Three Things Exercise
Usually, people can articulate very well what they do not like but not so well when it comes to what they actually want. In this exercise, you will learn to articulate what you want in more concrete terms.
Example of vague description: I want my husband to help me out with the baby. I want my spouse to give me more attention. These wishes are difficult to turn into behavior as it is vague and needs to be concrete more. For example, it can be changed to: I want my husband to watch the baby on Saturday and Sunday afternoon so I can go to the gym; I want my wife to not ignore me when I come home from work, but acknowledge me by giving me a hug.
For this exercise, write down the three things (not more) you would most like your spouse to do more (then also indicate frequency) or to do differently. Your spouse can do the same. Try to make is as concrete as possible and frame it in positive terms (i.e. as a behavior that you want to be present instead of what you want to eliminate).