How do I know I should break up with my boyfriend or girlfriend?
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If you are unhappy being with them, if you have tried to work things out between you, main thing is to talk to one another and see how you both are feeling, if you have worked and things arnt working I would say it would be time to break up
If you're not feeling the right passion, if you're chronically unhappy and the relationship is full of unresolved conflict or if there is evidence of abusive behaviour then that's definitely the way to go. There are many ways to break up with a person in order to remain peaceful.
If you don't feel comfortable in the relationship or with the person anymore it is probably a sign of growing apart :)
When both of your feelings have changed for one another. a relationship is always a 50/50. If you feel that one of you is drifting apart, talk it out let them know. Lack of communication can destroy a relationship.
When you no longer feel you love them they way you used to or when things just don't feel to be in the right place. If you have talked to them about how you feel and nothing has changed then it is time to move on.
The time you start questioning your relationship is when you should start thinking of breaking up. You should write down the reasons why you should stay and the reason why you should leave. If the reasons why you should leave are more then you know what you have to do.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2016 5:09pm
This is entirely based on you. I can't give all the answers, but go off how you feel. If you can find more reasons to not be in that relationship than in it, that is a good sign to break it off
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 12:33am
I think you may kind of know deep down inside what you are feeling. What makes you doubtful? What is the problems that are worrying you? Have you tried talking it out with your boyfriend and girlfriend and have an honest discussion about where you think you are at? Sometimes a good understanding of where each other is at can help us look forward. Hope you can find your path!
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 3:45am
Do they make you happy? Do you like to be around them? Do they show that they care about you? Ask some of these questions and similar ones. Make sure you are feeling loved and cared for in the relationship.
If you are unhappy. If you don't talk anymore or laugh. If you argue more than you don't. If you find yourself wanting someone else.
if you have been more sad than happy in the relationship, then you should evaluate your relationship. it is always better to talk to your partner and communicate with them the issues which are bothering you and above all let them know that you are considering the possibility of a separation, so that it doesnt come as a shock to them when you do break up..
When the memories you had with them start to feel better than actually being with them.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 3:27am
The moment you feel like the relationship is not working anymore. When you feel distant and everything's just off. Or when you feel their treatment isn't something you like, it may be time to consider a separation.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 4:37am
When you are no longer interested in his/her life, and when you tend to realize that you are falling out of love with him/her, its really time to break up because holding onto a person whom you don't like anymore is not good for both of you.
If being in a relationship seems like a task or is painful, its time to get out. While love does require work, it should be mutually beneficial and enjoyable to all involved. If you feel you are making all the sacrifices or if you feel your partner is not treating you with the respect/love you deserve, then you need to really reevaluate the relationship. Remember, you are the one who decides how you should be treated and you should never have to compromise your own happiness or wellbeing.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 5:53pm
If you do not have feelings for your significant other anymore or feel like you don't want to be around them then that should be a sign that you should break up with your other half
In my personal experience, I always knew when to break up with my partner when these things happened:
A) Boredom towards the other person much too early into the relationship
B) Their intentions became obviously negative and opposite of mine
C) Their happiness started to always be put before mine
D) I once caught my long-term lover in an affair, and found that it had been prolonged with three other women (that we know of) our whole three-year relationship. I played it off, and then I ended up breaking his heart
Point is.. I guess whenever I knew it was truly not worth my time, the relationship, or when I was in too much pain to go forward in the relationship, I got out quick.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 11:11am
If you feel like it's not working out or if there are too many fights..I suggest you to break up with them
if you feel nothing, if you are with them for superficial reasons such as sex, things they buy for you, the way they look. if they abuse you. Never let someone take advantage of you and for the sake of both of your feelings, never take advantage of someone else either.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2016 4:45am
If you don't feel safe, supported, or comfortable with your significant other than it is probably for the best you should break up with them.
If the relationship is in any way abusive, be it physical, emotional or verbal. A relationship should not continue if there is no mutual trust and respect.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2016 10:51pm
If you don't feel anything for them or if they are hurting you, then you should definitely break up with them.
You should invite them to a lunch date and start talking and tell them you both need to move on from eachohter
Anonymous
March 10th, 2016 2:15am
You know it when you stop feeling the same way you did before when you two had just started. You just know it.
When you no longer feel comfortable to tell them openly about the relationship, it can get pretty hard without thorough communication . I would suggest that even if you don't always feel that passion you had when you first got together , it died t necessarily mean to break up; but if you feel that things just won't work out and that nothing is benefiting you in the relationship, it's time to move on and open the discussion of the break up
when the pain of holding on is greater than the pain of letting go then its time to let go. Be brave and also do whats best for YOU!
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 7:36pm
if they ever make you feel like you aren't respected or valued,if they ever make you feel like you aren't respected or valued
You should do it face to face. And trying not to start a fight cause of it. Maybe it could be also good to talk about what to do next and what kinda relationship do you want to have with eachother in the future
For me its like I just know in my core, even if I don't want to admit it. I think that's a kind of knowing that western society or even modern society doesn't trust, but its super important if you ask me in relationships. Also you can watch your intentions around that person -- if they're mostly pure, that's a good sign. But if they're sinister, or manipulative, that would be a red flag to me.
You know if you don't feel happy anymore or if they don't treat you right anymore. Do what makes you happy.
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