How long does it take to get over someone?
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It depends on how you feel about the person and the relationship, there is no set time for everyone to get over a person.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 7:44pm
There is no time limit on it. Don't feel bad because you feel you are hung up on them still. Take your time to cope with it.
It depends on the individual. If you really want to move on, you will. Your'e responsible for your own happiness
It depends on the desire to get over someone. It can be done immediately or may take some time. It also depends on the importance of the person and what made you want to get over them.
I think its different for each and everyone, because we go through different kind of relationships with different kind of people. For me personally, i think it will be faster to get over someone if i understand the reasons behind the break up and learn things from it to make me a better person.
The amount of time it takes to get over someone is definitely a personal thing and depends on the person. Some people get over people quickly, while others need a long healing period.
It really depends on the relationship you had with that person, but you should let yourself move on
It depends on the person, it can be hard, but you have the power inside to become a better person from it whenever you are ready! :)
It varies depends on how much you like or love your ex or your crush, sometimes it takes no longer that a few weeks and other times months.
It depends from person to person. Some people are fine a few days later,whereas others take as long as years.
'Getting over' someone is 'letting go' of someone. and letting go...it takes as long as you hold on.
Sometimes you don't. But that's okay. Some people were meant to be exceptions in our life for one reason or another. After some time, if you trust yourself to get better, you'll accept that what's done is done, and everything that could have been done has been realized. Take what you can from all of it, because all your tomorrows need every single one of your yesterdays in order to be better than today- no matter how bad our yesterdays have been.
i would say, that it depends. it depends on how much you liked this person. in the case of love, it literally takes forever.
also, we all have different definitions of "getting over someone". sometimes it might be trying to forget the person completely. in this case, you never forget someone you liked or loved.
getting over someone, could also mean "moving on no matter what". this does not mean you forget the person, it only means that life goes on. how long it take for you to move on? well, that depends on you. you have to want to move on and you have to try. once you start trying to move on, it becomes easier to get over someone.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 2:43pm
I've heard people say it takes half the amount of time you were together. So 6 months to get over a 1 year long relationship. But this is all relative and time seems to go by differently for everyone. Do not worry about how little time it may take or how long it may take. It is painful on different levels for everybody, but we must remember this isn't abnormal. Relationships are a part of life for many people. We must remember that a past relationship was a time in our lives and our lives continue to move forward. We must tell ourselves that this doesn't define us. Whether they broke up with you or you broke up with them, life is not stagnant. These events occurred for reasons and remember that you are strong enough to get through this. You are not alone if you ever feel like you aren't strong enough. And you are not unlovable.
There is no time limit. Everyone is different because every relationship is different. Some people talk a week others a year.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 3:44am
It depends on how attached you are/were to them, and how long you were together. But if you've already broken up, than inside, you're already over them.
The answer to this question is relative really.
It differs from person to person.
And, it depends on what you both had between you.
Some just take days and some take lifetimes.
A lot of that depends on the strength of the bond you had and the length of time you were together. Whether you're grieving a romantic relationship, friendship, or familial relationship, the time to get over it will lengthen depending on these factors. Over time it will get easier to deal with the feelings of loss and sadness. And if at any point you feel as though you want to hurt yourself over the feelings, or you feel as though your mental health isn't improving, it's best to reach out to a professional.
For me personally, it takes around the same amount of time me and the person were together. I took about a year to get completely over a one year relationship (no more sadness and triggers), and it's been a year but i'm still not over a 3 years relationship.
Depends on our capacity to list out the flaws about the relationshi we have with that person and get over the person
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:07pm
There is no set time, when you're over someone you know it and you can feel it in yourself. It's not based on time, but experiences.
However long it takes for you to realize that you don't need that person in your life to be happy. You can create your own happiness!
There's no definitive period for "getting over" someone. Even the idea of "getting over" something is quite illusory and sets a false expectation which diminishes the real difficulty of that process, as it frames your emotional struggle as something you should just forget about. Rather than "getting over" something, try and "get through" something instead, which includes a process of working through your emotional issues in order to secure some kind of emotional /psychological closure that is directed at understanding why the relationship ended / was not working out. The ultimate goal is to reach a state of "acceptance" as opposed to "just forgetting about it all". How long this process takes can depend on :
1) the depth of emotional investment you had in that person
2) how proactively you work on moving on from those emotions
3) whether you have a positive & supportive network and resources to guide you towards a better place
I depends from the person and from the situation. If the relationship has been serious and long, or if there just were a lot of feelings then the getting over-process can take some time. It doesn't matter how long it will take, the most important part is that you'll get over the person on a way that you're able to move on in your life!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2014 6:04am
There is not definite time limit. "Getting over someone" depends on you and whether or not your a willing to move forward with your life. If not, then you will sit in slump and continue to feel upset. Whenever you are ready to head in a more positive direction, then you will.
The time it takes to get over the loss of someone you love depends on a number of factors and can't be predicted, nevertheless, it's important to realize that the feelings you are experiencing will eventually fade and you will be able to move on with your life and form new, loving relationships.
It depends on how much time did you expend with that person and how much did you love them and what was your situation. Sometimes it can take little time, but sometimes it takes so much time, it all depends.
The answer for this is dependent on you...how much good you can squeeze out from a particular situation and how much grateful you can be, for a situation, shall indirectly lead you to your solution..
Took me several months to let him go, but he's still there somewhere in my mind even now. Like.. I definitely don't wish for anything anymore again, but I never stop caring. He needed only a few weeks (less?) to get over me though.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2014 6:26pm
Depends on the person, really.......................................................................
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