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I cheated, should I break up with my partner?

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Last Updated: 06/30/2020 at 3:24am
I cheated, should I break up with my partner?
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Top Rated Answers
CasperHope95
March 20th, 2016 5:07pm
I think you should be honest with your partner and understand how they might feel receiving the news.
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 10:58am
if one of the reasons you cheated on him/her is because you don't love him/her anymore then you should
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 1:58am
Maybe you should have broken up with him before you cheated but You should tell him first and see if there's any chance of him forgiving you; of you want to stay together.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:32am
If you still love the person then you need to be honest with them. It will then be up to them whwt they wanna do and go from there
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 1:04pm
Perhaps, ask yourself. Why did I cheated on my partner? Do I feel guilty? Do I feel bad that I did it? I'm I afraid that I tel her/him I will lose him/her?
carlier231
March 25th, 2016 12:01am
I suggest that you tell your partner, and see how the two of you feel. If it hurts them and/or you, then I recommend that you leave the relationship.
lovelyDreamer51
March 25th, 2016 12:59pm
I think honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship. Would you rather tell your partner yourself or have him find out from somebody else? However your partner reacts to it and what they decide to do is important, and you should give them the space until they decide what they want.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:37pm
i feel you should, unless they decide to give you a second chance, then you should feel grateful. what you did was wrong, and you should end it.
Lozzur
March 27th, 2016 9:39am
You need to have a sit down and think about why you cheated? I personally feel that its hard to come back from cheating. If you were cheated on how would you want to be handled?
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 3:54pm
Don't break up, try and talk about it. If you really want to keep them - tell them what you did, maybe they'll understand and see how it goes.
JasmineJane
April 3rd, 2016 5:09pm
If you have cheated you shouldn't necessarily immediately break up with your partner. The first step is to discuss what has happened with your partner then look into whether or not you would like to continue your relationship with them.
frostyTurtle27
April 5th, 2016 1:31pm
If you really loved your partner, would you have cheated? I think you need to ask yourself which of the two people you actually see yourself having a future with. If you feel guilty, then you should definitely tell him, and see how he reacts. What happens, happens. Whatever feels best to do, go for it. Try and resolve the issue, but don't be upset if your partner reacts badly, because you did cheat and you have to face the consequences.
naturalSoul17
May 24th, 2016 8:08pm
I never ever had any relation with anyone in my up till now life so how can I cheat someone. I will never be in a relationship.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 1:16am
You should have a serious talk with them. Own up to your mistake and your guilt and discuss it. Make the choice together on where the relationship is heading. They may not be able to forgive your betrayal.
Kat140615xx
July 19th, 2016 1:05am
I think you should be honest with your partner, And discuss the issues which has came for you to do such thing, There might be something underlying, So best advice Be open and honest and then you will know the outcome.
Dano88
August 16th, 2016 11:52pm
Did you cheat because you want to leave the relationship? If so, it's better to end it than to continue and hurt your partner more. If not, you may want to come clean and see if it's something that you can both move past.
chanelellierhea5
August 17th, 2016 11:22pm
That all depends on you and your partner. You need to ask yourself why you cheated in the first place, if you still want to be with your partner, and if cheating is something you two can get past and move forward with. I find in most cases when someone cheats, it is because they are missing something in their current relationship. You should ask yourself if your relationship is missing something. Most importantly, you should be open and honest with your partner.
masterkavar2345
September 27th, 2016 10:30pm
This is a very hard question to answer... Sometimes it is hard because of the love you feel for them but in my opinion, yes, trust is hard to acquire but easy to destroy. If they have done it once, what happens if they do it again?
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 8:18pm
Some persons manage to resolve the issue with their partner. So you could try working it out with the person first before you quit and leave feeling unsure if he/she would have left you if they had know
summerlilly2007
January 8th, 2018 2:52pm
try and work things out first, if it was a mistake it may be repairable. talk it through with your partner, and decide what to do, dont be hasty in your decision.
calmPineapple72
February 5th, 2018 7:49am
No, you should not break yup with your partner. just let them know that you did cheat and dont keep it a secret from them. they deserve to know to.
healerhumor
July 10th, 2018 3:07pm
Honesty is the key element to happiness in any relationship. Being honest will help to carry a mind free of anxiety and negativity.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2020 3:24am
it would benefit both you and your partners happiness if you did! sometimes, it’s best to be honest, especially about situations like these. if you have trouble deciding how to end the relationship, or have trouble deciding if you want to end the relationship, put yourself in their shoes and decide how you would want the situation to be handled! if you believe you made a mistake, and it will most definitely not happen again, attempt to talk to them about it! if this has been ongoing, it would most likely be better to end things to spare future problems!