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How do I talk to my family and friends about my anxiety?

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Last Updated: 09/24/2019 at 2:43am
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Top Rated Answers
Profile: MajesticTurtle
MajesticTurtle
January 8th, 2016 5:52pm
Find a friend with anxiety that helped me but sometimes you have no friends so you should talk to the closest person to you
Profile: Rosealyn
Rosealyn
January 9th, 2016 12:28am
Sometimes an analogy can really help when you need to explain a life situation to someone who might not understand. I use this spoon analogy: every day I start with a certain number of spoons. Each activity takes a spoon. For example, choosing to go to classes takes a spoon. When I run out of spoons for the day, I can't do anything else and must rest. When someone suffers from anxiety, we are hyper-aware of how many spoons are available, and are afraid to use them up. Try a simple story! :)
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 10:51pm
It depends on your closeness with them, your closest friend, closest family member that you think would really understand, cause most of them would think its a phase and you wouldnt want to feel bad for opening up to them about something like that
Profile: proudVision007
proudVision007
January 19th, 2016 8:16pm
to family i can say it better to say in a apropriate tyming with gud behaviour and vith frends u can discuss it for furthr more advice so it can help
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 5:11am
It's not the funnest subject in the world to talk about. When I was going to a competitive school in Boston, I felt the stress was wearing me down but that no one was there to listen. I felt like I was being annoying to my family, and I felt like I must be look pathetic to them. I don't really have an answer, but I understand it's very hard. Looking back though, my parents were behind me every step of the way. If I got the courage to call them even once or twice a week, I think it would've made a world of difference for my happiness.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 11:17am
I would ask them if they have some free time to hear me out as I am facing some difficulties in life that I need help with. And if they do, I will slowly tell them about my feelings and giving them permission to give me feedbacks or just hear me out.
Profile: happy22icecream
happy22icecream
January 28th, 2016 7:18pm
If you are having anxiety, you should share it with people that you are close to. Just be honest and don't sugar coat what you say. They may be able to help you too, :)
Profile: lizziecazs
lizziecazs
January 30th, 2016 11:31pm
Talk about it like you talk about illness because that's what it is, it's not your fault.
Profile: Grubbsy
Grubbsy
February 3rd, 2016 4:42am
Talking to loved ones about your anxiety is a very touchy subject. While you might be afraid to bring it up, or even ashamed, you should never be afraid to let your loved ones know that you are struggling. Do your best to speak with them in a casual manner, if at all possible. Let them know that, sometimes, you have a hard time. Seek their support!
Profile: CalmingRose24
CalmingRose24
February 4th, 2016 7:03pm
Talking about anxiety can be extremely hard but so much better when people know. Your friends and family will love you and they will only want to support you. What feels like a daunting task will be the best thing you would have done after. Find a moment where you can sit them down and explain how to are feeling and why. They will be there for you
Profile: jstm
jstm
February 5th, 2016 6:28pm
It is hard, I know.. Just be honest with them.
Profile: RachelRae777
RachelRae777
February 11th, 2016 6:42am
Send them helpful resources/links videos etc.. to help them understand) talk to them about brain chemical imbalances maybe even consider a therapist near your area they might have family session to help your family understand more clearly and the best of all to help you, yourself. best wishes, xx
Profile: kindheartedPanda31
kindheartedPanda31
January 9th, 2017 4:17am
It can be hard to talk to family and friends about anxiety. Some people do not understand what you're going through. By sitting with them and explaining what you're feeling and what is going on in your mind, it will help them understand a little bit better.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2017 6:41pm
I have also had anxiety in my past and come to find that exercise can help with overthinking. I'm not saying that's what you "need" to do. Everyone is different
Profile: avanef
avanef
September 10th, 2018 12:54am
If you want to talk to them about it, that's all up to you and what you feel comfortable doing and saying. If you don't want to or think they won't understand, that's understandable but just know if you need someone to talk to, you have many people to go to. Anxiety is not easy understanding and knowing how to cope it into your daily life. Some moments it's small moments where you feel a little jittery and shaky, and other moments can make you feel like you're about to pass out and you need to be away from everyone all by yourself. If you're very concerned about it you can try going to a doctor about it and see if you want to go on medication for it, or try researching ways to do something about it naturally. It is completely up to you though whether you want others to know, some people think it helps them and doesn't bother them that much telling people they have anxiety in their life, and others are afraid to tell people and think they won't understand or don't want to somehow help. Just know, someone out there is there for you and will do everything they can to help you.
Profile: fruityStar49
fruityStar49
September 11th, 2018 3:22pm
I talk to my friends and family about my anxiety usually face to face, and I will give them the context of my problem before I proceed so that they know what to expect and what they can do to help me. I never use mean language when I talk about my problem, but I will tell them how I feel and the possible reason why I feel that way. Sometimes, it is inevitable for me to cry after expressing all my feelings to my close friends, and they always give me a warm hug afterward to make me feel better.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2019 2:43am
I would pick my most trusted and most supportive family member or friend to talk about my anxiety. I would ask them for their available time and organise appropriate space to have the meeting with them. For example, a loud cafe would not be a great spot to talk about your feelings, an appropriate spot would be somewhere that you feel safe and comfortable. I also would tell them directly about the anxiety and that you need support. This helps avoid miscommunication and let them know that you are being serious. If you need to find professional help, you can also ask them if they can be with you and help you through it.