Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

If you are doing this you are probably a little jealous and are still getting over the breakup. Try to focus on your own life and forget about your ex. You go girl!

if you feel that its okay and you feel good by doing this then its okay. but dont let that person hurt you in anyway or you hurt your self . that would not be nessasary if you think that its is not fine and for any reason this thing is hurting you more then you should move on try to be strong and try to find a better person which will make you happy and make u fall in love

It is very understandable, however, not necessarily helpful for you. Spying indicates and interest and most likely a willingness to get back with your ex. However, simply spying and unavoidably coming up with different assumptions is not where true happiness lies. First and foremost putting someone else as your priority number one does not indicate a healthy relationship with the self as we should be in the centre of our lives, the drivers of our life-mobil. In the case of willingness to reverse the situation, one may be better off talking openly in a heart-to-heart conversation. If the spying stems from curiosity then one should question why this curiosity exists. My best advice to any addictive behaviour is to ask yourself the question if you would recommend a person who you truly love to do this. The chances are that if you are advising a loved one you would avoid recommending harmful in one way or another activities. Then try loving yourself and give your best advice to your favourite person - yourself. You deserve the best.

It's not okay to stalk anyone. How would you feel if she did the same to you without telling? Would it feel great? Isn't it better to move on than getting stuck at her and living someone elses life?

What do you think is it okay? I know that you want him/her to be happy and move-on but don't do anything that will going to hurt you at the end of day. Time is a great healer and one can overcome if he/she can put his mind to. Try to indulge any other activity that will help you in not remembering him/her. Coupe up with your friends and enjoy each moment of life as we have less time at the end of each day. Travel to the other side of the city, country and explore. it will help you explore new things and to interact with new people as well.

To answer your question "is that okay" is a difficult one, as it depends on what your reference point of what 'okay' actually entails. What would be a more productive question could be something along the lines of "is this conducive to me being able to heal from this break up", or "do I feel this is a positive action in my life to be taking, or does it feel like a negative action which I am taking." When we use the binary terms of 'is something ok' it all depends on what you define 'ok' to be, and what you are comparing it to. If you transpose the word 'ok' to 'healthy', and ask yourself if it feels healthy, see what answer you come up with. If you swap it with the word 'satisfying', see what answer you then come up with, then try the word 'productive'. This is a good exercise to gain a perspective on behaviours which we can find relieving, however may be somewhat maladaptive in the long run.