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How can you unlove someone?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 3:20pm
How can you unlove someone?
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Top Rated Answers
Mayonnais
June 30th, 2018 11:26pm
You don't . however time always heals the wound , just give yourself time to heal and fill your time with positive activities like learning a new skill you always wanted to learn or workout in the gym .
brightsunrise
May 9th, 2018 1:10pm
One simple word: time. Although it may not seem like it, I can assure you time heals everything. You're gonna find someone who deserves you and loves you for who you are. You're gonna stop thinking about time hat person who hurt you so deeply. You just need time.
Ky23
May 12th, 2018 3:31am
There is no way to unlove someone. Don't try to run from negative feelings so swiftly or memories from any past relationship. These things can teach us lessons or help us to understand ourselves better. You can't reverse the clock or forget past feelings. Believe me when I say I know the feeling of wanting to run away from it all and put up walls just because one thing or one person didn't work out. You can do everything absolutely right and some relationships just don't last. That's called life. Not all relationships are mean't to last and while endings can be bittersweet, they show us that something better is coming.
SpontaneousDragonfly
May 13th, 2018 9:33pm
Falling in love is hard, and that makes unloving someone even harder. You have to remind yourself why you are unloving them constantly. You are trying to start over and lose that feeling you previously had for this person. Sometimes you need a distraction from things that can remind you of that person, and sometimes you just have to face the music. But, all of these things lead to the same thing, you just have to keep moving forward.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2018 2:58am
Moving on is the first step. Understanding why you broke up is the second. There'll always be other.
goldenHeart58
April 23rd, 2016 8:04pm
I am not sure you can un-love someone totally; but time really does heal and even though its hard; you can learn to move on without them. Talking about your loss and pain will help you and help you realise that it takes two to cause relationship problems. Admit what you did wrong as well as what they did. Try not to feel bitter as that creates anger and sadness. Try to keep doing things that you enjoy and seeing friends etc Carry on as normal if you can! The feeling will pass.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 10:56pm
First step is stop trying to. It can't be forced, otherwise it will keep coming back. Start by taking your mind away from it, dedicate that energy to something else like study, work, hobbies, anything that makes you go foward. All the energy you used to dedicate to the person.
blissfulEyes47
May 20th, 2018 12:44pm
Unloving Someone can be very hard, I don’t think you can however I think you can loose feeling for them by distancing yourself from that person and having no contact at all.
creativeSunshine46
April 22nd, 2016 2:16am
You can't, love is a deep emotional feeling and you can't remove it, you might hate someone but when there's hate, there's also love
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2018 6:04am
You never unlove someone if you truly loved them to begin with. We are quick to deny our feelings but the sooner we face it the faster it is to get passed it.
Hazikk
April 21st, 2016 7:54pm
With time you will be able to detach yourself from this person , feelings will fade away eventually.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2018 11:59pm
There is really no sudden button to stop loving someone: It takes time-- a lot of it sometimes. Cut the things out of your life that remind you of that person, be it photographs or their favorite music. Having it around will only have healing take longer.
Innerpeace2u
June 13th, 2018 7:19am
Find the unsolvable problems between us and agree to cut off the relationship for its best course. Nothing personal but reflective on the growth from this nonfunctional relationship. Understand what I want for myself and what I can offer at best. Set boundary to protect myself and other.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2018 8:47am
How can you Unlove someone? Well it according what that person did to you. If this person was mean or just not appreciative of you and it’s easier to unlove them. If this person meant something to you and you left on good terms then nothing wrong with still having love for that person that person will always hold a place in your heart!
niceRabbit18
June 28th, 2018 2:57pm
If someone gets to a stage when they become unbearably toxic, or harmful to YOU emotionally/mentally/physically-- that's when I typically stop giving my love to them. Remember: you can't save everyone. If someone is making you feel terrible, it's not your job to make them feel whole.
Allears247
July 25th, 2018 10:12am
Personally i do not think it is possible. Love can fade, but do not believe that real love can competency disappear. Either it diminishes or turns into hate.
MidnightRaven999
August 7th, 2018 6:25pm
Honestly, in my personal opinion, you cant just force yourself to stop loving someone, however there are certain things you can do to try and make it stop, like not talking to them or seeing them, basically not having them be a part of your life anymore, and eventually your feelings for them will fade.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:27pm
Well first, it might take a while to do it. Loving someone is such a wonderful and crazy experience, so to unlove someone, can be just as crazy. I'd say distance yourself, maybe distract yourself from them, to clear your mind. Talk to other people. I'm sure in no time you'll feel better about this person, hope all is well, and all goes well!
shiningGrace80
August 1st, 2018 1:51pm
You can't really unlove someone. All you can do is move on by distancing yourself from that person and his/her memories. You have to stay pretty strong for that. This way you can find someone new.
Aemelliah
April 13th, 2016 1:36pm
you can not unlove someone.you can only love someone else more...either that someone is you or another soul
thaedeus93
April 15th, 2016 3:00pm
there's no one to "unlove" someone,if you care bout someone ,you care for whole life!!! never hate!!
SettingSun1985
July 25th, 2018 8:55pm
It's not possible to unlove someone but it is possible to take your mind off this person so that your feelings will Mayberry die down. The best thing to do is switch your mindset- try something new, do things you love, work on a project, etc.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 1:29pm
From experience, time heals a lot of stuff.. you may not be able to unlove the person but you can at least accept how you felt and move on from it
StWilson
July 14th, 2018 12:54pm
The real question is can you forget memories, Yes we can as long as we don't think about it. Time is the best healer and i will change how you loved someone for what they didn't deserve.
Anonymous
April 16th, 2016 5:15am
On my opinion, you can never unlove someone you truly loved ince. You just learn to love them less, but in the end you would still care about the. You may not loce them the same way as before but you would love them differently. Like as a frind or as family.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:50am
To unlove somebody is a hard, but possible thing. If this person has hurt you to the point where you need to unlove them then you should really accept it. It's okay if you thought you loved this person but you don't. It can happen to anybody. It's okay to unlove somebody. Just take some deep breaths take the love that you gave that person out of your brain and let it float out.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2018 6:32pm
Simple answer is you can't. Love is a strong feeling that takes a while to even appear and once it does many people even believe they have never stopped loving their first love. Usually you just have to find someone else whom you love more than this other person you used to love in order to unlove someone.
conscientiousBirch9806
April 6th, 2016 2:56pm
Yes, it's possible to unlove someone. The power to unlove is in your hands, you just have to choose it everyday, and a time will come you will no longer feel the pain. I found a guide on the net on how to unlove someone: http://crappypoetist.com/2016/04/06/finally-a-way-to-unlove-someone/ Hope this helps.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 9:54am
I feel that it is impossible to i love someone but we can forget them from our minds to some extent
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 11:40am
Personally I don't think there's sure a thing as unloving someone you can love them less but even if it someone you hate there's still going to be some small form of love depending on the connection