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Are my friends going to dislike me if I don't want to do what they want to do?

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Profile: dxphne
dxphne
March 26th, 2019 11:57am
Stand up for yourself. If you don't want to do something for your own reasons, you shouldn't feel bad because your friends do want to do it. Nobody is the same, you don't have to like or do the same things as your friends just because you want them to like you. If they're good friends they will understand. They can always do it with someone else or even alone for that matter, don't let anyone make you feel bad for having opinions and don't let people convince or even force you into something you really don't want to do. If they care, they'll understand and if they don''t, they shouldn't really matter.
Profile: ruedabega13
ruedabega13
April 17th, 2018 9:23pm
If they are real friends they shouldn't dislike you for wanting to do something different. That being said, friendship is about compromise. Sometimes do what they want and sometimes do what you want.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2018 5:55am
You're friend's aren't going to dislike you if you don't want to participate in activities you don't want to, they want you to be happy and have fun and if you don't have same interests of things you do than you'll understand it.
Profile: LoyalTea610
LoyalTea610
December 19th, 2017 8:31pm
A real friend will make compromises or will accept and respect your decision. It is okay to dislike things.
Profile: Duckswithmoose
Duckswithmoose
November 14th, 2017 3:32pm
Maybe, but certainly not forever. It's not going to ruin your relationship if you don't do what someone wants just 1 time. And if they are constantly asking you to do things you don't want to do, maybe they're not such a good friend
Profile: Kummerspecko
Kummerspecko
September 11th, 2017 5:31am
They might, and they may not. But if you think what they're saying isn't right, don't do it. Be yourself. That way, your friends will understand why you took decisions and will respect you.
Profile: mimo29
mimo29
May 2nd, 2017 10:58pm
I think we all feel pressured at some point to do things to feel more accepted, especially among new friends. If it's not a huge compromise, that's fine! Whether it turns out to be a pleasant or not-so-great experience, you can learn from it, and your friends should support you. But I don't think you should feel overly distressed about friends disliking you for not giving in to pressure to do something you don't want to do. Make sure they know how unwilling you are, and if they still pressure you, let them know they shouldn't.
Profile: TrannyNamedLuke
TrannyNamedLuke
February 20th, 2017 7:13am
Some people will dislike you. But they should not be your true friends! Your true friends will love you no matter what.
Profile: bbvvv
bbvvv
November 7th, 2016 12:56pm
It deeds. If they're your real friends than they shouldn't be offended by your decision. If they are your true friends they would understand you and would respect your decision.
Profile: HealingLotus
HealingLotus
June 15th, 2016 1:05am
Well it depends honestly. It depends if they are real and healthy friend. A real friend wont mind if you have different interests than them, a fake friend or someone who wants to use or control you, make want you to do things they want to do regardless of how you feel about it. It's important to choose people who respect your choices and emotions.
Profile: JustAnEmpath
JustAnEmpath
June 14th, 2016 6:03pm
If these are your true friends, they will understand your reasons behind not doing whatever they want to do. If this happens a lot, perhaps pursuing some new hobbies and developing friendships there might help. :)
Profile: iamia23
iamia23
June 6th, 2016 1:24am
If you are being true to yourself, your friends might like or dislike you. If they don't like you, they are not the group of friends you would love to hang out. True friends will respect you for your decisions. Just be authentic. :)
Profile: supportiveNutella52
supportiveNutella52
March 15th, 2016 12:31am
Well, no they won't, they probably will just be confused and misunderstood. Take me for example I like doing a lot of stuff differently from everyone, and yet no one dislikes me,they just are confused. But if they do dislike you for it, take my advice and realise they are not true friends at all.
Profile: ahannahi96
ahannahi96
February 16th, 2016 5:53pm
It depends on how good of a friend they are! A real friend will stand by your decisions, even if that means its different to what they want!