My boyfriend told me he hooked up with someone else when we were on a break.
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Anonymous
April 11th, 2021 7:02pm
The best way to approach this situation is to express to your boyfriend how that made you feel. After communicating your feelings to him, make a decision of what you want to do with the relationship. First, always put yourself first and value yourself. If this is something you will not be able to get over with, make the decision that will best suit your life and current moment. If you need time to think about it, take the time and give yourself and him the time to reflect on the relationship. Even if you are not able to stay together, you at least walked away with the best intentions which will bring peace to your life.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2021 7:32pm
I am sorry that happened to you first off. No one deserves that, even if you guys were on a break I am sure that must have been tough to still deal with it. Communicating your feelings and not bottling it all up is important. Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, even people on 7 cups. I hope everything works out with you both. Remember being calm and cordial when expressing your thoughts and feelings about this issue to your boyfriend. Your feelings are more than valid and I hope this helps some what. Don't forget to focus on self-care.
I can imagine this hurt immensely for you, however if you guys were on a break, the whole purpose of a break is to release the confinement’s of a relationship. Therefore although maybe hurtful to you, he technically didn’t do anything wrong.
Lots of people rebound after a breakup, and this is usually to fill a void and distract ones self from the emotional trauma from the breakup.
I think it would of your best interest to respect his willingness to be open and honest with you, and if you can forgive him, then move forward if he’s who you want to be with.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2021 7:23pm
First of all, I'm really sorry to hear that. I can understand what you must be feeling right now because I had faced the same issue a couple of years back. And then, eventually he broke up with me. If he is apologizing to you for what he did then it's totally up to you, do whatever you want to do. if you want to give him another chance, go ahead. But if he is not apologetic about it, then there is some chances that something's there in his mind. Whatever happens, just know that you are a strong girl, and you can face and survive any thing that life throws at you. You will take quite some time to heal of course, but you will come out stronger. And keep your eyes and ears open from now onwards. Believe in actions, not in words..
Anonymous
August 12th, 2021 10:21pm
The boyfriend has every right to do so. You both agreed on a break, a break means that you guys are no longer in a relationship anymore. Therefore, the guy is no longer your boyfriend and can do whatever he desires. You have no right to feel disgusted or angry about his actions. Doesn't matter how close you guys were, he can no longer abide under the relationship rules and so can you. The fact that your boyfriend even told you showed his honesty towards you. Some guys hook up with other people while on a break to run away or get rid of whatever stress or toxicity occurred from the relationship.
These are the last words anyone in a loving relationship wants to hear from their partner. I understand how this must make you feel. It’s natural to respond with anger, upset and hurt to someone breaking your trust in such a bad way. When we take a look at the situation did you clarify to each other you’d be exclusive during the break? Perhaps your partner wasn’t clear on the intentions of the break. Whatever you’re feeling it’s always best to voice it. Tell your partner how it’s made you feel and see if you can moved forward from this. I’m here to listen further if needed.
I am so sorry to hear that. A break is not the end of a relationship . It is about giving space to each other but that does not give you the right of dating someone else . If he had guts to tell you that he hooked up with someone else when you were away you should be strong enough to give up on him because you need to be with someone else who loves you more even in your absence. So girl , search for right guy. You deserve someone who respects you in out of relationship.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2022 12:49pm
You should be informative with your boyfriend. Tell him how you may feel! Honesty is key in relationships! If both of you cant be honest, work on that issue first! Cheating is not an answer for attention! Explain how you feel about what happened and why it hurt you so much. Say as much as you need to say to feel better. You might say, "I feel so hurt and betrayed right now. I trusted you with my heart, and you broke it into a million pieces."
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