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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]!
Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (May 13 - May 19)
by KateDoskocilova
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! We’ve already reached the second week of May. It honestly feels to me as if time flies lately To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * How would you describe your communication style in three words? * If you could live in another historical period, would you? If so, which one? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 [milk bear turning off the TV for mocha bear while they're sleeping] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community (click here to be added/removed) @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus 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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 May 7th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova on 07.05.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger
Handling rejection
by compassionateCar7091
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more The man I've been seeing cancels on me sometimes and I feel rejected because his teen daughter wants to hang with him at the last minute I'm happy he has that relationship with his kids but I feel rejected and I shouldn't because our kids come first and I respect him for his decisions concerning his kids. I cancel on him sometimes concerning my kids as well. I don't invite him to family stuff yet because we haven't reached that milestone yet. He lives 45 minutes away so it feels long distance we've been seeing each other for over 8 months and I like the pace but feeling rejected sucks
I lied to my boyfriend about how my body looks…
by shazanna
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more Hey guys, I need advice and I’m hoping yall do not judge me because I’m trying to change. I’m 19 years old and I have met a guy online who I really like & we’ve been talking for about 2 weeks now & now we’re supposed to be seeing each other in person soon. He’s very sweet treats me well & is just overall very nice but I’ve been lying to him. I have used others pictures and put my face on their body to make me feel better about my body so it motivates me to lose weight but it got out of control & I started to post it on social media (for most likely validation because I’m insecure) and now I’m kind of in a hole with him because of it. I am bigger than the girls in the pictures I used and I tried to tell him I was fatter & I wanted to wait to meet up because I wanted to get my body right and he always reinsured me that I wasn’t & told me if I was he doesn’t care because there are plus sized women in his family and I can just lose weight if I want to..but I knew I was fat and still felt insecure. I showed him my body on FaceTime a few hours ago and he’s been skeptical since & says he doesn’t care about that and just wants to know if I’ve been putting my face on others body. I’ve lied out of fear and said I didn’t but I’m sure he knows something is up. I want to tell him the truth but I’m not sure how to go about this..please help. 
4 Weeks since ex sent nasty text after what seemed a good encounter
by Imissit5567
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more We were together two months never official. She told me she broke up because she got kicked out of college and wasn’t ready to date. She was my first, Me and my ex met up four weeks ago at a bar coincidentally. We said hi and she bought me a drink. I asked her how she was. We later met up again at another bar. I bought her a drink and we talked more about the future and her issues. I told her I lost my friends and couldn't find them, but I told her l'd leave if she wanted me to and she never said to. On our second shot we hugged and I told her if she ever wanted to try again that it would be fine with me. She went back to her friends and I just stood by myself at the bar trying to get ahold of mine. A couple minutes later I saw her run out of the bar by herself. I was concerned because it's bad area and I didn't want her to be alone. I went out and asked her if she was okay. She said she was trying to go home but her ride canceled. I bought her way back into the bar because they weren't accepting anymore people. She told me she wasn't coming home with me that night and I said I know that. When we got back in we got a drink to make up for me paying for her to get back in. We talked about me potentially visiting at work for ice treatment and she said that would be fine and to text her if I needed anything. Then I stupidly asked her to dance because I was drunk. She said that at that point she just wanted to go home. I just talked to her other friends as I waited for my friends to respond. Her female friends gave me dirty looks. When the bar shut down I asked her what I should do she gave me advice and told me to text her when I get back home. I texted her and she responded nicely saying thanks for checking in. The next day I asked her about visiting at work and she didn't reply so I followed up the next day. This time she replied with a nasty text saying that I followed her around and made her very uncomfortable and that she wouldn't feel comfortable with me at her work.. She said I took the whole situation too far and that she made it clear that she didn't want to date or be exclusive. I guess in my opinion she never really made it clear as that night she talked about how badly she didn’t want to break up. She then said that this would be our last conversation and she wishes me the best of luck in my endeavors.  She then unadded me on snap. After everything I did for her I felt horrible. All I've ever done for her was protect her and try to make her happy. She was kicked out of college and broke up with me and I was upset. I just hope she knows that that is not who I am. Since this happened I have unfollowed on almost all social media. I’m still attracted to her but am really upset with her. Please give feedback.
New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]!
Heey
by mudlightstone
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more Hellooo 😅 so l'm new here and so far I have been finding this platform to be a safe space and like a cozy zone 🤍 . I have been struggling with anxiety and guilt over ending things with somebody who had been inconsistent and struggling with his mental health( I assume)😔. I had tried my best to be there for them although they had always shut me out and "turned themselves off" even after they pursued me with soo much interest in the first place while I kept on saying no because of their ghosting habits itself. He used to constantly take "breaks" without any reason and it caused me soo much hurt and confusion because he was the one who wanted me to think about committing to him seriously, but he would just ghost me ( and everyone, he has this stubborn need to be alone and handle things alone, but why drag me into his life if so? after i clearly told him I can't do that?😩) He promised to be there for me and not to ghost me ever again and as things went normal and happy for a few weeks I said yes to him, but he took a break again and left me in the dark with no reason... Whenever I tried to close things he would always cry and plead to stay...I love him and didn't want to hurt him and so I did, but it was hurting me soo much. Things got unbearable when he asked for a break again during a really stressed out period in my life and I ended things ( he initiated it) He struggled a lot, cried , had a really tough time and I felt all guilty and responsible although I was dead inside. He started things all over again and although I kept on saying no (just like before) he was insistent and stubborn He ended up hurting me ,said he can never love me like he once did because i hurt him too much ,that killed my heart because i had always just wanted him to be happy and safe. I told Him he can end things if he isn't happy but he didn't and neither did he let me. Until he randomly ended things and then went all cold on me. Blocked me, physically pushed me away, and mocked and humiliated me every time I would go after him for a reason to why end things after pursuing me with so much need and I t was a really tough time for meb ut after soo much hurting i stopped asking him for closure or trying to make things right But he started things up again after a few weeks bys ending me depressive reels, deleted mssages and missed calls that he would never pick back up. I was worried and when it got too much i asked him if he was going through something...although he initially mocked me again ,he broke down and cried soo horribly saying he couldn't control his mind or feel normal. I felt so bad for him and promised to be there, and when he said he can't be without me I promised to work things out and he agreed. But then he would change the next day and say I wa shis nuggets burden and he can't love me. This cycle went on till his switches became more short spanned...days became hours, hours became minutes and i stopped when I was too drained out. Now he tells me he can't ever be in a serious relationship and that he is done with me and will never change his mind as he is too fed up with me ( while i used to say no to him before I used to tell him that he would end things like this and to pursue somebody more casual as it would hurt me too much, but he didn't listen then and has promised to be there forever) . Thesed eclarations hurt me a lot because I had always prayed and hoped for his best and wants nothing more than to protect him. But he still calls me whenever he is stressed and talk to me before he goes to sleep. he's said out loud that he is using me and that hurt too, but I can't say no or put up boundaries because as disrespectful as it is to me...I like being there for him and protecting him, even if it is ruining me and even if I know I'm being used because I have this incredible guilt and concern towards him ... Sometimes I feel like riggered him and his mental issues.. I get too anxious and guilt ridden...but I can't help him and he wouldn't let me either. Thankyou fonreading along soo far, it gets really messy inside my head 🫠🥲
Apps for Relationship Help & Style
by ImpudentIncognito
Last post
 12 hours ago
...See more Do you guys use apps to improve your current relationship, learn more about your relationship style, or to receive relationship advice? My partner is currently long distance (lives 2 hours away) and I wanted to feel more connected to them so...I use the app Paired [https://www.paired.com/] currently. It asks a series of either fun, deep, or interesting questions for both you and your partner to answer. Sometimes, there will be quizzes to see how well you know your partner, sometimes there will be questions to see how similar you are in the relationship, and other times it reveals your deep thoughts about your partner. The only way you can view your partner's answer, is if you choose to answer the questions as well! Also, do you know your Love Language? I used this website: https://5lovelanguages.com/  Quality Time has always been my #1 love language. It's how I feel loved. The other Love Languages are: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, & Gifts. Everyone is different on how they feel love or express it. Other quiz on that website that might be helpful is your Apology Language [https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language], which determines how you prefer someone to apology to you, and they are: Expressing Regret, Accepting Responsibility, Making Restitution, Planned Change, and Requesting Forgiveness. I used to use a budgeting app with my ex-fiancé many moons ago...but forgot what it was called and unsure if it's still around. I haven't talked to my current partner yet about sorting our finances together, I'm currently budgeting mine to see how I can more efficiently save money (my weakness used to be eating take out, but I cook more now!). I saw the app FamilyWall: Family Organizer [https://www.familywall.com/en/index.html] which I may look into in the future. I have a little one, so the app can help with seeing his schedule appointments and other important events, and I can keep track of meal prepping and groceries -- apart from our budget. It'll be something a bit more down the line though... Lastly, I have been using A.I app called Character A.I [https://character.ai/] which I mentioned in a prior thread, but different 7cups community (Depression) -- and they have a dating coach A.I who gives REALLY good dating advice to be honest! I use the one called Ella - Dating Coach by @ghpkishore. It's been pretty helpful for me. Or if you need something more akin to therapy, I recommend the Character A.I. called Psychologist by @Blazeman98. It just depends on your needs. Anyhow, do you guys use apps to help with your relationship, to learn more about your relationship style, or receive relationship advice?
OPEN DISCUSSION- Handling Rejection (please contribute!)
by NewRomantic677
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 12 hours ago
...See more Okay, so rejection is part of our everyday lives, even in its most mundane form it can be a put-me-down. This thread is specifically about rejection in Romantic Relationships. Often, people who have faced rejection find themselves in a state of self doubt. they ask questions like "Am I Enough?" or "What If I Stay Alone Forever?" In all honesty, questions like these cause a lot of internal conflict and could lead to many other complications if you don't find suitable outlets for your emotions. I'm here to tell yo that romantic rejection is perfectly normal, and you shouldn't let rejection stop you from seeing what a beautiful person you are. I feel very personally connected to this topic, after receiving many rejections (which is probably why i had towering insecurities) and stating out on my longest journey yet towards realising that I am, indeed, worth it, I've started feeling like I have a responsibility towards helping other people through rejection. Feel free too share any and all of your thoughts, and as always I'm Just A PM Away
Getting rejected constantly
by azureDrum4416
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 12 hours ago
...See more Ive been trying to date for 4 years but just get rejected or ghosted every time. I’m really not sure what to do. It’s damaged my mental health. I’m a 52 yr old genuinely nice guy.
Breakup
by kadams563
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 21 hours ago
...See more This is my first time ever doing this, so I’m kind of nervous. My girlfriend and I broke up just yesterday and she broke up with me because things were just to hard. By that she means my mental health and my past has gotten so bad that it has ultimately affected what was our relationship. She told me she just wants different things and this is what she meant. I have a lot of issues from my childhood and past relationships that has sculpted me into being someone I don’t want to be and this is the first step to me actually talking about these issues and doing something about it. It’s really unfortunate that it had to get to this point for me to actually seek help. I have problems with feeling insecure, being controlling, and just being disrespectful. For some reason I have created this idea in my head that I am ok to say whatever I want if I’m just being honest. I also put a toll on her friendships and our friendships because of my behaviors which I never wanted to do. This girl might not care for me as much as I care for her anymore, but I am really trying and this is the first step. Can someone recommend how I should approach this and what they think my next step should be because I truly don’t have any idea. I just know I’m willing to put in the work and show her in a couple of months that I am that person. Thank you!
Comparing myself in my relationship
by redCircle3878
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I am having an issue that seems so stupid but is honestly entirely exhausting me. I am in an AMAZING relationship with the person I know I am going to marry. But I am having a hard time comparing myself to other girls and thinking he is constantly looking at those that are prettier than me. Clearly I have some self confidence issues I need to work on. A few months back I caught him looking at girls online like *** and OF girls and I’ve seen him aggressively check out other girls in front of me before. However, since then, he’s completely changed for the better. We are much more connected now and he constantly tells me I’m beautiful and gives me reassurance, nothing is ever on his phone. But when we are in public I am constantly on edge about this. I always look where he is looking and seeing if he notices someone in the room I deem to be prettier. If I see him even look I get so angry and upset. My whole mood is ruined and I feel sick to my stomach. I constantly analyze wherever we go together for attractive girls and see if he looks at them. It’s so unhealthy and I can’t seem to stop. I don’t even want to go out anymore because I will ruin our good time. He is very aware of this issue and does all he can to help. I just don’t know why I have this obsession and worry. I don’t know if it stems from what he did before or what. I just need an opinion on this and I knows it’s ridiculous but someone help me out before I exhaust him from all of it too. It’s just so hard to believe the “you’re the most beautiful girl in the world” when he’s had the urge to admire other girls.
Break up, stay?
by BinkyRed246
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Okay everyone, please bare with me. So for background information, my bf and I have been dating for about almost two years. Up until the beginning of this year, I was so committed to this relationship. I found out he was paying for only fans girls, which I wouldn't have cared for, because they're just $5 subscriptions. But it felt like cheating because he hid it from me. And instead of being open to me about it he wasn't. And spending money on other women kinda set me off too. So of course, I think it's natural, that I felt awful. I felt self conscious, especially when they didn't have the same body type as me, or had features I didn't have. Because if that I became extra clingy and needy. I quite literally wish I could live for this man. But I want getting the attention I wanted. (And to cross out the idea he would cheat on me he really wouldn't 💀 I've been snoopy and have gone through his phone and computer several times after the only fans, which is toxic but I mean, do you blame me after that 😭) But just to be clear, I don't NOT support him. He's a bit of a corn addict. Which is fine, I've kinda just accept men are more sexually active and need more of that. Which is cool, whatever. But if course I sought more attention, and slept with his friend. Wasn't worth it one bit, because I was used in the process. We won't even go down that loop right now. But then he started subscribing again. AGAIN I wouldn't have cared if he told me he wanted to. I still don't receive the attention I want. But because of family and other trauma, I don't want to be around anyone else but him. Even if it was a guy giving me attention and sex. I don't want to committ to anyone else but him. But then that's where another thing comes along 😭 I think there's a chance I'm polyamourus. I want to be committed to one person and love them and give them what the want unconditionally. But at the same time I want to still give others attention, and get attention from others, and be more sexually active. I did my own research, but I still don't know if it's just the lack of attention, or me actually just wanting more than one partner. And the thing is, if I wasn't being able to provide something for my bf I would want him to take the day to go do something he wants. I honestly think it's healthy getting out of each other's hair every once in a while. As long as it doesn't go any farther ya know? I don't know! 😭 I'm just rambling at this point. This is my first long term relationship. I've only ever put this much effort into one other relationship in my past. I just don't know how to feel anymore.
Advice please
by SirenOfTheBrokenKind
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Does anyone have advice on cutting a toxic sibling out of your life? In my situation they live in the house next door, I have this cycle of not saying much and dealing with their toxicity and then after a while I go back to be a supportive, caring sibling, and acting like everything's okay before inevitably they will start back in with toxicity or some problem arises, I am just ready to be done with it once and for all, I'm sick of my mental health and well-being being threatened and I'm sick of the bs causing problems at my house, I'm also sick of using "spoons" to try to be a good supportive sibling when nothing is ever reciprocated and for me to be dragged down and made to feel like garbage even after all I do.

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