Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?
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Perhaps you have unresolved issues from past relationships. Or even you doubt your own self worth. Write a list of the things you feel or what about his evenings out make you anxious. Then maybe you can find the root of the feelings then address it with him. Communicaton is key
you think he is seeing someone else? did you ask him where he is going; or does he tell you where ...
It could be so because you dunt trust him completely. It's alright though just learn to trust it is never easy but just try
There can be several reasons. Personal experiences, such as infidelity in the past, can cloud your judgement, and cause you to project those feelings on to a new partner, regardless of how they have treated you. In addition, personal feeling such as fear or personal insecurities, also could cause this.
In order to find the answer to that question you may have to examine your current fears and past experiences. For example has this boyfriend or an ex cheated on you when they have been out. Are tut feeling abandoned or ignored when he leaves? Are you afraid he may come to harm?
You get anxious because you believe he is cheating on you. Which is a perfectly natural reaction....
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 12:07pm
It's hard for me to trust men at times. Seems as if I break the boldness of myself and anchor through something good. The anxiety of having a boyfriend go out while with me, stresses me out as if what he would find in the world. As a past experience, the taunting of truth and lies conquered my heart and I never loved again. It tells me that, as a man dates a woman, there is always going to be anxiety within myself.
Anxiety is a thing that can't always be understood. You might be afraid that he will leave you, or find someone better. This is a common fear, and you shouldn't feel ashamed. Talking to your boyfriend about this anxiety will help strengthen your relationship, and possibly get to the root of these anxious feelings.
You might feel safer when he's around, and maybe you have thoughts that either you or he will be harmed in some way when you are apart. This is a normal feeling, but may be a sign that you are becoming dependent on him to feel safe.
Sometime I get anxious when that happens too! Do not worry too much it is normal. You may feel like this because you may feel like you might lose him. Try speaking to him about your concerns, it will make you feel better! And do not be afraid to trust him :)
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:09pm
Maybe because he makes you feel so safe that when he leaves you start feeling like so. it doesn't have to be a bad thing but try to avoid that kind of feelings
There is a trust issue in the relationship. It differs from relationship to relationship. You either has trust issues because of your experience in the past, or he has done something to have caused your trust in him to alter. Either way there is an issue with trust that needs to be settled. The relationship will not be successful if both partners do not trust each other.
You may be anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you really love and care about him and you don't want anything bad to happen
You are probably feeling anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you may or may not trust him. You may think he may be with someone you don't know about or doing things you may not approve of. Most girls (Not all) have the most common thought that their male/or female partner is cheating on them with someone else. The best way to handle this is to communicate with your partner about how you are feeling.
Maybe because you have expirienced a earlier boyfriend who has been unfaithful, or maybe you're just plain scared of looking him.. Anyway, the best thing you can so is to talk with him about how you feel..
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 6:04am
There could be many reasons that can cause your anxiety. One main reason that many girls have is a trust issue. You probably don't trust him that well or he has hurt you and neither one is good.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 11:39am
Well, this is a sign that you are worried about him and you are afraid of losing him but he is your boyfriend and you have to identify this by yourself
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 7:38pm
i get anxious when i am away from my boyfriend because i get scared he will find someone better because there is always someone better that me. the reason is because of our self esstem in our self
Its a trust thing if we are really honest with ourselves and feeling insecure and also the thing of feeling safe and proteced.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 4:48pm
Maybe it is because you're afraid that he'll find another girl? It's totally normal, but you have to trust him. He already has a girlfriend/boyfriend, and he won't find another one x
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:45am
You're most likely not very trustworthy of your partner or are simply afraid with being hurt again from experience in past relationships which is perfectly OK!
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:32pm
Premonitions maybe. I think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, and if he is doing something then now you know and you can go wherever from there and if he's not then there you go nothing to worry about.
yes, tell me why. if you're afraid he's gonna have someone else, you have to believe in him. Love is trust.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:46pm
It's a natural feeling. You know how attractive he is to you which causes you to fear that another person will too.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 7:33pm
You probably worry that he will cheat on you. Unless he already has a history of it, I wouldn't worry about it. If you two truly love each other, and if it was meant to be, then you should be able to trust each other enough to not cheat. If either of you do end up cheating on the other, then it wasn't meant to be.
Don't stress it..
You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you like being close to him maybe he helps you with anxiety
You probably get anxious because you don't trust him or have faith in him. You need to learn to trust that he will do the right thing if someone tries to hit on him.
Because you feel like your life depends on him, so everytime he's not there you feel like nothing, everything's fine babe!
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 7:51am
The thought of something that could happen without you can make you anxious. That's something that needs to be addressed with your boyfriend.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 6:49pm
It's the way most people feel. You have to trust in him just like he has to trust you. You have all these feelings in you. You should use them and tell him how you feel.
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