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Profile: Gretta01
Gretta01
November 14th, 2020 5:00am
If you cannot speak with a therapist or your doctor, there are several things you can try to help cope with your anxiety. First off, it is important to remember that you will never be rid of it completely, but there are ways to deal with it and start to move forward. One thing that I have found helps me is to find a hobby that can serve as a distraction. My favorite hobbies include drawing, gardening, cooking, and listening to music. Meditation and breathing exercises are also good ways to deal with anxious feelings that may arise throughout the day.
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aestheticBaddie0530
November 12th, 2020 2:36am
Find people that you trust and you can talk to, someone that wont try to fix your life or judge you. If you do no feel like there is anyone in your life that you can talk to then as you are probably aware of you can talk to one (or more) of the many listeners here on 7 cups. Try to find coping methods. There are many methods out there, you just have to find one that works for you. Not all coping methods might be the one for you, so it may take a while to find one but don't give up!
Anonymous
November 7th, 2020 9:48pm
To overcome anxiety there are a number of exercises for breathing that may help you to feel more calm. I use a very basic breathing exercise where I breathe in through my nose for 5 seconds, then out through my mouth for 5 seconds, and repeat as many times an necessary to feel calmer. There is also the process of grounding that I use quite often where if I feel anxious I list things that fit into the 5 senses (Something I can touch, see, hear, taste and smell). This has proven helpful to get me through panic attacks without too much damage.
Profile: calmParadise87
calmParadise87
June 24th, 2020 3:45pm
I have found that focusing on positive things helps with anxiety. Also, if you are in a panic attack; try deep breathing and closing your eyes and focusing on good things or things you enjoy like walking the beach, strolling in a park and also I have found prayer or meditation helps a lot! Also, for me, reading the Bible helps or listening to positive music as well. It is also helpful to talk to someone that is a support person to you. I have found in doing that it takes your mind off of your own circumstances. The big thing is to try and focus on positives in your life!
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lifeshopefulundertone2
February 1st, 2020 11:57pm
I know it's tough when you can't talk to your therapist or doctor, so if i were you, i'd look up coping strategies online and create a good support for yourself. Not only that, you can do small exercises with yourself, like pushing your limits just a tiny bit, and keep reminding yourself you're going to make it. I know it sounds cheesy, but coping strategies and mindfullness exercises actually really help! Start by coming here, on 7cups and making those goal thingys. Create a diary where you write down what you feel in that day or even a symptom diary so you can track your progress!! best of luck
Profile: delightfulName4913
delightfulName4913
February 19th, 2020 11:09pm
Try breathing exercises, it is also important to be physically active every day this will help calm you down. Having a good diet is also essential for anxiety and overall mental health wellness. Talking to family and friends about it can also help you find a good outcome and may even convince you to seek help from a therapist or a doctor. Remember they are there to help you do not feel ashamed for seeking help. That is the first path you can choose for a good life. At last, make sure you are getting enough sleep for a healthy life.
Profile: bountifulDreamer46
bountifulDreamer46
February 28th, 2020 10:12am
It's really rough when you feel like there's literally no one you can talk to about the things you're going through. What's worked for me is finding a safe space when I get anxious. That helps calm the initial issues. But then, I have to think. What made me anxious? Why am I upset about this? What is worrying me? If I can come up with the reasons I'm anxious (and trust me, this took a lot of time and practice) I feel like I'm more able to deal with it. I can look at the situation and figure out what's going on and how to fix it so it doesn't scare the hell out of me. Or sometimes, I just figure out how to get away from a situation that causes me anxiety. Most of working it out for me came from just getting to know myself and figuring out why I had the reactions I did.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2020 7:57pm
It's really hard to overcome anxiety if you can't talk to a therapist or doctor. If you have a really good friend that you trust and that understands you, maybe talk to them about your anxiety because talking about it is a way of release and it helps a lot. However, if you don't like talking about it to anyone, try writing down how you feel in like a journal or diary and that can also help you to release your feelings. But on a piece of paper that no one is allowed to read. Another way to help decrease anxiety is by talking to a website like this one because you are talking to people who feel the same way about you. You might also feel more confident because they are strangers and don't know who you are pr what you look like.
Profile: KindFall5330
KindFall5330
March 15th, 2020 1:29pm
Talking about mental health issues is super daunting. Coming from personal experience it took me a long time to trust trained professionals. But remember, their job is to help you. They have no malicious intent, but rather they want to see you heal. So as a tip, try writing down what you want to say in a letter/list and bringing it to the appointment. It always helps to come prepared to an appointment to ease anxiety. But if getting over the big hurtle is your hardest challenge, talk to one of our listeners and they can support you in the journey. Please remember that, we want to see you anxiety-free, we want you to heal. :)
Profile: PurpleEnglobe
PurpleEnglobe
March 20th, 2020 3:18pm
Get a self help app there are dozens of them. Learn how to breathe properly and try not to self medicate its not a long term solution. It is only temoprary and will not fix the underlying causes of anxiety. Anxiety is mangageable with the right tools you just need to find the right ones for youself and keep up with the good work that has to be put into maintaining a healthy approach to your own mental state and monitor it so that things dont escalate out of control. Give yourself a treat and take care of your own needs.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2020 12:13pm
You don’t need a doctor or therapist to overcome anxiety. Sometimes you just need a friendly ear who is happy to listen. Talk to a friend, someone you trust, someone you know will listen openly. Unload and talk without fear. And know that you’re not alone in what may often feel like a big world. There are people who share your exact same thoughts. And feeling anxiety is a natural response and is okay. Being able to recognise you’re feeling uneasy and finding ways to relieve this feeling is the first step to overcoming anxiety. Take it slow and know that people are here for you.
Profile: KittenMittons
KittenMittons
March 27th, 2020 9:51pm
This is an important question. I know from experience how difficult it is to deal with anxiety, and you've already come so far by recognizing that it's a problem for you. Great job! The next step might be talking anonymously in support groups, like the ones here on 7cups, and asking people about their experiences. Then you could build up to talking with an online therapist or maybe even someone in real life. It can help to be anonymous if you are afraid to talk about these issues. When I go to the doctor, I often write a list of medical issues that I'm anxious about discussing and give her the list. This way I don't have to do the hard work of starting the conversation, all i have to do is hand her a piece of paper. Maybe doing something like that could help. If you can't afford a therapist or a doctor then there are many self-help resources here, however, any treatment will be much more effective if you have a therapist or doctor to support you.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2020 8:29am
Practicing self care - earthing healthy , less sugar , no alcohol 8 hrs of sleep , warm bath, reading , positive mantras . All of these things and more can help keto levels of anxiety at bay when you can’t get out to a therapist or doctor you are not alone and many therapist and doctors are now offering online counseling or appts. That may help as well during the Wharton’s dud to the corna virus. Anxiety is very really and having positive and reassuring thoughts in your head will help to put things into perspective daily
Profile: blissfulSunshine81
blissfulSunshine81
April 4th, 2020 6:43pm
I am someone who has anxiety as well. I find I cope by imaging myself flying away and letting my stress melt into the clouds. The secret is to finding something that makes your anxiety melt away. Experiment, try new things, and hen you find something that works, keep doing it. I enjoy gaming and painting, or just going outside. It’s different for everyone, though. You have to also slowly put yourself in situations where anxiety is present and figure it how to get it to leave the situation. It’s slow going, and frustrating at certain times, but if you slowly make yourself over come it by a little, you can beat it.
Anonymous
April 10th, 2020 6:31am
There are things you can do for your anxiety on your own. Know your triggers. Know how to avoid them and if you can't avoid them, learn how to not react. Looking up grounding techniques.....now that you have looked it up.....what do you feel about trying that???Come here on 7 cups and there are plenty people just like you 😊 A lot of listeners you can talk to and a lot of support 🙂 Come up with strategies and plans that will help you manage your anxiety more .A good place to start is writing your feelings out or practicing saying them to yourself or your cat or someome you trust.
Profile: courtney9310
courtney9310
May 3rd, 2020 9:45pm
Look up some relaxation tips! Deep breathing exercises can be very helpful. Other activities including yoga or meditation can also help relieve anxiety. There are also plenty of tools on this website to help deal with anxiety. Sometimes talking to a friend or family member can help too just to let out those feelings and see a new perspective of what you're anxious about. I would definitely recommend trying to get some physical activity as well. When you regularly engage in physical activity, it helps the body release stress and anxiety. Take time to think about what specific situations make you anxious and come up with a plan to start working toward overcoming that fear.
Profile: sweetSunshine2703
sweetSunshine2703
May 13th, 2020 9:43pm
Taking some time to journal, meditate, or simply set time for yourself can help with your anxiety. Before I worked up the courage to get help, I wrote down how I was feeling in the moment and what might have caused it. Writing down my thoughts and feelings helped lead me to better understand the reasons as to why I was experiencing those emotions. Meditation and self-care also help as they relaxed my mind so I can focus on my emotions to better understand them while being in a calmer state of mind. If you are unable to speak to someone about your issues, it is alright as it takes a lot of courage to do so, but these small activities can help manage your anxiety.
Profile: CarlAmber
CarlAmber
May 20th, 2020 3:01pm
There are many effective tools to help dissipate and overcome anxiety. As natural as breathing is , many people ‘forget’ how to breathe properly. First you can bring your awareness to your breath and then consciously breathe in through your nose for the count of 7 and then breathe out through your mouth for the count of 11. Number of inhalation’s can be adjusted , insuring that the exhalation is longer. This works so well as it activates the parasympathetic system which is the ‘rest and digest’ relaxing system. It also engages the vagus nerve. This is so easy and can be done anywhere at anytime
Anonymous
May 27th, 2020 12:37pm
I have the same problem. During quarantine, I can't talk to my therapist so I am trying to do my best. I've started to write my own anxiety journal, where I can write my all feelings, emotions, problems, triggers of anxiety and also some conclusions. I've started also with my growth path here on 7Cups. It's really helpful in my opinion. I am trying to care about me as much as I can. I use to watch some videos with meditation. Relaxing is very important in this time. I also started to go walking every day and phone with my friends.
Profile: happyunicornxx
happyunicornxx
May 27th, 2020 2:12pm
In my opinion, talking about your feelings to someone can help immensely. It doesn't necessarily have to be a therapist or a doctor, a friend who listens can be just as good when it comes to making a burden lighter. If you don't have someone you want to talk to about how you are feeling, you can try journaling. Just start writing and the words will flow on their own. I think it's important to get the feelings out somehow, so even if journaling might not work for you, maybe creating something and pouring your emotions into it could work just as well.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2020 3:08pm
I push myself thru it but i also get help from my friends or just try not to think about it and just do it like if i'm scared to go on a mountain then i say to myself just do it because what's there to lose if your having fun or if i don't want to go talk to new people then i push myself to go talk to them because without friends life wouldn't be the same. but also life without friends would be very horrible like it would be stressful and depressing and friends are always there for you.
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sereneSoul3357
May 31st, 2020 8:20am
Face the thing that you fear and then it will feel easier by time. You may talk with a friend or an other person that you trust. Do NOT try to avoid the thing that causes your anxiety. Try to think positive and try to ignore the negative thoughts. Anxiety can be very painful, however when you’ve overcome it, it will be a huge relief. Give it time and talk to someone you trust. Do things you like and take care of yourself. Maybe you can find the cause of the anxiety and write about it or search for information about anxiety. And remember you’re not alone. There are many people, including myself, that has or is struggling with anxiety and it is very common unfortunately. The reason why you have anxiety is that the brain has not been developed a lot since we were hunters. Then we had to have anxiety to, for example run away from predators.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2020 3:07am
Find a strong support system, a friend who you trust, a sibling, or a parent. Know what works for you and have a plan in case you are suddenly feeling anxiety. How can you calm yourself down, stress balls are a helpful tool for people to distract themselves. Consider breathing exercises so that you can focus on what you are doing right now. Find a way to ground yourself, name something you can smell, see, touch, feel, and taste. Think about pairing up with a listener for check-ins every once in a while. Always feel free to hop on seven cups and partner up with a listener who is available at the moment you need them.
Anonymous
August 29th, 2020 8:14am
I honestly took time to search up alternative ways in order to manage my anxiety. I found out that a simple breathing technique can have a huge impact on this. Breathe in, breathe out. Also, I try to write out what I was thinking. Usually this technique helps me sort out what I was worried about and makes me feel less anxious. I sort out which problems or issues I didn't have to worry right now. Through this, I worry lesser things at a time. Also, I try to get enough sleep each day. If I can't sleep, I take melatonin gummies to help me doze off. A good walk outside is helpful too!
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ingeniousBeauty4518
September 9th, 2020 9:51pm
try to read an anxiety guide. Things like this could be avoiding triggers and how to calm down during a panic attack. Deep breaths and thinking about something completely different to take your mind of off things can help a lot. Maybe even try anxiety toys which can also help take your mind of things. if your anxiety is the worst at school, try talk to teachers before class and ask them not to call on you in class so you don’t have to be worried about not knowing the answer. this is the same with jobs and others
Anonymous
September 14th, 2020 3:34am
It's hard to say if entirely overcoming anxiety without a therapist or doctor is possible, but there are some things that can help lessen the burden of anxiety. For example, ask yourself if there has been any indication that you need to worry about what you're currently anxious about. If you're thinking 10 steps ahead and becoming anxious, try to center yourself on the current moment. Something else that may help is deep breathing that requires you to focus on your breaths, encouraging you to focus your mind elsewhere. There are many apps that help people begin meditation, which may also help. If possible, try to take time to enjoy hobbies - something that may help your mind focus away from your anxieties.
Profile: Honey2017
Honey2017
September 17th, 2020 3:57am
Talking therapies can help you work out how to deal with negative thoughts and feelings and make positive changes. They can help people who are feeling distressed by difficult events in their lives as well as people with a mental health problem. The National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) recommends certain therapies for certain problems, but other therapies might work for you just as well.Understanding all this can help people make positive changes by thinking or acting differently. Talking therapies can help people to take greater control of their lives and improve their confidence.It can help you work out where your negative feelings and ideas come from and why they are there.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2020 2:11pm
the best answer should be getting you're self out of the room that you are going to the roof top stare at the moon explore you're thought ask oneself why am i being like this why have i become someone i do not wish to be.how will i able to change these habit of not being able to change the way i live my life. Writing thought making them article might not change or seem big thing to do but expressing feeling can be all that you need in the moment of stress that cause you to be stress.
Profile: MaisenValley
MaisenValley
October 22nd, 2020 12:59pm
I overcome anxiety by having a conversation with myself out loud, to bring calmness to my mind. After the initial conversation, I begin to ask myself “is this worth me getting this distraught?”, “is this making me happy in anyway?”. Normally the answer is no and I begin to use one of my favorite self care activities to bring me to an at ease state of mind. These activities range from a simple bubble bath or maybe even my favorite food which is tacos. I’m also a shopper, so normally a new outfit can get my spirits back up. But most importantly after all of that and mostly before I pray, but everyone is spiritual so speaking affirmations works the same.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2020 1:18pm
I can overcome my anxiety by taking deep breaths in and out and calming myself down and I can do some coloring and maybe some drawing to help myself not feel anymore anxiety.I can also help my anxiety by talking to someone who is close to me either my family or my friends or I can calm my self with sensory toys and squishy toys.I can also help my anxiety by doing puzzles and doing crafts and origami and also I can help my anxiety by watching some television or playing some video games. Also I can help my anxiety by reading a book or playing a board game or writing in my journal.