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My partner is using me, should I break up with my partner?

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Anonymous
November 1st, 2014 7:20am
It's best to sit and talk honestly if that's not possible talk to someone who knows both of you or someone who you trust and sort out the issue. If he/she is using you, it's best to be direct and ask what's going on.
helpmeHelpyou61
November 3rd, 2014 10:54am
Well if you are sure about it then you should! But I would suggest you to talk to him/her first and then only take the relevant action.
Anonymous
November 4th, 2014 3:21am
Yes! I've been through a relationship like that, and it does no good for either party. It's best to get out of it, which may be hard if you're in love, but remember that your the most important and you need to take care of yourself first.
LevisCorde
November 6th, 2014 2:57am
I think you should have an honest discussion with your partner about your feelings, and about your relationship, to decide if it is something that is either salvageable, or something that would be better left behind you.
artnerd015
August 31st, 2015 11:38am
of course! you shouldn't be used and you deserved to be loved properly. go with the right person. or maybe you should talk it out with your partner if why their using you. talk it out.
JulieAliH
November 11th, 2014 12:03am
If the relationship no longer brings you happiness or betters your sense of self, it is often best to choose another path. Relationships should be about finding yourself in another person and focusing on one another's happiness as the most important thing in your life. People are not objects and, therefore, should not be used. First and foremost, you deserve happiness and respect.
VDellW12
November 11th, 2014 1:53am
Being used is never a good feeling. Ask yourself this "Can I do better?" and to answer that! YES you can do better! Let them down easily but firmly let them know you don't like to be used.
setmefreeletmebe
April 10th, 2015 12:28pm
Yep yep yep. Defenitly. Because such kind of people don't deserve hearts of innoncent, vulnerable people.
callforhelp
April 18th, 2015 2:13am
Ofcourse u should breakup. Never be in any relation where the other person doesn't respect you. You should strongly appose such behaviour for your own self ,for your self esteem and your happiness. If you continue to be the same the person will just use you like a toy and throw you away when not needed
WhenYouSmile
May 14th, 2015 11:53pm
Don't let anyone use you.. You're worth so much more than that. You know your situation better than I do, but if I was in your position, I'd have at least a very long sit down with said partner!
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 11:34am
If you feel that your partner is using you, maybe you should talk to them about it first. I've often gotten myself in situations where I believed my partner was doing the same thing but turned out I was just being paranoid, but you'll never know for sure until you ask him/her. Instead of acting without reason.
Brittneym101
July 11th, 2015 2:03am
I think the answer is self - evident when it comes to this particular question. If you know for a fact that he/she is in fact using you, have a conversation with your partner and let them know how you feel. Don't hold anything back when having this discussion. If you just feel like you're being used I would suggest that you still have the conversation. Your partner may not even realize that what they're doing makes it seem like they're using you. If they are in fact using you, you might want to look into breaking up with them. If you want to find out if they're using you stop doing and giving them what they want/need and see if they stick around. If they don't then you know you're being used if they do stick around then you probably aren't being used.
XDellaX
July 28th, 2015 7:21am
if your partner is using you, yes you should. Its not a healthy relationship, and you deserve a loving partner.