Applying Concept of Solution Focused Therapy
Solution-focused therapy is a type of treatment that highlights a client's ability to solve problems, rather than focusing on why or how the problem was created and who is to blame. If spouses have been able to overcome certain challenges in the past, they are usually able to do so in the present. It might be necessary to update and change some solutions from the past, but the underlying principles will likely still hold true.
Taking a proactive approach can help you to get the desired results even when you feel you are not the one that needs to try more. You can ask yourself: In spite of this hurt, what are the sorts of things you’d like to see begin to happen? If that desire became a reality, what would you notice? These details can give you some clue about the small steps you can do that will make your desired outcome come true.
What is one small step you identified that can help you move in your desired direction?