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Realize they are a person just like you. They can get anxious and upset as well, they are there to do their job and help you to the best of their ability. If you’re nervous about something you’re buying, that’s okay. Again, they are just there to do their job. They aren’t going to judge you
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 9:46pm
Practice in the mirror. Talk to yourself and see how well you respond. Imagine worse case scenarios and respond to that as well. Preparing is the fist step and practicing it is second. Keep going and soon enoigh there will be no such thing as fear. Just another experience.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2018 10:13am
You can overcome fears by testing it slowly go into the store walking around walk out repeat situation each time getting closer to the cashier before pushing yourself to go there
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 1:06am
To overcome the fear of cashiers, you can go up to the cashiers and start a friendly conversation and if you fail try again eventually you would be able to pay anywhere without fear.
There are many different ways of overcoming fears, but the most effective way is a method called "Flooding." With this, you are immersed in a place where there are only cashiers. Have pictures of cashiers in your room, complete transactions at stores, watch videos on youtube of transactions. In doing this, you are telling your body that the fear is not there and that everything will be OK (otherwise known as Desensitizing).
As someone with social anxiety who has also worked as a cashier, I can assure you that the cashier is not judging you or anything of the sort. I used to work as a cashier in both a coffee shop and a makeup store, and as a receptionist in a chiropractic office, and I saw so many people a day that each customer/patient was simply a blip on the map. I didn't even remember most of the people I helped, unless they were regulars. Try to remember that they are just people, too, and they may be feeling similar anxiety to what you are feeling! Try taking things one step at a time. Is it easier to manage this fear if you have a friend or family member with you? If so, start out this way; with someone by your side. Try and engage with the cashier as if they are just another friend. As you get more comfortable with a "safe" friend by your side, you can try doing the same on your own. Baby steps! Chin up :)
Identify where your fear is coming from, then figure out how to overcome that base fear.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 6:42am
Figure out why you're afraid of them then face your fears! You cannot get over something until you realize why you feel that way and confront it
I used to have terrible social anxiety but once I started working as one, I understood that cashiers aren't there to judge you. They simply want to accomplish their job and sometimes strike up a friendly conversation. But we are just normal humans like everyone else and don't believe ourselves superior.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 2:20am
As I’ve worked in a similar position cashiers do not care to remember you or anything about you, don’t be scared
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 8:26pm
Take small steps, try to begin by planning what you’re going to say, and congratulate yourself when you have done!
Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 6:09pm
Maybe you can try becoming a cashier or talking to one? I understand what it's like to have fears. It's hard.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:42pm
Just know that they are human just like you. Don't be afraid to ask them questions if you don't understand something. I promise they are not that bad.
Try looking them in the eye after checking their nametag to say hello. If this is too scary, try simply smiling.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 6:59pm
Try starting off with small, local shops and engaging with the shop assistants there. Chances are the shop won't be packed, like in large chain supermarkets, so won't overwhelm you and the assistant might even appreciate the chat too.
I totally feel you! I HATE approaching cashiers. Think about it this way. They’re just like you and me! They wake up sad some times, some struggle with mental illness, they experience losses etc. They’re there to do there job to satisfy you! And I’m sure many of them are more scared of you than you are of them!
Approach them calmly. Practice breathing if you ever feel nervous or stressed out. When they ask for the money, hand it to them with a steady hand. This will make you feel like you're in control. End the conversation with something like â€have a nice day!â€
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 5:43am
Just remember that they are people just like you, and some of them might be afraid of talking to strangers as well!
I often tell myself that nothing BAD is going to happen, it's like most things that people, including myself, get nervous about. It's just like you have to know that you'll be fine.
in my personal experience the best way to overcome the fear of cashiers is simply just to not say a lot. Most cashiers don’t say much any way. They usually just say hi how are you, and they tell you your total. They don’t start conversation so something simple to say would be... if they say “ hi how are you?†Then you just say “I’m good thanks.†You don’t have to say anything else. If I’m being honest they are just there to work and get paid not to become best friends with you. It will just take a little time to get used to.. hope this helps someone... 😊â¤ï¸
I have a friend who is a cashier, and I can assure you, she always saysbdoesn't remember a single thing about any customer she's ever served, haha. You might think you're weird for buying a certain thing, but trust me, they've have to deal with a lot stranger purchases.
If your fear stems from simply the fact that you have to talk to them, then my number one coping method for something like that is usually that you just have to remember they're another person. They're not someone that's going to judge you. They're just doing their job, I assure you.
It doesn't matter if you stuttered a bit or if you messed up a word, they probably didn't even notice! Remember just breathe and take it easy.
Anonymous
September 26th, 2018 12:09pm
I personally cope with social anxiety and irrational fears. IT is not easy. It has taken me many years of researching and therapy to figure out what works for me. My therapist started first by asking me to write out a list of reasons for my irrational fear. Then we listed them as a hierarchy. The would be listed with the least scary on the top and the most scary on the bottom. Then I would start with the first thing on my list and would make a plan to expose myself to that which was causing the fear. I didn't think it would work but it did! I worked my way down my list!
You should never have a fear of cashiers, if you do then you will just become a bungling fool that has no means to function in a normal society, your life has been ruined by your own ineptitude and lack of ability to function within a society that is becoming weaker with every generation, you are week your children will be weeker and yor future is just relying on benefits and handouts from the people that feel sorry for you, so sad :( However I can still give you more reasons to sponge off the state as these great people that run this site have given me the platform to start telling you poor people that want help a reason to no come to this site... They will not help you unless you want to spend money, they will not help their own volunteers that are trying to help people and they will not give yo any help at all
Anonymous
January 24th, 2019 5:13am
Speaking as a cashier myself (who also had a fear of cashiers before I became one), the best way to overcome this fear is to remember that a cashier is just another person! We're human beings, which means we come with everything that comes with being human. We can be awkward and clumsy, we can get tongue tied and nervous. Sometimes cashiers are just as afraid of you as you are them! It's hard to talk to so many different people in a single day, especially if you're not much of a talker. Remind yourself that cashiers are typically more conscious of what they're doing than what you're doing, and as long as you aren't mean to them, they're not going to focus on the things you do, so don't feel self conscious!
First off, you are not alone, most people go through this at some time in their life. Keep in mind, cashiers are most likely being paid minimum wage, have a life other than that job, and overall would rather be someplace else. Your payment of items, and the items themselves do not concern them in the least. Whether it be milk and eggs or condoms and a vibrator, they don't care. You are just another person, going through their life, just as they are as well. Next time you have to deal with one, remember to take a deep breath, and continue through as though it was just another moment in your day- which it is! Best of luck.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2019 1:58am
Sometimes it is nerve wrecking to go to cashiers and some people try to avoid doing it at all costs but the thing is, there is absolutely nothing to be afraid of. I was a cashier not too long ago and I can tell you with 100% certainty that we don’t really care. It doesn’t really matter what you’re buying or who you are, cashiers are just there to do their job and get paid. You just have to remember that cashiers are people too. Take a deep breathe and relax. If it helps, imagine talking to someone you’re comfortable with.
Having been a cashier in the retail business for several years, the things you need to know about us are:
1. We really do want to help you and hear about how your store experience was because your purchases put bread on our table.
2. We have both great and terrible store managers. Some will praise us for the chats we have with customers, others will scold us and tell us to quit talking and work faster. We cannot always be as personable towards you as we'd like. If we're sulking or appearing distant, there's a reason for it - that has absolutely nothing to do with you.
3. If you fear conversation with us, a great ice breaker is to pick a product you're buying and ask us if we've ever tried it, if we like it, etc. This can be especially helpful to you for new products that you're not sure is worth the investment.
4. Small talk about the weather is completely okay, and not talking at all is alright too. We really just need a sincere thank you after ringing your order up - to ensure that you feel you've gotten decent service!
Anonymous
March 30th, 2019 9:28pm
The best possible way to overcome a fear is to identify why you have that fear and then pushing that fear to the limit. If you can do it once and train yourself to continue to do it, even if you don't get it right the first time overcoming fears will be made easy. Always remember that you may not have the courage to overcome it the first time and that's okay. You just have to keep in mind that in order to succeed at overcoming a fear, you must be repetitive and relentless and strong. Getting a friend or a family member to come with you next time you go shopping may be a good first step in overcoming that fear.
Well, you have to think about why you are scared of them.
I used to be very socially nervous too. And that's ok. It's who you are. Probably very nice, just more solitary.
Try never to overload yourself with responsibilities but still, be determined to realise your worth. Ultimately, if you or your family were threatened, you'd probably say hang on, I haven't done wrong so why am I apologising, or we? Someone has to do something. Trust me in the end it's a good idea if you run through this whenever you can and start shooting back so to speak, though avoid being spiteful. Stay well mannered always.
Chances are the person on the checkout isn't worried about you. They might even be nervous as well. I was sometimes working on a til if I forgot how to do something, or had a long queue, that sort of thing. You don't have to talk much.
It's really just the feeling of confrontation, breaking that invisible barrier. Are you embarrassed about your appearance, or voice? None of it matters. Go slow, say please and thankyou. Refuse to panic- you're bullying yourself essentially. Eyes down and just go.
Every now and then we do get a horrible person, grumpy or mean. If you are really offended stay quiet and then go to customer services. Never feed into conflict, others only beat you at it.
If you start going back over it afterwards, distract immediately. It's ok to think but it's not worth worrying over. Bin your fears like bullies, don't water them.
Almost everyone has an irrational fear or two - but I've never heard of one about cashiers. The same principle applies though as with any irrational fear. The most effective way to overcome a phobia is by gradually and repeatedly exposing yourself to what you fear in a safe and controlled way. During this exposure process, you’ll learn to ride out the anxiety and fear until it inevitably passes. Through repeated experiences facing your fear, you’ll begin to realise that the worst isn’t going to happen. It's important to create a list of things that relate to your fear. eg. going to the shop, using self checkout ect.. and then slowly work your way up to exposing yourself to cashiers.
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