How do I get over feeling that everyone is going to leave me?

Fear of abandonment is super common. I believe it stems from deep rooted issues from our childhood or past relationship experiences where we did not have our essential needs met. I use meditation, self-Hypnotherapy and journaling to work through the anxiety, worrying and projecting onto others what it is I am thinking or feeling. Talking with a trained listener or therapist also helps to gain perspective and to be more and more aware of oneself and get to the root cause of this constant worry of belong left alone. Remember to love yourself- care for yourself and realize we are never really in control. If someone is going to leave then they will. You are ok, you are safe, and you will thrive regardless of what anyone else does. We are our own heroes!

People who care for you will stay. No matter how bad circumstances turn out to be in the end they will show up. So they are worth keeping and you should too care for such people. Those who want to go they will go no matter how much ever effort you put to make them stay. By keeping them you will disrespect yourself. Do you want to invest your time, energy and emotions on people who don't want to bother you ? They are disrespecting you. And you are also disrespecting you by bothering them. So who will respect you. You will be taken for granted this way and a new disastrous feeling will emerge out of you seeking counselling for anxiety and depression. So first become independent in life. Be confident to live life without depending on someone else. If people leave then let them go. If you want to justify your side then justify right then but not every time. Do that just once. People keep coming and going in life. We cannot force people what they have to do.

Hi!💗 I had this feeling too, that everyone will leave me and I will stay alone in this world. And it was really hard to get over this feeling, mostly because when I was feeling like this, I started to seclude myself too. And thus this feeling was getting deeper. I think that you just will have to make yourself more sociable, and will have to talk to people with a great will. Also you would better search for best friends too. People always need people, so feel like as you need them they need you too. They need someone to talk, someone to be real friends with. And you need the same things too. Feeling like this is making us only isolated, from my experience. But when you feel like people is part of you like they can be your best friends, you will make a bond and bond can't be broken easily. So they won't leave you and you won't leave them. I hope I expressed myself good and I really hope that it helps☺

Figure out why you are feeling this way. Are you feeling this way due to not being about to see them, or are they ignoring you? Speak to your friends and family about how you're feeling. They can help you. The majority of the time the way you're feeling is due to self esteem issues. No one will leave you, i promise. Remember that you are valuable person, and that your value is not determined by appearance, how others treat you, your intelligence, sexuality, or race. If anyone is telling you this, they are toxic and are only trying to hurt you.

This is a tough question and one that I think many people struggle with. I think the best advice I can give is to get to the root of this belief and ask yourself when was the first time you felt abandoned? How did that make you feel? What do you want to say to that person that made you feel that way? Let's use "I" statements to craft this message and see what those core feelings are then let's look and let's examine how you grown and what you have learned since this first incident happened. I am sure you will see that you have learned a lot since then-just keep reminding your self of the new and improved person you have become.

I used to feel that way all the time. A lot of different things can cause it, but for me it boils down to a fear that you are incapable of standing alone. So fix that! Right down a list of things you are scared to do, or things you've never done by yourself. Start with one, and tackle it. It sounds simple but it's incredibly hard. However in my experience, putting in the work to trust that I could function alone, without a SO or a best friend or a ___, changed my life. When I'm in a relationship, platonic or romantic, I now know when I deserve better and am capable of leaving for myself.

The fear of abandonment can come from childhood loss or neglect as a child, especially if it is more emotional. Generally, those who have a fear of abandonment feel they are not worthy of being loved. For example in the case of being neglected as a child; when a child is attached to somebody and the person leaves them, they are left feeling that they are not fully loved. Even though this is likely not the truth, the child wonders what made them unlovable. As an adult, they may still feel there is something about them that makes them unworthy. The first step in overcoming your fear of abandonment is to realise that you're worthy of love, flaws and all. I.e: if you're in a relationship, don't let it become your identity or centre of worth. A relationship does not define you. Remind yourself that it is not another person's duty to make you feel emotionally secure. That security first comes from you. Try to consider where your fear of abandonment started in first place. You may never entirely eliminate your fear of abandonment but you can control your reactions to the fear. If you begin to recognize the fearful moments in your relationships, you can direct the thoughts into a positive self-talk. Also, it's important to accept the idea of being alone. Your worth is not based on your relationship status or how many friends you have. They're plenty more ways to overcome your fear of abandonment.

Be sure that you are the best version of yourself that you can be so if you ever do face loneliness you will not feel alone because you are surrounded by everything that you've always wanted.

Feelings can be hard to manage when they become a habitual response. Sometimes just labeling a feeling really helps. Do you feel fearful, or anxious, or sad?

i personally feel that people come and go but the people that stick with you through everything are true friends and you don’t need the ones who leave you !

Talk to the people who make you feel left out! You need to face it,before you can get over it! Just talk to the people

My biggest fear used to be left out feeling alone in this world. I only got over it after realizing that it is inevitable! I WILL END UP ALONE. I will die alone just like i was born alone; and i need to be okay with that! Why are we so afraid of being alone?! make friends with yourself and love it so much that you will never feel lonely when you're alone... and only then, you'll realize that you don't even care about other people. and honey trust me... no one is actually alone... there are more than 7 billion people on this planet and you can be with anyone you want... just make sure you choose well.. and if they wanna leave then so be it... there are still 7 billion options for you! meanwhile go out, meet new people, meet new friends, surround yourself with love, get a pet, study in a new class... you'll realize that people are infinite... you'll never run out of them!

Find people who love you and surround your self with those people and also give love to them so they know your there for them

When I feel that way, I try to divide my thoughts in what are actual facts and what are things I fear. I try to concentrate on what I do know and what is actually happening. Concentrating on fears of what could happen just stress me out because those are things I can't control. I try to work on what I can control, being honest with people around me if I feel things go wrong and taking care of my feelings. If somebody leaves me, it hurts, but it does not mean I am less than anybody else. I concentrate on the people who stay and want to stay. I repeat to myself that I really don't want people in my life that don't want to actually be there.

Know that the people who matter in the long run will stick with you and if they don’t then they weren’t worth worrying over in the first place

quite honestly i feel as if this is something that can never truly be defeated of a feeling, its better however if you base this negative perspective in an honest more outside the box kind of way. "everyone might come and go at some point but its the fact that people cared enough to even involve me into their lives in the first place" the best of our friends family will stick around for us i promise you guys that but there is no real way to know who will be there with me till the end.

I understand that the thought of it is scary but don't let it get to you. After all, it is simply a thought. You have people around you who care about you and even if you feel like you dont just remember that you always have a place here.

Try to have more faith in those that you are close with. Also remember that you always have yourself (which is the most important person)

A good way to cope with this feeling is to prove yourself wrong. Make an effort to create new relationships and nurture your existing ones. As you surround yourself with people and grow in these friendships you will be able to better rationalize this feeling.

Try to join or do things such as work out do some of your hobbies that will help you to think about other things in order to remove those thoughts from your mind.

You have to know that the people that truly care about you will not leave you. Think about it, are you going to leave somebody you love and care about? No. You are important and your feelings are valid and you are special in your own unique way and the people that see that and appreciate it wouldn’t give that up for the whole world. Keep looking for those people! When people leave us, sometimes it seems like there’s no good reason either and it makes us question our self worth. Step one love yourself, step two let others love you. The ones that leave didn’t deserve our affection because it was expendable.

Understand that you are valuable, and people enjoy spending time with you and your presence people who leave you were not friends to begin with. If they truly care about you than they will not leave you. I understand this because I used to be scared that people would exit my life as well, but over time I have realized that if someone chooses to leave my life they were not really a friend, and we’re actually a negative part of my life. By realizing this I was able to understand that important people in your life will not leave you because they are not toxic or negative

Know that not everyone in your life is meant to be there with you forever. Frequently people are only in your life for a season, and that is okay. Know that the people you have around you right now are there to help build you up and teach you about yourself in the world around you. Reassure yourself that even if the people around you currently do leave you, there will be others that come in to take their place. Know what to look for in healthy friendships and relationships so that it is more likely that you form a long term connection, and work on building the relationships you currently have into healthy ones that will last a lifetime.

You have to think positive. No one is going to leave you. Your just feeling very anxious and that’s okay. You have to tell your friends and family or any other close person how your feeling and they can help you through this. Just think positive, no one is going to leave you. Remember that everyone loves you for who you are. It’s okay to have these feelings just know that there’s always gonna be someone who’s there for you now or in the future. Make sure to overcome this feeling that your having right now so you feel that your not alone.

In simple words, "People who care won't leave, and those who leave are not worth the pain and suffering you feel for them". If you are constantly worried that everyone is going to leave you, you should think about 'why you feel that way?' Why do you think you have to work hard for people to stay? Because real relationships/friendships happen when you can be your true self. Also, pay attention to the fact 'How much do you value yourself?' If your answer is 'not much'... maybe its time you understand that being happy with oneself is more important than making someone else happy and going overboard to keep them in your life. Slowly, you'll learn who among your closed ones can truly accept you just the way you are.

whenever you get feelings of doubt that you are now good enough, tell yourself simply "STOP, enough" I LOVE MYSELF. I AM ENOUGH if someone is leaving you, its more for their disadvantage and u just didnt found the person that fits to you. you are a perfect being. just stop doubting yourself. thats the only thing holding u back to spread your wings and unleashing your full potential. it sounds so easy, because it is so easy. stop making yourself down. and from a different perspective, who wants to be with someone who always doubt himself. so step up, set a new standard and enjoy life stronger and more grateful than u ever did before.

Me and you both, dear. In a lot of cases people did end up leaving me, and sometimes I acted out of fear and ended up leaving them. I was terrified of being abandoned. Now I am in a place in my life where I am looking at supports and strategies that will help me develop healthy relationships all around. Counseling can sometimes bring resources that we don't realize exist. It's just a matter of finding the resources that are in your area, to help you through challenges that may arise. 7cups can be a great resource but not the only one out there.

though some people will leave you, chances are not everyone will. Just be yourself, stay open and honest. Try focusing your thoughts on something different, like deep breathing, breath slowly and deeply through your nose and out your mouth. Also try reading, coloring, listen to music or take a walk, or a hot bubble bath. Or talk to someone who you really trust and be honest with them on how you are feeling. They may surprise you and put your worries at ease. Also seeing a therapist would also help you with those thoughts.

These feelings are really common for people who have been hurt and let down in their past, from their childhood or friendships and relationships as adults. I think to talk about these emotions and to understand them is a really positive step forward. Not many people can be free from these kinds of emotions and fear of loneliness, it tends to be at the core of most humans. But with talking and self development these feelings can be more manageable. Neediness in relationships is a consequence of this feeling but it's OK to be needy sometimes, we are all human so self acceptance is also really important.

It can be hard to get over the feeling that everyone is going to leave you. The fear of abandonment is a very deep seated and fundamental (but also common) fear. If you are struggling with the fear of abandonment, abandonment anxiety, separation anxiety, or other abandonment issues, therapy may be able to help. Therapy can get to the root of the issue and identify coping skills and strategies for better management of these feelings in day-to-day life. Other options include building and maintaining healthy self esteem, striving for a robust support network, practicing emotional responsibility, practicing mindfulness meditation, and/or reflecting on how and why abandonment impacts you as it does. It may seem like a lot of work initially, but you are worth it!