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How can I deal with separation anxiety?

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Last Updated: 08/27/2016 at 7:01am
How can I deal with separation anxiety?
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Profile: Wes2
Wes2
November 4th, 2014 8:47am
We live in a wonderful time! People in the 1800's would be out of luck. You have phone, text, Facebook, and Skype! But beyond that, take the separation as an opportunity to better define yourself and find outside interests. No one person should be solely defined by another person: partner, friend, or otherwise. Surround yourself with supportive peers and engaging hobbies, and make sure to live your life while the person you care so much about is away. If you can't, it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship to that person.
Profile: RalphBG
RalphBG
December 7th, 2014 10:09am
You can deal wit it by telling yourself that you're okay and tell yourself positive things. Focus on everything positive in your life. You could do some distractions, so he or she is off your mind for a while. Distractions can be music, reading, movies, socialising, anything you enjoy. I would also recommend meditation. That helps me a lot. :)
Profile: Blueangelz
Blueangelz
December 17th, 2014 1:04am
Do something that you enjoy to get your mind off whoever you're separated from. Whether it's listening to music or watching TV, anything will help.
Profile: HopeLeadsToTheLight
HopeLeadsToTheLight
December 24th, 2014 4:32pm
The first step to deal with anxiety is acceptance. Only after one has accepted the situation, they will be able to cope with it. The more one runs away from it, the harder it tries to catch up. After that one has accepted it, it becomes easy to indulge in hobbies that you like which further helps in keeping thoughts that cause anxiety away.
Profile: PerfectlyIncomplete
PerfectlyIncomplete
January 6th, 2015 6:41am
I deal with separation anxiety by placing my focus in the moment... where I'm at, my environment, what I'm doing.
Profile: Bcrystal818
Bcrystal818
May 2nd, 2015 3:43am
You can deal with separation anxiety by taking dry runs and practicing it before actually leaving that person.
Profile: Mimigloss
Mimigloss
June 30th, 2015 5:19am
Try to do things that occupy your time! Do other things you like to do (hobbies) and set a certain block of time for this person.
Profile: PeacefulSolutions
PeacefulSolutions
August 11th, 2015 2:59am
Finding other ways of communication such as talking to them on the phone, or sending them notes, or just talking to other friends can help.
Profile: Blaine62
Blaine62
January 26th, 2016 8:49pm
It would depend on the severity of the problem. It may require therapy or possibly just by having a conversation with the person that you are having difficulty separating from
Profile: HereToHelpYou742
HereToHelpYou742
May 25th, 2016 12:59am
well dont go cold turkey and stop seeing the person. Take it day by day. Maybe start off with 30 mins to and hour and gradually increase the time each day during the day. Then after about maybe after a week in a half move to nights and do the same process you did during the day
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 10:31am
Seperation anxiety is something you can work on through time. Find coping mechanisms and ways to stop these anxious feelings. Just remember that those who care about you will never leave forever.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2016 12:52pm
The real issue is spotting it. Separation anxiety at its extreme levels may be quite obvious. I was overwheled attached to a close relative to the point where I couldn't leave their side without experiencing a panic attack and i was suffering from separation anxiety. I was Excessively worried about losing these figures in my life. I had trouble sleeping. It felt like my quality of life was suffering dramatically. Finding help was very important to me , I hated these feelings.The first step was admitting that I had a problem, One step was going to my doctor and getting medication cause I knew I couldn't do it myself. I need the help !! I also found group support that we could discuss our problems with each other.I found I am getting better each day. It's not easy but it is getting easier.
Profile: colourfulmiragee
colourfulmiragee
April 20th, 2016 10:31am
Reframe your thoughts as positive. Don't think negatively. If your partner is going on a business trip or your children are going away for higher studies rather than thinking you're all alone you can plan a good reunion.
Profile: Anglesey
Anglesey
April 29th, 2016 12:46pm
Just find something to keep your mind busy. Love yourself. Let this person go, another one will appear in your life very soon.
Profile: peacefulIris56
peacefulIris56
April 30th, 2016 4:04pm
Look at the things that have happened or that are happening in your relationship that would counter those feelings. Think of the times that your spouse has been with you and the attempts they made to feel you secure with your relationship. Separation anxiety can be stemming from other anxieties, so it is good to take care of other anxieties as well. Also, there are therapists and doctors that can help treat it.
Profile: AlonebutNotLonely
AlonebutNotLonely
May 4th, 2016 12:42am
I attach myself to other objects. Most of the time, it works. Although many people get separation anxiety with a person, I usually get it with my phone. It calms me most of the time when I feel weird or insecure. So, when I am separated, I attach myself onto something meaningless (in most cases, it's a pencil.)
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 12:30pm
just keep your head up, think of the positives in your life and look forward to them. think of how you are going to see that person and how happy thhey will make you. just keep being positive
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:13pm
Take it one step at a time. Start small, and work your way up to being fully apart from them. I recommend starting with only a few minutes, and when the person, or place you are being separated from comes back, reward yourself. Exposure therapy usually helps with separation anxiety, I recommend that you look into it. :)
Profile: Link22
Link22
May 21st, 2016 7:10pm
Try carrying a picture of the person. Or talk to them on the phone. Make sure you don't think about them too much though. You can write to the person. You don't have to give the letters to them if you don't want to.