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You can never know about it. It just happens. It's a way of life. Especially in case of partners, you will always find a better partner than the last one. It's no magic, it's the experience and knowledge from the past which works to find you a better partner. Your sub-conscious mind is constant working to identity that better partner only in context to the previous ones. It doesn't necessarily mean that is the best possible someone you will ever find. It only gets better with time. Infact having to go through the process is a blessing in disguise. The pain is worth it.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2019 9:03pm
There are a lot of fish in the sea, you just have to be patient. Sometimes you are in a relationship with someone and it isn't the person you will spend the rest of your life with, so patience is key when it comes to finding your other half. It takes more time for some people and for some it doesn't, but for now be happy with the people you know and that are around you. That person will come when you least expect it! You will be thankful and will also congratulate yourself for waiting. Good luck and keep being positive!
The world is a big place filled with people with the capacity to love, and it certainly sounds like you have love to return. I understand how heartbreak can seem like the end of the world. I’ve recently experienced a breakup as well. But I find that staying focused on my own goals and passions puts me in environments where I’m bound to meet like-minded people who are in line with the type of lifestyle I’m striving for. It’s good to think of your ex as a lesson preparing you to be a better and more knowledgeable partner for your next love. Do you have any hobbies where you could potentially meet someone new?
Well, of course you will find someone else. C'mon, the world is full of people! Even if you are shy, you will meet the right person for you.
And, actually, I think that everyone deserve the real love. You know, I'm talking about that love that makes you feel the best, that respect you, that makes you feel comfortable and free. If that doesn't happen, if you don't feel like that, plaese break up. Please go on seeking for your real love. Cause everyone has a soulmate in this world. You just have to find him/her. :)
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Truthfully, no one can know with absolute certainty that they will find someone but that is the thing about us humans. We find certainty and defy the odds even when things look bleak and the world tells us it is impossible. I am a cynic when it comes to romantic love but let me ask you this: How sure are you that you want a romantic partner? There are people who just want a platonic partner or none at all. They are all valid. So for you my love, you will find whom you're looking for but perhaps not in the way you expect. I believe in you
I don't know if you have heard this theory/story but I will share it anyway. This is what made me believe that everyone has a soulmate, maybe it will help you too.
So, earlier, it was said that each 'person' was half man and half woman. Imagine like two bodies merged as one person.
This one time, God decided to cut the two apart and thus created man and woman. People, thus, now spend their lives subconsciously looking for that other part- their 'soulmate'; a person for every person.
There is one more thing which I believe.
So, when you break it off with someone, it is not the end of the world. We dont know what is in store for us in the future. Maybe we will meet again or maybe we will find a new, better person.
Don't be let down that you lost a person. There is someone out there. Dont you worry. The universe will work its magic.
Finding someone else is the same as finding a new friend. Then there is the romantic element in addition. So a smiling and positive attitude and interest in others are surely the keys to finding a new partner. The romantic element will soon follow if there is attraction. Fear of non-acceptance is not helpful, but tact and caution in selecting a new friend is okay. Not all new friends need to be found at the bar. It can be at the gym, the grocery, the volunteer center, at church, or pretty much anywhere else. Bad previous experiences are unfortunate history. Reliving them with someone new is probably not pleasant for them. Being open and honest with your new friend is certainly important.
As someone who has been through heartbreak more times than I care to think about, there will always be someone else.
Think about the times you've experienced before when you felt hopeless. Perhaps other relationships that haven't gone as you'd planned. You got past it, didn't you? You may have felt devastated and broken, but eventually, it got easier.
Try to think about why you feel you will never meet anyone else. Or, better, why you feel you need to meet someone else. Perhaps the break up has made you question your worthiness? Do you feel it was your fault? Do you not feel good enough to meet someone else?
You will meet someone else, guaranteed. Absolutely. But it is worth pondering why you feel it is important you do meet someone else. What is it that another person can give you that you can't give yourself?
It is natural to fear being left alone.
The power to meet others rests with me and my willingness to remain open to new experiences and new people. When I am ready, i will give myself permission to try to connect with others. I will give myself permission to make mistakes in those connections, learn from those mistakes, and to make better connections.
There are many people I've not yet found, but I will find some of them, when i am ready. Many of those people most likely feel like I feel - afraid they too will not find anyone else like them.
The question is not if you will find someone else, it's what will you do in the meantime to become the person they truly deserve. It is important to better yourself so that when your future love does come along, you are ready and mentally able to fulfill the relationship rather than clinging to what ifs.
Over many years we have been told there are plenty of fish in the sea, and what do you think is going to attract that special one? It is important to learn to be confident so your partner can have a level of security with you. It is important to learn patience, and taking the lessons from your previous relationship in order to better yourself.
The truest answer is that you don't know, but don't worry about it. You are complete without the addition of another person, and it isn't essential to have someone despite what society may make it seem like. It is better to be alone than be with someone that makes you feel alone, and things will work out for you in a way you might not have imagined. If you do feel like there is no way to be happy without someone, just think about the population. There are over 7 billion people out there, and it is highly unlikely you won't find someone else.
Anonymous
August 30th, 2020 7:22pm
You don't know but if you find yourself before, you'll find someone without even trying.
While in my teenage years, everyone around had a companion but I didn't and now I see why. I wasn't able to, I needed to find my wellbeing before, I went through terrible years of anxiety, and I couldn't focus on anything else's but keeping myself alive. It's been hard, because as I get older I have not achieve relationships milestones and I'm experiencing firsts times at an age that I should not be doing that. But I'm okay with it, I've grown to love myself and I can tell I am who I am because of what I've gone through.
Would I find someone else? I don't know, but now that I found myself I can focus on living and maybe someday we'll meet and I'll be ready, not worrying about keeping alive or just breathing, but how I like your company.
Assuming that this is about moving on/break ups. The world is filled with many individuals that perfectly fits your type. Do not over think about finding someone, the future has it set for you. There will always be someone for you who will make you the happiest and fit all your interests. I am no match maker, but I know that we have to let everything flow. Starting with a positive mindset will help you mentally then physically. Having the right mindset will lead you to see the world in a better view. Keep your head up my friend.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2020 7:09am
Love comes in several forms and shapes. You might want to rush into a relationship feeling like you are missing out. However, there will come a time when you will find someone you will really care about. You might start as being friends, classmates, and maybe even as co-workers. There will always be someone waiting for you in the future. Take it slowly, build yourself, emerge yourself in your hobby and interest. That certain someone will come naturally as you start to learn more about yourself and build yourself. Take it step by step. Who knows? maybe someone you will end up with is closer than you know.
You most definitely just work on yourself and you will eventually attract whatever you radiate. The more confident and radiant you are in yourself, and the more loving you are towards yourself, you will, in a way, manifest this energy into existence, particularly in the form of a human, haha! I don't want to seem like I'm trying too hard to be deep, but it just works that way. Sometimes you might attract a lot of loving people, or a perfect significant other, but in order to maintain a healthy relationship with them, you need to be completely satisfied and comfortable in your own skin.
Anonymous
October 17th, 2020 2:16am
there are over 7 billion people on this earth. someone out there other then them is going to feel romantic feelings for you. and sure, you may live in a small town, but you can always move away from it when youre older or even now. nothing is stopping you. nothing except yourself. you should try and get out there, step out of your comfort zone, youve got to do it at some point. and when you do, you’ll feel great because you’ll be able to make friends easier. can you imagine it? being an extrovert, with a lot of friends, being that one person who everyones got eyes for? that could be you.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2020 2:21pm
I believe there is somebody out there for everybody. Through your life experiences and travels that life will take you through on this adventure you will run into so many different people all from different walks of life. The interactions and moments you share with other people will blossom sometimes into friendship and other times it will open up to much more then that. Give yourself the chance always approach it with an open mind and it will come to you. Allow yourself to freely converse and open up and you will be amazed in how life can play out and open up beautiful relationships.
You won't know for sure until you do something about it. Either you live your life waiting for something to happen or you live making it happen. You got only one ticket to life. Make it spectacular!
If you are heartbroken right now, I feel ya. Been there, crushed my heart to the core. I know how it feels to lose someone. Sometimes, for our sake, we just have to let go and thank him or her for the memories shared with you.
Rebuild yourself from toxic relationships, learn from your mistakes, and continually grow as a person. Keep that hope in you. Eventually, you will meet "the one". If not, well you have done a terrific job doing a lot of wonderful things and living life as coolest as can be. WIn-Win!
You don’t know, but you can hope to? Having someone isn’t always the best solution to the problem. You have to be happy and ok on your own. Never let anyone else be the source of your happiness, let them add to it and be your own happiness. The sooner you stop relying on someone else to make you feel worthy, the sooner you’ll realise how free you are to do as you please. Remember, everything happens for a reason, and one day you’ll understand why you’re going through everything you are. Just be patient and trust the process
Because you will (:
There is never a pot without a lid in the world. You just have to find the right person! I know it may seem cliche but its true, love is a very weird thing, when two people mutually fit in, like a puzzle piece, and that makes love so bizarre. I know your worried about not finding anyone, but you will okay? I know you will. You got this, don´t stress so much about it, but keep an eye open for them. I wish you the best of luck and I know you will do well.
Anonymous
February 20th, 2021 5:22am
You will. Moving on is hard because we feel we left something behind. But you also need to rediscover who you are after being a part of someone else. Learn to be with yourself and to like who you are. Be honest to you about you. Once that door is open, you will start to see clearly and others will see you too. But make sure you learn to love who you are, then find what you want, then focus on what you need. Someone else will appear for you, new journeys are not that far ahead. Be open to who the Universe sends, they might be right in front of you,
Anonymous
March 12th, 2021 11:40am
To begin answering this question I would first like to state a fact. To be honest we don't even know how long we as individuals, are in this world. Hence there are a lot of things in this world that we don't know about but we still go on right? the believe and faith in universe or just yourself that you are a good person no matter what you will meet someone and it can be anytime or anywhere is the way. Always remember what is meant for you will always reach you. Therefore don't worry about finding someone else rather focus on finding yourself first if you think you have found yourself then just keep on doing good for the society and someday you will definitely meet someone.
We will always find someone else even if we think not, there are too many people in the world who can be compatible with us, sometimes even better than the previous one, for example when I broke up with ex I thought that I was not going to return with anyone else but I am with someone else who is much better that is why hope should not be lost. we must always trust us and that it is never too late for a new opportunity, As one phrase says, more people live ahead and with better neighbors. believe me you will find someone better.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2021 3:24pm
Different things determine what we consider to be important things about the kinds of people we would like to call our romantic partners or life partners. A long-term relationship or romantic relationship should be a healthy relationship. It may take months for a man or woman to know the truth about someone, especially in a new relationship. A loving relationship does have it's ups and downs but soul mates can get through red flags or hard instances though it may take a long time. True love or real love is about getting through the hard times together and romantic love is something every single person desires. An image of the perfect someone else might be based on objects or other needs, but an area to consider is that you can always use new experiences to find someone else, even if it is for the first time. Support from family members or best friends helps reassure your confidence
There is no guarantee to this except believing that what you bring to the table will be enough for someone to stay. YOU are the most permanent thing in your life and being yourself will attract the people you are seeking with time. Finding someone else can mean so many things, but it really comes down to focusing your energy into a few relationships that will really help you when you need it the most. Finding someone can also fall into the category of growing with an existing person and also a part of finding others is applying yourself in life and taking the first step to reach out.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2021 2:28pm
You just have to trust yourself in a way that knowing there are plenty of fish in the sea, and one of them is for you. I understand right now it does seem hard, but you have to be patient and you have to know that it takes a lot of time. Yours will come eventually but you can't rush it, as it won't feel right if you’re not ready. Also, its all your decision, you'll know it's right because it'll feel right and thats what matters; not what other people think, or wat other people are doing, it should count for you.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2021 2:53am
How do you know you won't? 😉 Life is very unpredictable and surprising and I personally believe that along the way we will meet other people that can make us feel happy again. I think all loves are different and we can't compare them, but that doesn't mean that if you lose someone you will not find someone else. You can grief about the person you love so you get through it, acknowledge and accept your emotions, don't runaway from them because if you do, you won't heal. Have hope. Don't isolate yourself. And with time and an open heart someone special will show up in your life.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2021 7:19pm
There are billions of people in this world therefore there is bound to be someone out there who is willing to be there for me and support me through my troubles. I have also experienced friendships and relationships that come and go, that is what life is all about, experiencing change. I know this means that new people will be brought into my life and love me for who I am. I can also say that I myself, am there for my friends and people who need someone so there must be other people who have this care and compassion.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2021 8:29pm
Just because one relationship didn’t work it doesn’t mean there is no one for you, past relationships that didn’t work helps us to learn to grow to evolve to get ready to meet the right person and not everyone we meet it’s meant to stay forever each one of them has something to helps us to get ready, it might be discouraging at the beginning but take the positive with you cherries it, and the negative take it as a lesson, love your self the way you know you deserve it be happy with yourself there is someone for you probably going trough their own path thinking when will they meet the one as well!
(Everything I write is just personal experience and thoughts, you don't have to listen to it blindly)
Well, splitting with someone is very hard, especially if you've been with them a long time. It feels like there's a void in your life, and you feel incomplete without them.
Suddenly there's this feeling that you need someone to fill in that void, and you get anxious that you may never find someone.
Its a very rough patch to go through, its a feeling of genuine loss. This is the point where people tend to go for rebounds.
The way I overcome it is giving myself time. Of course it'll take time to heal that void, but your mind is more powerful than you think. The brain can adjust the neurons if you even lose a body part (Merzenich et. al., 1984). You may never stop loving them, but they'll no longer be a void you need to fill.
If you feel content with yourself and your independence, then you have a chance to look for a partner. In the case, you don't find someone, at least you'll be secure with yourself that it wouldn't fill you with dread.
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