"I Statements" for Effective Communication

Mastering communication basics is vital for success in various life areas, including personal relationships, business, education, and social interactions. It enables us to confidently address issues and minimize conflicts.

One valuable communication skill is using "I Statements." These statements are important because they allow us to express our feelings, thoughts, and experiences clearly and without judgment. Instead of assigning blame or making assumptions, "I Statements" focus on our own emotions and observations.

The formula for "I Statements" is simple:

• Start with "I feel/felt" followed by an emotion word.
• Describe the specific behavior of the other person that triggered your emotion.
• Explain the reason behind your feelings without placing blame.

For example: "I felt hurt when you were late for dinner because spending that time together is important to me."

In the box below, practice using I Statements by rephrasing this statement using the formula. Reflect on how the new statement would make you feel, instead of accusations or blame:

"You never help with any chores."