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Go out with friends, get outside and do things. Find a hobby, watch movies. Don't dwell on the heartache. Find ways to cope in a positive way.
Turn on the music and dance. Go out and try to have fun. Talk with your friends. Don't stay alone. And sometimes cry, if you need cry how hard you can.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2014 3:36pm
Hang out with your friends, do the activities you enjoy or even just talk to a close friend or family member. It's always good to talk it out with someone.
Ice cream, hanging with friends, Ice cream, Comedy, Ice cream, good movies, Chocolate, a new hobby and my favorite Chocolate Ice Cream.
The best way to get over a break up is go out meet new people and make new friends. Its the most effective way because it keeps you distracted and at the same time increases the probability of you meeting someone who might be able to help you forget your ex. Other ways are engaging yourself into some hobby or making a bucket list and making it your lifes goal to complete it.
Go out with your friends a lot, talk about it to a friend, do things you didn't have the chance while you were in a relationship but always wanted to. Take the time to rediscover your true self.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2017 8:12am
It took me a very long time to handle breakups maturely; I had the habit of getting a rebound or getting very, VERY drunk. But, after making some real friends, they helped me realise that I should come to terms with my feelings, and that feeling sad after a break up was okay. They came over or took me out somewhere almost every day, and eventually made me realise that people come and go, but surrounding yourself with loving, caring and supportive people who want the best for you is the most important thing.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2018 1:31am
Focus on yourself. Do the things you enjoy, as well as discover new things. Take time away from concerning yourself with other people.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2018 1:13am
By stop thinking about it and indulging yourself in some other activities,, doing something that makes you happy like maybe helping someone in anything and by setting goals and some purpose to accomplish. To let go of what has happened and believe that whatever happened, Happened for the vood. Try to take a small notebook and to daily write whatever good deeds you did at that particular day in that notebook, you'd surely feel very Happy and good. Moreover Start hanging out with friends initially you might not want to but force yourself to go out and hangout with friends or go out for a walk and listen to happy music/songs. P.S: don't listen to sad songs! and delete all that stuff that reminds you of that person. Start a new life with bigger dreams and hopes ^_^
Anonymous
January 13th, 2020 5:30pm
Start with writing down how you feel. Then write about how special you are and that you deserve everything. It can be hard to want to continue with your day but one day you will find your worth and learn that you are worth so much more than they were making you feel. They may cross your mind and you may take a trip back but you will be the amazing person you are and get through it. Remember you are loved someone in this world loves you and cares about you. You are not alone, there are so many people in this world you will find someone.
Recently, I lost a relationship with someone who I felt I had a lot of potential with. The time we had spend together was amazing, he's handsome, put-together (and a great kisser too!), but when the time came for us to back to our own countries, we realised that a long-distance relationship would not work for us.
Getting over that was actually not as hard as I thought it would be, and it was all down to a few simple tricks:
1. Remember the good times you shared and acknowledge that it was fun. Being in denial or pushing away the positives makes it more difficult to accept the fact that it's now time to move on.
2. Distract yourself in a healthy way. Take all of the frustration and disappointment and filter it into something you love! In my case, I started writing again and put more energy into my stan twitter account, which is where I vent out my feelings.
3. Talk to people! Don't shut people out just because things didn't work out in one particular relationship. Tell a friend or someone you trust about what happened and really work through and accept how you're feeling. Start meeting new people, forming new bonds and making new friends. However, it's better not to start dating again until you're 100% ready and over the person you were with previously.
4. Remember to take some time off to love yourself! In the wonderful words of our queen Miss RuPaul Andre Charles, 'if you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?'
I hope these tips helped, because they work wonders for me!
Break-ups are definitely not a pleasant experience. It feels like a terrible time and we tend to be a little harsh on ourselves. But remember that a crumbled relationship doesn't mean you're at fault or that your significant other was at fault. It's possible to really connect well with someone and grow apart over time. Your thought processes, ideologies and beliefs might change over time to the point that you no longer find that connection with your partner. It's completely natural and okay. Remember that your relationship with your romantic partner is just one of the many relationships that you make with people. There's family there's friends and then there are well-wishers. How about you try to reconnect with your close friends with whom you've probably not hung out much? Or spend a good evening with your cousins? Or family? How about you volunteer for a good cause somewhere?
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