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How do I stop myself from texting him?

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How do I stop myself from texting him?
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Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 1:15am
Delete his number and all sent/received texts concerning him from your phone. If you have both broken up and you do not plan on getting back together, then do not keep a record of this number. Do not write it down elsewhere because you may be tempted to look it up again. If you still feel the need to after this and find yourself searching for a way to make contact, text or call your friends instead. If you have no one to text, call or hang out with then go ahead and make a new friend. In fact, make many! Fill your life with wonderful, positive experiences and people and get back into old activities or take part in new ones. You could even start a journal where you write about your feelings - that way you don't have to discuss whatever is going on with him. Sometimes it can be beneficial to simply fill our time with as many amazing activities as possible until these feelings drift away and become a thing of the past.
Anonymous
January 15th, 2016 11:17pm
The best thing to do is to try and stay occupied. If you can't try opening up a word document and typing out all the things you want to say to him. You can even write out the responses you may get. Look over what you've written and ask yourself what you would achieve by sending it.
MrEthical5241
January 27th, 2016 1:19pm
Well, do something else that makes you happy other than to keep in touch with him. :) Maybe like make cookies( ^ _ ^ )/, Watch Youtube, Or become a listener and help others who are in need of help and a friend ( ^ _ ^ )
kindPineapple32
February 4th, 2016 6:58am
In order for you to stop texting this guy you should erase his contact and block him try to text other people
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 8:27am
Simplest way? Turn off the phone and disconnect for a little while. If you can't do that, write down on a sticky note that you don't want to text him and stick it to your phone to remind yourself. Deleting phone numbers is sometimes and effective solution, but not always practical.
onedirection1213
February 23rd, 2016 6:42pm
delete him from your phone . and dont even think about him. if you think about him do something else.
Kimberley28
May 9th, 2016 1:14pm
Wait 24 hours before you hit send. If your experience is anything like mine, you'll be glad you didn't hit send the next day. Instead of texting, consider writing an email. Don't send it though for 24 hours though!!! In my experience, a text or any kind of communication sent in haste has been a (sometimes huge) mistake but I was never unhappy with my decision NOT to send something after I'd waited 24 hours. I've kept a lot of the emails I didn't send and some are downright comical after a few years have passed and, at the same time, painful to read. When I was younger, I was desperate to keep people in my life who I later would realize were not worth the time and effort. Nowadays I focus on doing things that make me happy instead of hanging on to people who clearly didn't hold me in as high a priority as I held them. Self-forgiveness is key.
Winter
June 9th, 2016 6:25am
What I always like to do is turn my phone on silent, then turn it face down and put it somewhere out of sight. Then I make myself go do something distracting. Depending on why you don't want to text him-- let's say, because you know he's a bad person or if you have been having trouble and you want some space, you can list the reasons NOT to text him. Do this when you're feeling particularly angry at him or empowering about yourself. Make sure you don't hold back. Then, in your moments of weakness, read this list to remind yourself of all the reasons not to.
tusharbansal
June 10th, 2016 9:35am
Make yourself busy buy doing things you love thinks that make you happy find happiness in little things ;)
cliffbars
April 3rd, 2017 11:38pm
Do yourself a favor and remove his number. If possible, block his number by contacting your Carrier. Find something else to do in place of texting him and each time this is done, reward yourself with something pleasurable.
Becca0926
July 27th, 2015 4:36pm
Self-control. If you need to delete his number, do it. If it gets to the point where you need to block the number, do it. If you truly feel that you need to stop talking to this person, take the steps that are needed to eliminate the temptations.
hellokitty23
August 24th, 2015 12:33pm
Remind yourself about why you should text not every time you want to. keep distracted and try out things that make you feel better or cheer you up!
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 12:13am
From personal experience I found one of the only way to do so was to delete his number from my phone.
DelightfulGalaxies
December 30th, 2015 8:17pm
Watch tv, listen to music, take a bath. Distract yourself from him. Block his number or just ignore him. Don't look at his social media.
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 4:23pm
Don't make him further reasons to text you back. It may be the cause why you can't stop yourself from texting him.
MissLuthien
September 12th, 2017 10:25pm
Delete his number, ask someone you trust to help you and discourage you- if you want to stop talking to them for good, you can even block their number via calling the phone company rather than just by your device. That way you don't need to keep their number on your phone to keep it blocked. If you're asking this question you know you shouldn't be, so try and remember that when you think about doing it.
PracticalMaple
December 11th, 2015 12:01pm
remember what the reason is that you feel like you shouldn't and just focus on that reason, put your phone down and do something to take your mind off of him
softMermaid10
December 12th, 2015 9:51am
Channel the energy for other things in life. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. Consider joining a support group where you can talk to others in similar situations. Thinking too much about texting him or wanting to text him will raise your stress levels, reduce your concentration, and get in the way of your work, relationships, and overall health. Don't be afraid to get outside help if you need it.
daisdais
December 23rd, 2015 3:59pm
Delete his phone number, delete him from social media. If you still have him in these aspects of your life you will feel the need to check up and talk to him. Instead of talking to him, put your phone down and do something solely for YOU! Go for a run, draw a picture, take a long hot bath. It will help you forget and it will make you feel great :) .
siribear20
December 24th, 2015 4:10pm
busy yourself with hobbies or going out with friends and just concentrating on yourself. sooner or later you will be surprised that you will wake up one day and he isnt the first person on your mind.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 3:08pm
Realize that you need time to sort yourself out and that time shall be spent wisely. It can be hard at times but it is never impossible. Start small. Try keeping your phone out of your reach whenever you have the sudden urge to text him. Distract yourself for a while. Curl up in your favorite arm chair/sofa/bed with a book or a drawing pad. Or just with an iPod. Listen to music. Drink your favorite tea/coffee. Make sure that you treat yourself. Among all this, you'll feel a wee bit better about yourself, about what you're doing and it will serve to distract you from that sudden impulse of texting him. You'll be able to engage yourself in something much more healthier. Reading, of course, helps. It dunks you in a different world where your problems ease up.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 12:46am
delete his number, cause if its not there you cant text, block him off social media anything like that make sure you have no number written down if you do rip them up, hard at first but it really helps and makes it harder for you at the time when you brake down and feel the urge to text him. WILL POWER
bountifulWings18
January 10th, 2016 3:00pm
Engage yourself in the activities you enjoy doing and think about what are the things you like, talk to someone.
sereneCreature61
February 3rd, 2016 8:18pm
Distract yourself with other activities you enjoy! If you don't have a hobby yet, find one :) This is the perfect time to focus on yourself and explore what interests you could have. Try to focus on something that is constructive and has a goal you can finish. Exercise is excellent in this respect, with the added bonus that it releases endorphins and can make you tired.
kayyyb
February 5th, 2016 12:44am
Distract yourself with your hobbies. Doing things you love keeps your mind occupied and helps you not to get hurt. Spend time with family, do work, think about all the negative things that could happen if you did text him. Think about what's going to be best for you, and do that.
VoicesofHope
February 7th, 2016 8:22pm
First of all, put your phone away. If you can take it any time you won't be able to stop. If you already did that think about something diffrent that won't make you think about him.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2016 2:47am
Ask your friend to delete his number (so that you wont have time to memorize it) or putting the phone somewhere you cant reach everytime you had tge urge to text.
Aemelliah
April 13th, 2016 1:33pm
delete his contact,delete his pictures,delete him or block him from all your social medias
Kay2134
April 20th, 2016 6:48pm
See some friends. Make yourself be busy so that you are not constantly thinking about texting him. :-)
shibainu
April 24th, 2016 3:46am
Stay away from your phone and look for something to do. Take long showers, go for a drive, watch a movie, hang out with your friends, go for a jog. Try to not think of him.