderstood or not understanding why something has happened can leave you feeling sad, alone and misguided. To avoid this, try to discuss the reasons for their change in feelings and try to understand their point of view on the situation.
If things are for the best, try to reach a mutual compromise of what is to happen next but being honest and clear can really help in knowing exactly where you both stand. I hope this has helped you and I wish you all the best.
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He is just confused, and you have to talk abot this, and see what he really feels about this relationship.
it means that he doesn't know what he wants. I would ask him if he needs space in order to sort our his feelings
It means that he needs time to figure out his feelings. Either that or he wants that status of a relationship.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2015 3:32am
He might need some time to think about where his relationship with you is going. If he isn't sure if he loves you, he needs to figure that out if he truly does or else there is no point in the relationship.
There can be a lot of meanings.. personally I feel he is confused and he doesn't want to lose you as a friend either. He just wants things to be fine so in that case talking to him and asking him about what he is going through and what he has in his mind is important. :)
It means he doesn't want somebody to have you as their gf, because he cant take that and that will be either due to jealousy or his inability to not you look after you. Or he is confused about his feelings towards you he doesnt know whether its love or lust he has to you.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2017 11:42am
Perhaps he just needs some time apart from you. It's a good idea to spend time apart, it brings you closer together as a couple and you and he could appreciate one another's presence more.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 6:52pm
I'd say it means he's afraid of change. Because breaking up means life will becpme pretty different, like, you need to get used to getting along on your own again. And it will feel pretty lonely and unfamiliar (at least at the beginning). So in a way NOT breaking up is the easier option, because everything will stay the same and he can stay in his comfort zone.
It may mean you'll only find out the truth when you walk away or give yourself a break from the emotional turmoil. I would rather know than waste time in a conditional relationship, but every person must make the decision based on their own experience.
I think it means that he is starting to loose interest. He still feels a connection and can't let go yet but he can feel you two drifting apart. This is human nature, people grow apart. It could also mean he just needs a bit of space to figure out himself before he can figure you out.
That's a very difficult situation for anyone to be in. Ask him why he's not sure if he loves you anymore, or what's changed for him to feel that way.
He could be comfortable in the relationship but if he is not in love with you then why hold you back. If you are looking for comfort then thats fine but if you are looking to move forward then you guys should think of what you guys should do next.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2016 2:34pm
That means he's a jerk and it's about time you leave him. If he really loves you he won't be confused ever
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 1:16pm
He is quite confused. He needs sometime to look forward into the matter. Talk with him, know what is bothering him.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 1:03pm
He is trying to figure out his feelings for you and maybe thinking about the long term aspect of your relationship. That may be because of multiple reasons including but not limited to career and family. Maybe there was some disagreement in the recent past that led to him saying this. Maybe it was something else that is weighing on him. It's best to ask him to talk to you more openly and trust you to be able to share what and how he feels. Perhaps an open conversation would help him understand more about his feelings and would help you get some clarity as well.
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