My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?
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If this is his first time and it doesn't seem like he would do it again the no don't break up but if he seems like the person to do that then break up
That would be entirely your decision I cant make that for you. It's something you will have to decide on
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2014 9:04pm
I am hearing that your partner was unfaithful. As I am not you, first you should establish how you feeling about it now?
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 2:50pm
in my opinion, it will be a good idea to let he/her go. each of person can have a chance to find the one to make him/her stop looking.
Firstly you should try to talk about it with him/her. If you think he/she is guilty about it and wants another chance then do give it another shot. If it happens again then yes I think the breakup would be the right choice.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 12:45am
Let's think about this for a moment. Can you think of any reason in which cheating is justifiable? Now if the answer is yes, did your boyfriend/girlfriend cheat on you for any of those justifiable reasons. If the answer to that is yes, then I don't see a reason on why you should break up (since it is "justifiable" to you. But unless such is true, what are you waiting for?
Yes, because you will only be cheating yourself out of a better relationship with someone else in the long run. You deserve better than this, love yourself and acknowledge that you have been wronged and disrespected. I will be here to support you if you need any help at all.
that decision is up to you. You just have to work out if you're willing to give him/her another chance..
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 4:45am
At least hear them out, see if it was a misunderstanding or where it went wrong. If your significant other really has no intention to stay together, break it up. Break it up, get over them, and find someone else who is willing to treat you the way you should be. If there was some kind of accident or miscommunication, clear things up and make the final decision - to forgive them or forget them.
It must be painful to have someone close betray you. However, no one can make this decision for you.
It's good to forgive. When the hurt and anger are really intense, it might not be possible, but ideally you let go of the hurt and anger as time passes.
Now, whether or not you should remain romantically involved with a cheater is a whole other question. Forgiving someone who has wronged you doesn't necessarily mean keeping them around so they can wrong you again.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 7:56am
If your partner cheated on you that depends on you weather break up or not but best to hear your par
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 9:31pm
Yes, because you never know if he/she will do it again, they didn't respect you, to avoid getting more hurt than now better end it when it happens
Yes, cheating is never accepted and if you forgive one time it might happen again, even when it does not the feeling of trust if lost forever.
Yes. If someone cheats on you it is not a mistake, its a choice. They knew what they were doing when they did it and they knew they will hurt you when you find out. If they do it once they can do it again.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2016 10:44am
Discuss this with your partner, if he/she openly confesses ask the reason, express yourself out, after that there is no point of you to stay with him/her
That's totally up to you. Some people can accept it as a mistake and move on. Often it shows the lack of regard your BF/GF has for the relationship. Follow your gut and make sure you get respected in the end. Good luck to you!
Anonymous
September 30th, 2015 1:09pm
If your partner cheated on you, you should do what is best for yourself. You're the expert on you. Don't let yourself get torn up over this situation!
Anonymous
March 13th, 2017 5:25am
First things first, respect yourself always. Often it is hard to know exactly what to do immediately after you find out what has happened, and sometimes people rush into decisions. No matter your decision, though, remember that whatever happened is NOT your fault, and there IS someone out there who will not break your heart in this way. Respect yourself
I think you need to ask yourself if you still 100% trust them, if you decide to stay with each other what they did will always be on your mind if you see them texting by themselves or if they are talking with someone else, to be honest it'll come up in every major fight you have. If you trust them fully and believe them and know you guys can get over it together and be faithful then that's good, if not you are only hurting yourself by staying
I would say that it depends on the circumstances. If this was the first and only time it happened and they apologized, perhaps you could forgive them. If it was ongoing and you just recently found out, I think it would be best to end it. You deserve much better and while it may be hard to let go now, you'll likely be glad you did later. You can't find someone who's right for you if you're staying with someone who isn't.
This really depends on you as a couple. The circumstances and how strongly you do feel towards each other. However, I personally believe that if the relationship was strong and both parties truly loved each other cheating would not have even been considered.
It really depends on the people involved. You both need to decide whether moving forward is an option or whether it would be too difficult. Often infidelity can lead to insecurities. If these aren't dealt with properly then it's unlikely you'll be able to move forward.
if you feel your partner is worth it and it was a mistake then you can give it a thought but if they have done it intentionally then they don't deserve a chance
What you should do before you break up is make sure if this is true? You need to talk to your partner and confront him about the problem. It is better to make sure than to take action.
This is a very touchy subject. I would first decide if it was something i was willing to work through with my partner, if i had decided that it was not something i could get over, then yes. You should break up with them because staying with someone who you are not 100% completely comfortable with will damage your happiness, something that is very important in our lives!
Trust is the most important part of any relationship, and after that trust is broken, it takes a lot of time, energy, and dedication to work on building it back up. If you truly believe that working to rebuild your relationship is worth it, and both you and your partner are willing to work at it and make things right, then you should try and continue to work things out. However, if you feel like it isn't worth it, or, if your partner, doesn't want to work things out, or take responsibility for his or her actions, then breaking up is something that you should consider. Stay strong.
That all depends on why they did it and how much you trust them. I would usually say yes unless there are very specific circumstances.
I have just recently had that happen to me. What I did was I asked him if he had been seeing other girls, and thank God he was honest with me. He said that he had, and that he was sorry, and asked if I would give him another chance. I was vulnerable, so I did. I found out that he had cheated on me again, and so after the second time he cheated, we broke up.
If you can not accept it nor willing to forgive if you stay you'll be resenting them instead try to work through if you cant it's best to leave but do what you feel is best
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