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elena01
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Update: dad and his wife
Family & Caregivers / by elena01
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 Saturday
...See more I wasn’t feeling very well because of a stomach ache and both my dad and his wife knew that. I looked clearly tired the whole day and was taking medicine and placing heating pads for some comfort. My dad usually leaves his phone turned on in case I needed anything. At night I vomited and was feeling really shaky and needed help so I texted him and his phone was switched off. A few moments later I hear them being physically intimate. Im upset that the one time I needed help from my dad, he wasn’t there. Do I have the right to be upset about this? Am I being too much? 
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Dad re-married, how to settle? Feel comfortable?
Family & Caregivers / by elena01
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 Friday
...See more my dad loves his now wife. We live together with her kids as well (ages 3 and 9). To my dad, this is now home. He’s comfortable and has adapted to this new lifestyle. Me on the other hand feel the opposite. I feel like I’m living with strangers so it’s not easy to feel comfortable. I’ve only been living with them for 3 months which isn’t long at all but I don’t know anything about his wife. She’s been dedicating all her time to my dad so there wasn’t any chance to talk to her. All of our conversations are short. She wouldn’t really initiate any conversation with me or approach me first, I would have to do that. I would give her the benefit of the doubt thinking maybe she’s worried that I feel uncomfortable with her, they’re newly weds so of course she wants to spend all of her time with my dad etc but not feeling included as much makes me feel like they’re a “happy family” and I’m the odd one out. I’ve spoken to my dad about it but he says I’m doing this to myself and that I shouldn’t wait for an invitation to a conversation or a hang out and that in order for it to feel like home I should act like it is my home. What can I do? When will I feel comfortable? Does it take long?
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Dad and his new wife making me uncomfortable
Family & Caregivers / by elena01
Last post
 February 7th
...See more So my dad remarried and I moved in with him and his wife. She has two kids from her previous marriage (ages 3 and 9). My dads wife is nice and all but her only issue is the excessive physical / intimate needs. This makes her touch my dad a lot and sometimes inappropriately even when I'm there or in public. She keeps flaunting her love bites/hickies and doesn't evenly try to lower her voice when they are being intimate physically. our rooms are next to each other and hearing them makes me uncomfortable. I find it hard to live comfortably in a place that's suppose to be home. I stay in my room most of the time so that I don't see or hear anything and I find it unfair that I feel trapped just because of her actions l understand everyone has needs and all that but must it really be known when they're being intimate? I feel awkward, weird and grossed out.
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