Enjoy the following snippets from an expert growth path!

There are two types of mindsets:

• Fixed mindset - the mindset that keeps you in the same place in life.
• Growth mindset - assuming you can change and grow.

We aren’t going to get anywhere if we keep telling the same story repeatedly. We need another, more objective (yet still true) story. So recall the event again, but this time as an observer—not as yourself. Get more distance on the story.

 

If you were an exceptionally forgiving person, how might being such a person benefit you?

 

What did it feel like (or would have felt like) when you asked for forgiveness from the person you hurt and you received it? Were you humbled?

 

You can do something nice for the person who offended you (even though that person might not be in touch with you, might never find out, and might not even feel the gratitude that you felt when someone forgave you). Still, this is about you doing something nice, noble, and generous. It’s not about whether the other person ever appreciates it. Why should your good feelings depend on the other person’s reaction?

 

Experiencing negative emotions is like watching a television channel that makes you feel depressed, angry, afraid, or bitter. Although, it's not as easy as change television channel... you can change emotion channels.

• What negative emotional channels do you often watch?
• What positive emotional channels do you want to watch more of?
• Is there something stopping you from changing emotion channels? What is it?
• Can you commit to change channels and seek more positive experiences?
• Imagine yourself switching off negative, unforgiving emotions.
  

 

What Demonstrates You Got It?
 

Psychologists agree that you need repetition to solidify learning.

Psychologists say that one of the best ways to grasp a concept is to teach others.

 

Identify Your Forgiveness Heroes

Identify three people you think of as forgiveness heroes.

1. Describe someone in your life who you consider to be very forgiving. What makes them forgiving? How do you feel about this person?
2. Describe a historical person who you consider to be very forgiving. What makes that person forgiving?
3. Describe someone from the present who you consider to be very forgiving, whom you don’t know personally.
   

 

Emotional forgiveness can improve your own character.

 

Learn the Lessons of a Pencil

Imagine a pencil with an eraser. Learn the lessons the pencil has for your life. It has a short life, but it can make a significant mark, just like you.

It is not a pen. Its mistakes can be corrected with effort. But it often means standing the pencil on its head. Our world tells us that you should not seek power to succeed. Instead, seek love. Instead of revenge, seek to forgive. That is where the real power is!

Like you, what is inside of the pencil is the part that is responsible for making a mark. The pencil needs to be sharpened regularly, so don’t feel bad about the sharpening you must endure. Often, the hurts and wounds that feel painful can be your “sharpening”.

 

 

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