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Can't Take It Anymore!
by Patriot
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I can't take anymore of caretaking for my 90 year old mother. She's awful to care for. She's entitled, mean and always wants to fight me.  She's always complaining about being in pain, pick a body part and she'll tell you it hurts.  I'm really beginning to hate her. She has ruined my life! I used to be a happy person, looking forward to my next adventure, but I don't anymore.  People at work brag about how much they look forward to going to home or taking time off to relax. I have no idea what that is anymore. I haven't relaxed in 4 years. I haven't looked forward to anything in 4 years.   Happiness is a thing of the past and never to be experienced again.  Even when my mother dies, I won't be happy ever, ever again because my mother has killed my spirit. I will simply exist, no live anymore. She has ruined that for me and my husband.  I'm not sure why he even sticks around anymore because he's as miserable as I am. He has the freedom to leave but hasn't yet, but I'm sure it could happen in the future and who could blame him. He's been nothing but kind to my mother and she's just as mean to him as she is to me.  My mother has ruined my life.  
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Kids
by skyraven02
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Got one of the kids moving in the right direction for now. On to the next challenge. Has anyone done behavior therapy with a 5 year old? We are starting next month. 
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Healing family conflicts (3)
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more  quick tips : * ·        Take small steps to rebuild trust through acts of kindness. * ·        Understand each others perspectives. * ·        Encourage family members to work towards forgiving one other . * ·        Set realistic expectations and understand that healing may not happen overnight . * ·        Instead of dwelling on the past focus on the present and going forward . * ·        Emthyize with each other's feelings  and experiences . * ·        Engage in enjoyable activities as a family to create new happy memories . * ·        Encourage self-reflection, and be patient with the healing process .
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Update: dad and his wife
by elena01
Last post
 Saturday
...See more I wasn’t feeling very well because of a stomach ache and both my dad and his wife knew that. I looked clearly tired the whole day and was taking medicine and placing heating pads for some comfort. My dad usually leaves his phone turned on in case I needed anything. At night I vomited and was feeling really shaky and needed help so I texted him and his phone was switched off. A few moments later I hear them being physically intimate. Im upset that the one time I needed help from my dad, he wasn’t there. Do I have the right to be upset about this? Am I being too much? 
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Dad re-married, how to settle? Feel comfortable?
by elena01
Last post
 February 14th
...See more my dad loves his now wife. We live together with her kids as well (ages 3 and 9). To my dad, this is now home. He’s comfortable and has adapted to this new lifestyle. Me on the other hand feel the opposite. I feel like I’m living with strangers so it’s not easy to feel comfortable. I’ve only been living with them for 3 months which isn’t long at all but I don’t know anything about his wife. She’s been dedicating all her time to my dad so there wasn’t any chance to talk to her. All of our conversations are short. She wouldn’t really initiate any conversation with me or approach me first, I would have to do that. I would give her the benefit of the doubt thinking maybe she’s worried that I feel uncomfortable with her, they’re newly weds so of course she wants to spend all of her time with my dad etc but not feeling included as much makes me feel like they’re a “happy family” and I’m the odd one out. I’ve spoken to my dad about it but he says I’m doing this to myself and that I shouldn’t wait for an invitation to a conversation or a hang out and that in order for it to feel like home I should act like it is my home. What can I do? When will I feel comfortable? Does it take long?
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My dad is in the hospital
by raspberryNectarine769
Last post
 February 13th
...See more Please will someome talk to me. I feel so alone I have no friends and he is one of the only family I have left. Things are so bad right now. I domt want to get oit of bed or do anything but I have to work because I live on my own
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How a Difficult relationship with my mother
by energeticWest1129
Last post
 February 13th
...See more I used to think of my mom as a codependent, controlling, narcissistic women. But now I feel touched as I grow older and putting myself on her shoes instead of evilizing her and victimizing myself. I feel very ashamed by myself for not being able to get ahead in life and I often feel like a dead-weights, a burden towards my mom and the rest of my family.  Both of my parents are already retired age and I feel a strong sense of responsibility that it's time for me to get ahead in life.  The issue is sometimes I have so much resistance towards my parents and specifically my mom. 
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The problem of my life.
by Fatmaisasoup
Last post
 February 11th
...See more My family got divorced and I am two years and until now I can't forgive the person who was the reason for their marriage. But I don't have more words to say, but those who have gone through the same experience, I wish they would tell me what to do, because I don't know how to concentrate on any need of thinking, and I became very sensitive and cry easily from accumulations.
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Dad and his new wife making me uncomfortable
by elena01
Last post
 February 7th
...See more So my dad remarried and I moved in with him and his wife. She has two kids from her previous marriage (ages 3 and 9). My dads wife is nice and all but her only issue is the excessive physical / intimate needs. This makes her touch my dad a lot and sometimes inappropriately even when I'm there or in public. She keeps flaunting her love bites/hickies and doesn't evenly try to lower her voice when they are being intimate physically. our rooms are next to each other and hearing them makes me uncomfortable. I find it hard to live comfortably in a place that's suppose to be home. I stay in my room most of the time so that I don't see or hear anything and I find it unfair that I feel trapped just because of her actions l understand everyone has needs and all that but must it really be known when they're being intimate? I feel awkward, weird and grossed out.
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Solving Family Conflict (2)
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 February 6th
...See more  Emotion Regulation:By recognizing and naming your emotions when they arise, you can begin to regulate their presence and get back to your logical side.  Communication :  By using communication tools such as “I” statements and validating reflections, you can decrease the intensity of the conflict and identify a collaborative path to a solution De-Escalation  : Maintain a composed and respectful tone to foster a calm environment,respect personal space to prevent the escalation from intensifying. Avoid crossing your arms or making abrupt movements; instead, keep your body language neutral.  Concentrate on resolving the current issue   Solve Common Family Problems  be creative and collaborative in finding solutions to the cause of conflicts 
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Can i not be mad?
by lazy404
Last post
 February 5th
...See more I have a difficult relationship with my mom, but the most straining thing right now is that she keeps using me as her personal chauffeur. My mom kept pushing me to get my license , but when I was finally ready, I got it 3 years ago. she didn’t follow me to buy my first car, she even refused to join me on my first drive by myself going home with the car. (I was scared). After a week of practice, I took to the highway to go pick her up from work, after seeing that I was a little more comfortable with the highway, the endless requests to drive her around started. It’s like that to the point that it’s not even requests but expectations and commands. So now I’m either driving to school, work or driving her to work, driving to her errands, driving her to where she feels like going. Sometimes she makes me push my plans back just to drive her. I barely get to sleep in anymore.l because I have to wake up early, go pick her up from work then go straight to my work and after 9 hours of walking around a large building i have to go home and drive her to work. I’ve tried so many times to get her to get her license, but she failed once and just stopped trying. Now whenever I get mad at the situation, i end up feeling guilty because you know she’s my mom and she worked to take care of us as kids and also there are worse situations than me having to drive.
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Family conflicts (1)
by delightfulUnicorn38
Last post
 February 5th
...See more Definition Family conflict refers to active opposition between family members. Because of the nature of family relationships Causes Family conflicts can arise from a variety of sources, making them complex and sometimes difficult to resolve. These disagreements often stem from miscommunications, conflicting priorities, or external pressures that strain the family dynamic. Conflicts could be episodic, flaring up and then quickly resolving, or they could be chronic, lasting over longer periods and causing ongoing tension. * o   Financial Stress * o   Poor Communication * o   Parenting Styles * o   Behavioral Issues * o   Work-Life Balance * o    Personal Values and Beliefs

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