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How do I get over wanting to contact my ex?

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Anonymous
October 30th, 2014 6:22am
Ask yourself what the purpose of contacting your ex and what you even plan to say at all. If you have no idea what to say, it's best not to talk to them. As well remind yourself, it's over with. Why bother with them at all if you still feel hurt by the break up.
Uniqueg
October 30th, 2014 9:29pm
Breakups are hard and feelings just don't away because the relationship did, sometimes you have to go through the phases of calling your ex to get through it.
PlumPewter
October 30th, 2014 10:04pm
I had to realize that my ex was a great person, but was also a human being with flaws of her own. Because she left me when I still had feelings for her, it made it hard to remember when she did or said things that bothered me. Remembering that she was great but, like everyone is ultimately, humanly flawed made it easier to put her aside and seek out a new relationship.
Teirris
October 31st, 2014 10:04pm
Well the first step to me is to get rid of all contact. Like deleting his e-mail, number, instagram, facebook, or anything else so you don't accidentally get reminded by your ex name.
HonestBunny
June 29th, 2015 3:56pm
It is never easy breaking up, you have become accustomed to having another person at your availability for everything and then it stops. Keeping busy can help you avoid contacting your ex and may take your mind off of them as you attempt to move on. Find a new hobby, volunteer, and focus on self as you transition to this new stage of life without your ex. Give yourself time as well as permission to talk it out when you feel like you want to contact them, so often we as people feel guilty about to still harboring feelings for a person when we know it’s over when in reality it’s very human of us. The pain of a breakup will be there for a while but accepting it and trying to move in a different direction can help you avoid the need to reach out.
Pandette
November 16th, 2014 8:43am
I think you should be asking yourself this question. Why did you break up with your ex in the first place? What made you want to stop speaking to your ex or contacting them? Do you believe you made the right decision? Sometimes all we need is a little bit of self-reflection.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2014 5:55pm
Well, concentrate on your life. Do things. Go out and have fun. Maybe find a new person. Just get your mind clear.
beautifulRecipe32
November 19th, 2014 6:01pm
Blocking or removing their information from your timeline on social media helps. Or even having space from all social media altogether and focusing on yourself.
Anonymous
November 20th, 2014 6:19pm
to move on, you need to not contact your ex...concentrate on other things that will make you a better person. Delete negative people from your life.
AaronListener
April 23rd, 2015 8:54pm
Think of why he is your ex. Think of why it didn't work out in the first place. Don't pu yourself through the emotions again. They wasn't worth it first time.
JOSHlovesyou
April 25th, 2015 4:20am
Its difficult to get over the urge to talk to this person. besides being a lover, your partner was also your friend. its up to the individual to come to terms with the breakup and realize that they are better off without that relationship. there is a reason it ended after all
Everyonedeservesavoice
May 23rd, 2015 10:38am
You could try to delete their number or write a king list if all the negative characteristics your ex has and realise why you're not together