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How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?

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Last Updated: 04/11/2022 at 1:13am
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SenpaiXD
April 20th, 2015 10:49am
When you are more happy with your memories than the person in front of you.
SnugglyPanda
May 16th, 2015 4:31pm
Remember that a healthy relationship has benefits to both partners! If you feel like the costs outweigh the benefits for you, you should consider whether this relationship is having a good impact on your mental/physical health. It's normal to have problems, disagreements, and to go through rough patches. But do you see a potential, realistic bright future? Do you have some common goals? Is your partner receptive to this future and goals? Ask yourself whether you and your partner can communicate efficiently; if this is not case, ask yourself whether it's possible to change that. If not, perhaps the relationship isn't very very viable. If your partner has a tendency to disregard your feelings and your thoughts, maybe the relationship isn't very viable. If you feel like there is a persistent tension between you that resists all attempts to fix it, then perhaps the relationship is doing more wrong than good. And finally, do you see yourself being in the present situation for one more year? Two, five, ten years? This can help you decide whether staying in a relationship is worth it or not.
sincerelyyours17
November 23rd, 2015 5:38am
Honestly, you never know, it's like your mind comes up with these excuses that account for them hurting you or the relationship being the way it is. So I knew I had to break up my ex when I started questioning my feelings and thoughts. Also, that's when I began looking for something beyond the relationship. It's such a dilemma but if you are young(I am not it is okay to break hearts) but it is okay to break up if the relationship no longer makes you happy or helps you grow as a person. I would say cultivate friendships instead because that is the foundation for any good relationship.
Concinnant
January 13th, 2015 6:15am
It's time to break up with someone when you no longer feel comfortable being in a relationship with them.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 2:41am
When he start to ignoring you and never consider your feeling anymore. When both of you always fight over a small matter . When you don't feel anything toward him
Drimezan
August 31st, 2015 2:42pm
Parting ways with your partner is almost always difficult especially when both of you have shared so many memories together [both good and bad] and it is not in you to be the first one to walk away from relationships because you care enough not to hurt someone else. Before anything else, be sure that it is what really wanted to do. When there are hesitations, consider thinking about it some more before deciding to part ways with your partner but you will know when it is time for you and your partner to go on separate ways when: [1] You and your partner no longer connect with each other in a deeper and more intimate level (this meant that both of you are no longer on the same page with regard to your values, beliefs and priorities in life). [2] You and your partner no longer try to work together as a team to make the relationship last (this means that one (or both) of you no longer care enough to resolve any conflicts that emerges in your relationship). There are other ways to tell but this is usually the most common reasons. Please remember that it is never good to go on separate ways when It is due to your emotions (meaning you just feel that you don't love that person anymore). Emotions are always on the spur of the moment. Perhaps you feel that there's something missing in the relationship and because of that you'll want to end it without even trying to resolve it together with your partner first to see what else could be done to make your relationship work. It is good to remember this: "Never let the sun go down on your anger [Ephesians 4:26]" or to put it simply, never let any conflicts go unresolved at the end of the day. Try to resolve it together first before anything else.
ButterflysReflief
July 20th, 2015 9:11am
When you are not happy with that person anymore or vise versa. When you can't make each other happy.
gracefulUnicorns50
July 6th, 2015 7:25am
When your not happy. When you feel the relationship has gone left. When nothing is the same anymore if he hits you. Or if he or she cheats.
liwenh
June 30th, 2015 1:50am
When they physically and/or mentally abuse you. Trust your instincts and do not be afraid to be independent
HereIsToUs
June 18th, 2015 1:12pm
When you feel you would be better off without them, and can imagine a future without them in it with you.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 2:51am
It is time to break up with someone if they hurt you, annoy you to the point the might make you dread seeing them, when you don't like them anymore, when they make you uncomfortable, and you don't feel safe, and when you feel it is the right time to break up.
kimmy269
June 4th, 2015 7:04am
I think there are certain signs that sort of hints that a break up is very much needed. The pros and cons in a relationship can better help you make that decision. Ultimately its when you feel that this relationship is toxic rather than good.
TheLovableSunshine
May 16th, 2015 7:52pm
When all you ever think is about the painful things. When every time you look at him, all you feel is pain. When everything isn't the way it used to be for you anymore.
MissJohanna
May 17th, 2015 3:09pm
This is a very relative question which has not eact answer. The best thing to do is to analyze whatever happened that made you think like this in the first place and discuss what you're going through with your partner or with someone close to you.